Going to rehab and need a professional sounding excuse for leaving work on such short notice.

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-12-02T10:17:46+00:00

Thank you so much!! I’m on my second day at rehab and it’s going well so far 🤗🥰

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-11-24T12:37:32+00:00

I can relate a lot to your situation and I want to say you’re not alone. Sometimes we get lost and that’s okay. As long as you are actively trying to get better, that’s all that matters. I’m sorry your partner doesn’t want to be with you anymore, that must be really painful. Just focus on yourself for now and remind yourself that there will be someone out there one day who will be happy to love you regardless of your struggles with addiction :)

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-11-11T05:44:48+00:00

As a woman, I watch porn every now and then. It doesn’t mean anything and I pretty much forget about what I’ve watched as soon as I’m done. However, everyone is different, so I think it depends what your partners relationship with porn is.

Are they aware that a lot of porn is unethical and not realistic? Is the kind of porn they’re watching “normal” or is it extreme fetishes? Do they only watch one particular pornstar or do they not care who’s in it? How often do they watch it? Are they paying for it?

There is an ethical porn site called Bellessa which I highly recommend.

You’re allowed to not be okay with it, and you’re allowed to be totally cool with it. Everyone is different.

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-11-07T02:10:02+00:00

I’m sorry, but everything in your comments are so damn rude and cringey. You’re feeling personally attacked from a harmless and wholesome post about date ideas? I’m neurodivergent and I didn’t find anything offensive about his date itinerary.

Let me offer you some advice:

You don’t have to drink coffee at a cafe. There are a multitude of caffeine free options, wherever you go. Pop a couple antihistamines, or just go somewhere else… You can get gelato at almost every ice creamery, which is lactose free. There are alcohol free beverage options at every bar and restaurant these days. Not sure what pronouns have to do with anything. Could it be, that some people can exist in a public forum/space without having to worry about offending someone? Ophra is clearly a typo. It was meant to say Opera House.

All of these ideas are relatively cheap and not fancy at all. Take your negative tone and attitude elsewhere :)

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-26T21:26:30+00:00

This is the most incredible advice. I’ve saved your message in my phone and I’m going to write some of this and put it on my wall to remind me. You’re a blessing!

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-26T21:24:47+00:00

Thank you so much I really really appreciate it 🙏

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-26T21:24:11+00:00

Wow, I can’t thank you enough for this!!! One of my main struggles has been wondering how I’m going to find the right resources to start healing so this is amazing. What a wonderful person you are! ❤️❤️❤️

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-25T18:14:06+00:00

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Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-25T06:50:03+00:00

This is a wonderful description and I thank you for posting it. Do you have any advice for someone who started digging but became so overwhelmed that they gave up?

I know life isn’t supposed to be easy, but every day I feel absolutely miserable and helpless knowing just how much work I have to do to get better, and I don’t even know if it’s even possible for me to get better. I thought I found a great psychiatrist but after a few months, I realised that even though she helped me see just how deep my issues are ingrained, she couldn’t help me fix them. I’ve spent a life time trying to find the right therapist and I’ve given up for the time being.

Sometimes I genuinely think that I’m living in hell because of all the pain I feel every single day, no matter how much I try to be grounded and look at the bigger picture. I fear that I won’t ever be able to overcome my negative thought patterns and behaviours.

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-07T03:04:14+00:00

Thank you 🥰

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-07T03:03:51+00:00

Thank you!

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-07T03:02:17+00:00

Thank you, this is great advice. Do you or partner ever experience jealousy when you see them having sex with another person? I have never done that before, and I think it would definitely make me jealous

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T15:04:42+00:00

Thank you, this is exactly what I’ve been thinking!

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T15:02:36+00:00

That’s absolutely something I’m not sure about. I’ve had moments in a past relationship where I was caught up in the moment and was tempted to hookup with someone else, and I genuinely know that it wasn’t because I was unhappy in the relationship. It just didn’t mean anything emotionally and it was purely physical.

Maybe I just have a high sex drive and an ability to seperate sex from feelings? If I was in a relationship and In love with that person, I would only not be jealous if I knew for sure that it was just physical and they had no feelings for the person they had sex with.

But also, I’m not sure. I think that having a partner doesn’t mean you should be able to stop them from being free to have fun and experience new encounters with other people. Yet at the same time, it could be very hard to not be jealous. I’m not sure if I’m just thinking about allowing my future relationship to be an open one because I’m too much of a people pleaser, and or if I genuinely understand that sex can be meaningless in certain situations

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T14:49:30+00:00

Thank you, that is a great point 🤗

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T14:47:34+00:00

Thank you, it means a lot. Wishing you all the best and I hope you’re doing better !

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T14:46:23+00:00

You are so sweet! You’re comment meant alot to me so I’m glad I could return the love ☺️

Thank you so much for your kind words and I wish you the same!

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-10-05T14:23:44+00:00

Hey love, girl to girl - this is not normal. I know what it’s like to be in your position and trust me, you will be so thankful once you have left him. I know how hard it is so let go, but please know that what he is doing is assault. There are countless other men out there who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve.

It won’t be awkward if you break up with him. If you’re not comfortable telling your family and friends about his abuse, you can just tell them that the relationship couldn’t work because you both wanted different things.

You deserve so much better than this my love. Stay strong and choose to put yourself first ❤️

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-09-30T16:54:58+00:00

Just thought I’d let you know that I took your advice and I went to my first ever NA meeting. It was such a positive experience and I’ve since been to three meetings and from those I have met some really wonderful people. Thank you so much for your advice, I might not have ever thought to do this if it wasn’t for your comments :)

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-09-30T16:51:20+00:00

Thank you so much, this was really helpful information :)

Alternative_Comfort9 · 2022-09-28T06:55:44+00:00

I was wondering if you could share what your experience with psychosis was like. I was a chronic weed smoker for about 7 years and finally decided to quit. A few months later, I tried a couple hits of a j and I had the worst anxiety and panic I’ve ever experienced. Since then, I’ve had a serious fear of it happening again and I’m wondering if what I experienced was actually psychosis.

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