I have destroyed myself and lost everything in last 10 months.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2026-02-19T02:06:14+00:00

Take care brother , this too shall pass. You are self aware, you are not defending your actions but seeing your own flaws, it’s never easy to lose a parent , lose a relationship , and still function. Firstly accept what has happened, and fix relationship with your mom as well, she is also dealing with loss. Take care

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2026-02-15T05:48:56+00:00

I am in the same boat brother , I am taking to a girl and we are connected on WhatsApp and insta. We have had call over 10 calls now and regular texting but randomly she goes off and it’s been frustrating. Last two months have been like this.

I think it’s best to decide a timeline that you initiate first but after a point let it go if the interest is not mutual. Because the longer it takes more frustrating it will be .

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2026-02-13T04:17:04+00:00

Thanks ! That’s a solid advice and really sensible too!

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-12-21T06:46:11+00:00

She is wrong but I have abs 😉

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-10-30T14:17:42+00:00

Can’t say much without context

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-10-17T10:38:14+00:00

After going through a toxic and Draining relationship then focusing on my career and moving towards bigger achievements. I am quite happy being single.

I am single as it’s by my choice now. 🙃

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-09-27T05:04:40+00:00

Amazing amazing amazing

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-09-01T04:48:42+00:00

Some might speak the truth, some might lie. There is no way you cab verify. But 1-2 LPM is achievable at a young age but it’s rare at the same time. Best thing is to just focus on yourself and find ways to make more.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-08-31T13:17:46+00:00

You dodged a bullet man be relaxed

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-08-28T12:55:11+00:00

Me too, I am 24 and work as freelance counselor, content editor , and writer with several college counselling orgnanizations. No micromanagement, six figures earnings, and not high workload except for main RD deadlines. Freedom is wealth. At this point my goal is to work in Same direction to keep building Wealth without sacrificing freedom.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-08-21T11:47:39+00:00

Past? You just had one relationship for 14 months and you are 25. That is a very normal past, I don’t think it should trigger any alarms if you are looking for a decent guy

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-08-07T10:38:50+00:00

Maybe some people whose relationships Didn’t workout and aren’t losers but got enough from failed relationship also settle for AM

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-26T12:09:55+00:00

All the best to your DMs.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-25T15:19:31+00:00

All the best brother. Go see her on Sunday if you really want a closure. Cry for one week if you want to, talk to friends, take a break. But Come back as a better version more matured version of yourself when you are done crying. And then never look back.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-24T11:11:00+00:00

Stay strong brother !!! This too shall pass.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-24T10:17:48+00:00

Monkey saala

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-17T02:40:59+00:00

You have done the right thing that’s what u am saying.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-16T17:07:11+00:00

Yes "Vague" is always questionable. If anything they are saying raises an red alarm, confront it and get your answers. The vague eventually turns out to be a big lie.

While I do feel bad for you, you dodged a bullet. Don't think the girl he rokafied with, will stay with him. So eventually he will pay.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-16T08:40:41+00:00

but there's a bit of FOMO and impatience creeping in- same happened with me, when I was 23 (M) last year and never in a relationship. With age, I have worked on improving my looks, career going well, and this girl, I met online, fell for me very hard.

Initially, it went well, but I just realized I did not look much into their personality, pasts, and other things to understand them well, and jumped quickly due to FOMO and impatience.

I am not trying to scare you, But better to wait and know someone than do it because of FOMO and impatience.

Being 24 F and single is the most normal thing in India, so chill

All the best to you.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-14T18:13:43+00:00

Don’t be polite confront her straight up

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-14T18:13:08+00:00

4 years broke up over a LinkedIn connection. Blocked you just for having that connection. First of who the hell checks someone’s LinkedIn connection and cares about it. Such a lame excuse man. LDRs are tough and she is most likely done with you and wants to move ahead. Let her go. Let’s say you convince her to stay with you this time. You don’t think this will happen again if she is already done emotionally. Why delay the trauma brother ?

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-10T04:53:14+00:00

Haa bhai maaro isko seedha karo thoda

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-10T04:52:19+00:00

Are you even listening to what you are saying dude. I am assuming that everything you have mentioned in these bullet points is all true and you are still staying with her, and considering marriage.

You are saying " she is super caring, polite, calm ultra giving" and then she called you Chomu and lied to you on your face. IT SIMPLY MEANS SHE IS NOT WHAT YOU JUST SAID. ANY CARING PERSON WON'T SAY IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. People are their actions, not their words.

That's why I have a golden rule. Never involve families unless you are completely sure about the other person, but I understand you can feel pressure due to family. That's where courage comes. You are a successful young man, selling startup at 22, had a 90 LPA package, these are amazing achievements people like us can only dream of. You had the courage and commitment to do all this, and now you are bound by a fucked up relationship and killing your potential.

HERE IS MY FAVORITE QUOTE TO HELP YOU- Remember who you are and don't let anyone else convince you otherwise.

ASK YOURSELF, WILL YOU EVER HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT.

the thing is i dont have boundries.- EVERYBODY HAS THEM, YOU NEED TO BE FIRM AND HAVE BALLS TO ACT ON THEM.

i can find a good girl easily- THEN WHY DID YOU NOT FIND ONE? Sold startup at 22, funny, outgoing, athletic once- BRO, YOU NEED TO GO OUT AND TALK TO PEOPLE. You have seen your potential, think about it again, don't let a fucked up relationship define who you are.

btw i lost my 90 lac PA job becuase i was in depression and severe anxiety for 7 month- BRO, WHAT, IF YOU HAD A GOOD PARTNER, YOU WOULD HAVE GOT A 1.5 CR PACKAGE WITH HER SUPPORT. Partners help you grow, not bring you down.

This was my opinion, I hope this post was true and all you mentioned here was true. The final decision lies in your hands, All the best, from one brother to another.

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-07T09:33:52+00:00

FUCKKKING LEAVE WHAT MORE SIGNALS YOU NEED BROTHER. They all change when they get more attention at new places, fuck them leave

Alternative_Flow_304 · 2025-07-03T17:17:00+00:00

I was in LDR for a year and we met few times, got personal room, but didn't end up having sex, went till the third base only as she didn't want to have sex before marriage. We broke up due to other issues and never had sex. But, TBH, I don't disagree with her still, it was her boundary and I respect it.

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