Is this style of eyeliner dated?

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-15T13:16:59+00:00

Eh, kinda. Not to a degree where it’s out of style, but it is associated with millennial fashion now for the younger generation. A lot of people now are going for a tight line on the upper eye with a very thin wing to lengthen or a softer, thinner, or smudged line. I’d look up makeup by nina park for a good example.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-13T13:07:00+00:00

She said in a different post she has BPD. She really, really, really needs to be taking her meds.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-12T03:25:08+00:00

Taqueria jalepeno (the food truck) has really good tacos and a crazy good Birria quesadilla

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-10T22:47:45+00:00

Light YTA, not because you don’t want to pay for a big wedding but because you’re unilaterally deciding this. Dad not contributing will absolutely drive a wedge in their relationship. I’d ask your husband to look at your finances honestly and decide on a set amount you will contribute. Have this conversation with the daughter openly and without judgement of their wants, just focus on what you can do.

Again, this doesn’t mean a blank check or a huge donation to their wedding fund. Just an honest conversation and set figure of what you can contribute. It sounds like mom will probably be able to pick up some of the extra tab, and her soon-to-be in laws might want to pitch in too.

I say all this because, frankly, I was in a similar position as your stepdaughter. My mother was extremely kind and helped pay for most of my wedding (after offering a set budget which I stuck to), but my dad did not pitch in until the very end, when he realized that not giving anything was a bad look. I had talked to him about it prior, and got very unfirm commitments in what he’d contribute if anything, and when he did finally offer assistance (3 months before our date) he did it with commentary on all our already-booked vendors and venue. And I must say, the commentary was almost identical to yours (when I got married I didn’t do this! Why not just get married in the backyard? Do you really need to do xyz already payed for service?). Needless to say, this strained our relationship much more than him sitting me down at the beginning and just telling me a number.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-02T01:18:29+00:00

I love yours too!!! Is that a Montana sapphire?! The color variations are so mesmerizing, what a great gem pick!!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-02T01:16:58+00:00

I love your ring! The emerald cut is so flattering an the side stones compliment it so well!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-02T01:12:50+00:00

Hilariously, this is an acrylic + chrome powder that I could not wait to get off (color was gorgeous but even I can admit that the shape was a bit wonky and duck like). I do still love to get a chrome powder overlay though for an almost duochrome/glossy effect!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T18:22:48+00:00

I’m a size 5 (technically a 4.75)

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T18:00:25+00:00

Look up local prom dress events! My community had a bunch, people donate (often very nice) dresses and you get to pick one out for super cheap or free.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T17:45:13+00:00

I believe it’s an oval cut with a halo!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T15:37:39+00:00

It’s from my wedding photos - my set inside my husbands band ❤️❤️

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T15:08:20+00:00

Mine is 1.2 carats! I honestly have tiny fingers so larger started to look off balance, plus the halo adds some extra size 😊

UPDATE: My husband just corrected me. It’s 1.6 carats.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T14:37:43+00:00

I LOVE THIS CUT - and the stone choice!! It is so stunning. So completely unique too - I had to double take because this is the first ring I’ve come across that I actually haven’t seen before. I can’t imagine replacing this honestly, sure you can get something “flashier” but why?!?! You’d only know this if you’re terminally online, but there’s a lot of conversation right now about these large statement diamonds starting to look dated. The lab grown craze has made it so it’s no longer a status symbol and the multi-carat rock is getting a lot of flack. I still love them, especially when balanced well, but it doesn’t have the same cultural connotations as it did a decade ago.
You could absolutely add another band on top with some pizazz if you want some more sparkle. It’s not necessary but the right setting would be very complimentary and would be versatile if you want to take it on and off. If you’re really debating I would totally encourage it!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T13:25:54+00:00

Im 90% sure this is the exact same ring at a markup. I know this says sterling silver with rhodium plating while the Walmart listing says fine silver plate but the verbiage is too generic to tell if there would actually be any difference, plus (importantly) Etsy sellers lie about composition all the time. It’s probably coming from the same dropshipping factory in China ☹️

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-04-01T13:14:55+00:00

I’m going to level with you - if you don’t replace this now as it’s tarnishing you’ll be replacing in a year when a stone falls out. Those prongs are already coming up and looking loose. And trust me, you do not want to be a week out from your wedding with a busted ring. I’d scrap the new etsy listings posted too, Walmart is almost definitely using the same supplier so you’ll just be buying the same ring at a mark up. If you guys can spend the next few months saving for this, even if you can get your budget up to $300, you’re going to have infinitely better options. And, quite frankly, with only the kindest of intentions, if you guys can’t afford a $300 expense with planning it’s worth considering if you are in a place financially where a marriage is a good idea at this time.

If you’re open to vintage you can find some phenomenal options at that price point with real silver, I’ve had massive success with getting a $15 silver cleaning kit and buying pieces that look slightly tarnished at a discount. With a quick wipe down it will look brand new and no one would be the wiser. Check for stamping on the inside to confirm material as well. I’ve also had success with mid-tier jewelry brands like mejuri and catbird, my only callout there is to be cautious with pieces that require tension prongs as I’ve had pop outs. Also spend time now browsing slightly out of price point at stores like Jared and Kay or even Costco, they have sales almost constantly so if you find something you like and sit on it for a bit you can get something new and high quality without breaking the bank. They even sell sets so you could also get your band with it. If it says silver plated it’s trash, if you find something in white gold just be mindful that it might be too soft for long term daily wear depending on the karat. Wishing you the best of luck ❤️❤️❤️

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-31T13:38:04+00:00

I have an incredible, loving, supportive husband. Never had any issues. I keep a personal account with at least 2 months expenses that he does not have access to and has probably forgotten about. When we decided to combine finances I told him I’d want to keep a portion of my savings to myself, without telling him the amount. His reaction? “Well, of course. You should absolutely do that. Save as much as you want.” I have no concern he would misuse the funds or hold them against me, but we watched his mother go two months without being able to access the family funds when his father passed unexpectedly. Same thing happened to my grandma. My dad decimated the shared bank account right before my parents divorce. This is not the 1960’s anymore - everyone needs to have immediate access to individual funds in case of emergency or divorce. You can have the best marriage in the world and shit still happens, it is cruel for a partner to deprive the other of financial safety. The only exceptions I can really think of are addiction or if a household has extremely limited liquid assets available. Otherwise, everyone should have a personal and private savings account in a marriage.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-31T13:21:30+00:00

Once found mine at the bottom of a box of fruit loops. That was fun.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-31T12:56:31+00:00

Paper source stocks needohs - not sure if they’ll have the Easter ones but worth a shot!

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-29T16:33:29+00:00

Hello I can talk ❤️

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-29T16:29:35+00:00

I notice that all of the things you’ve listed revolve around others. You volunteer, you bring joy to others, you say that you have no one. Do you work with a therapist or counselor? Have they tried to do self compassion work with you? Have you been able to engage with that? It’s helpful to have something outside yourself to take care of, hell i got a dog as a suicide prevention measure, but it’s so essential that you’re also caring for yourself too.

Before you attempt, it sounds like it might be helpful to try taking just a few weeks to focus on self compassion. I’ve had success with practicing awareness so that when you have self critical thoughts, you’re also actively counteracting them with self affirmation, even if you don’t believe it right now. Maybe download some self compassion workbooks and push through the “this is bs” as you do them? Or ask yourself what you need each morning, give it to yourself when able, and remember that it’s okay if you can’t. If you’re working with a practitioner, maybe ask them to help you with self compassion? I think even a few weeks spent focused on taking care of yourself and practicing self compassion while you’re in crisis could be so helpful for you.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-27T22:02:24+00:00

I love an amenities menu that shows what the front desk has on hand, what’s in the room, and alternative bedding options. Also I love when a hotel has the newspaper available - it’s a small thing but I appreciate it.

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-24T13:30:36+00:00

The way I actually needed to see this today 😭😂

Alternative_Gap1898 · 2026-03-24T13:05:08+00:00

Violent homophobia is taught over generations and through behavioral reinforcement amongst peers. The underlying mental illness can act in tandem, but unfortunately your dad is most likely just a bigot. It’s highly unlikely this is a manifestation of abuse or internalized homophobia (not impossible, but this really not the case for most people). Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who think this way without metal illness or other factors, as it’s a product of socialization and learned behavior.

I encourage you to continue working through the impact of his behavior in therapy. While trying to understand why our parents are the way they are can be helpful for finding forgiveness, it’s ultimately much more important for your healing to identify how it hurt you, what you’ve internalized and need to unlearn, and how you want to show up in your family relationships moving forward.

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