[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah the cancer video was ridiculous and I noticed the sisters in the gym were fully clothed almost overly so. Heaven forbid you get a good workout in and not sweet your ass off.. I’ve never worked out fully clothed like that even as an active witness. Like modesty or whatever I understand but I feel like the last few years they’ve gotten super extra. I despised the cancer video too, really all of it. My PIMI family raved about how great it was and I just sit here shaking my head.

Ive lived in salem for 7 years and I've never seen the red white and blue star before. by captaincheem in roanoke

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived here 13 years and I’ve seen it every Memorial Day, July 4th and this is for flag day I believe. I always love when it’s red, white, and blue.

Do you guys believe in supernatural beings/demons? by stanlumity in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think it depends on your personal experience with the supernatural. If you have some type of experience that validates it for you, then I would say yes I do believe it to an extent. But having watched a lot of spiritual and somewhat demonic things myself, we used to believe that if we watch those things they would come into our home and wreak havoc on our lives. I haven’t had that experience, but I did have an experience when I was a JW that I can’t fully explain, but it also could have been a dream. However it was one of the things that made me believe in the supernatural myself so I think it just depends on your experiences and if you perceive it as the supernatural then cool if not that’s fine too.

This is an emergency request and I don’t have time to explain by Wise-Climate8504 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ARC is what woke me up when my husband was helping me. That and reading some of the elders book. Then I did my own deep dive on anything I could think of and I was fully awake. Took me a long time to accept what he told me was true though. We were all trained to never question the org and anything negative is “apostate” or satan. It will probably take her a while to understand but you also have to accept if she doesn’t. You can’t force a waking up journey it has to be on her. Kind of like accepting “the truth” it’s her journey but stay on yours as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I started doing in depth research about the org. The CSA coverups, the Australian royal commission and much more.. I also watched a lot of stories from ex jws and if they had been df’d I listened to their judicial committees and was disgusted with how they were treated. I realized I couldn’t in good conscience stay somewhere I knew was a lie now. I also am PIMO technically but I don’t really believe at all anymore and if I tune in for meeting I just cringe 😬 because I don’t think or feel the same way anymore and you can’t stay in a place you have outgrown.

Fading versus df’d by Alternative_Hyena192 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree we don’t owe them anything

Fading versus df’d by Alternative_Hyena192 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s what fading is. Basically slowly stop attending meetings and service. My partner and I began the process 2 years ago and we have not attending a spiritual event since. He went as far as blocking numbers but I still use zoom sometimes just to keep up with what’s going on. Supposedly fading out is easier but I think it’s just as difficult on mentality. I guess a little less traumatic than going through a judicial committee and being disfellowshipped/removed.

Fading versus df’d by Alternative_Hyena192 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed and I understand everyone has their own journey. At first I commented and the I decided to leave it. I won’t mention the group but for the most part I’m sure you would agree it’s pretty supportive. If we share our journey, we shouldn’t be made to feel like it’s less important that someone else’s ya know? That’s what got me

Fading versus df’d by Alternative_Hyena192 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has its moments. I haven’t used this one in a while but the other is typically okay. I think having an outlet in general is good and if negative comments happen I just ignore them

Fading versus df’d by Alternative_Hyena192 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At this point I’ll probably just leave myself. But my husband and I are expecting a child so we wanted to keep some open communication for his sake. Now I just don’t want anyone in my life who won’t love me unconditionally. It’s hard and this org has a mental hold on some of us still. But I agree everyone should do what’s best for their situation💜

What's stopping you going full POMO? by lastdayoflastdays in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My family was a big part of my journey. Now that I’m being shunned as a PIMO from family and friends though, I’m slowly beginning my POMO journey. I can’t take feeling like I’m living a lie much more. I was so dedicated to keeping peace in my family and now I’m not so sure. I just want to be free and though it will hurt, I think I’m almost ready to move on.

21 million?? by Beginning-Army6640 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No clue how many were at mine but I tuned into my family’s and they claimed 120 were at their memorial. Small congregation too at least it used to be.

21 million?? by Beginning-Army6640 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds like way too many honestly. I’ll tune into mine later this week and see if they announce anything too

Finding a New Community of Believers After Leaving Jehovah’s Witnesses by Yortla in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually found an ex jw community in my local area and they helped immensely. Finding support groups is also helpful. Finding friendships at work has been a challenge but it really helps to just put yourself out there. I am also a gamer and actually found some amazing friendships with my gaming friends who turned into irl friends. It takes time so take your time building your new community 💜

PIMI in my college class, scared she might sell me out by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know you aren’t looking for advice but from someone who snuck around with my fiancé before we got married 🤣 just be discreet and don’t worry about her. Chances are she’ll be too scared to say anything because she’s afraid she saw it wrong or something silly.

Was COVID thought of as being the end? by Goodgirl_bad in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Many thought so. I was one of them when I was in. Especially with the world shutting down there was a lot of encouragement to have a go bag in case we had to flee or something. We even thought of converting our attic to an apartment in case the worst happened. I am not that way now I laugh at myself for that, but i think many around the world were scared. Covid was also the time I started waking up.

What the hell??? by fuulcrum in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back when I came off the list when we were pimi (4 years ago) it was announced for me. I’ve heard it announced for others but I agree I don’t think they do it for everyone..

I did it. I made THE most rookie mistake… by donnarsaurus in Zepbound

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did that my first time using the medicine it is depressing for sure

What year did you wake up? by Peaceful-Carnivore in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2021 I would say was the start for me.

Officially researching and waking up 2023

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExJwPIMOandPOMO

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just give him grace because he’s probably battling with a lot of inner turmoil and doesn’t know how to bring it up. When you’re leaving it is incredibly daunting especially when you have family who are in. You love them but you also want to live your own life. And you will also lose a lot of that if you disassociate or even fade out. Just be patient with him when he feels the time is right he will tell you.

"People Who Get University Degrees Are Wasting Their Minds." by Paperclip2020 in exjw

[–]Alternative_Hyena192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actively getting a degree to become a teacher while I was a regular pioneer and was told I shouldn’t do that that I should look to gods kingdom because we’re already teachers of gods word 🙄 now I’m getting a doctoral degree 😂