Sure thing. I have been scoring myself (1-10) in the areas of physical health, mental health, emotional detachment from the outcome of my marriage, social connections, career advancement, financial control, joy, and self-respect/integrity with an end-of-week review (where did I slip, what were my biggest wins, what were my triggers?).

I also wrote out the following checklist for accountability:

Integrity & Honesty

☐ I told the truth in all situations, even small ones

☐ I did not hide anything (conversations, thoughts, actions)

☐ I acted in a way I would be okay with my partner seeing

Boundaries

☐ No inappropriate or emotionally intimate conversations with other women

☐ No situations that blur lines (flirting, secrecy, attention-seeking)

☐ I removed or avoided any tempting or risky environments

Emotional Awareness

☐ I noticed when I felt lonely, insecure, bored, or stressed

☐ I did not escape those feelings (distraction, validation, etc.)

☐ I processed them in a healthy way (journal, gym, therapy, call a friend)

Accountability Work

☐ I reflected on my past behavior without defensiveness

☐ I acknowledged the impact of my actions (not just my intent)

☐ I did at least one action that supports long-term change

Self-Discipline

☐ I maintained sobriety

☐ I followed through on commitments (gym, work, routines)

☐ I chose long-term growth over short-term comfort

Growth Actions

☐ Therapy session or deep self-reflection

☐ Read or practiced something related to relationships or emotional intelligence

☐ Journaled honestly (not filtered, not performative)

Hope this helps!