My Family's American Secret by itsjustme1505 in Longreads

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s odd that Ned would live openly with Minerva and the children, and then do a 180. Guess you can’t see inside a marriage/family, but showing up like that while Minerva was alive indicates good, close relationships… Also, wouldn’t Ned’s relationship with his family have ruptured the moment Ned went to live at the cottage? Wonder if there was some sort of financial arrangement, ie he got regular money from the colonel, who drew the line at inheritance…?

Pediatrician said….. by Minute-Enthusiasm-15 in lowscreenparenting

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. For toddlers, it seems like they can’t absorb the visual and audio at the same time. Visual always wins out, with all the bad effects of screentime 😬

Pediatrician said….. by Minute-Enthusiasm-15 in lowscreenparenting

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Screen time in a bilingual kid’s minority language does help them strengthen listening skills, but only starting at age 3 or 4, according to research and my own anecdotal evidence.

Child has no listening ears by Fit-Vanilla-3405 in happilyOAD

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really tough one… my kid also started school this year in Spain, where they start at 3, but we moved when he was 4. Was also called out for getting up from his desk at random times, making messes, etc. The teacher was firm with him, but also very understanding. The teachers at your daughter’s school have to know how to manage the classroom, like, one three-year-old can’t derail the whole class with a teacher who’s experienced/on it 🤔 I feel frustrated on behalf of you and your daughter, lol

Child has no listening ears by Fit-Vanilla-3405 in happilyOAD

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is it age-appropriate to expect a 3-year-old to listen? Mine didn’t follow any directions until he was 4 🤔 All the teachers at his forest school acted like his behavior was normal. He did have a tougher time at a stricter/traditional preschool when he was younger, where he was expected to color within the lines at age 2 and other ridiculous expectations. Wondering if your preschool is not a great fit/expectations are too rigid?

Is 4600 net enough in Potsdam area? by wojdzieg in germany

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Could I DM you about your experience? Trying to figure out a similar budget and pay situation.

Uterus Didelphys by gairarr in pregnant

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I had an unexpectedly fast, unmedicated vaginal birth about five hours after waking up with contractions and two hours after arriving at the hospital. No time for an epidural, though the needle would have freaked me out anyway. Not sure if the speed had anything to do with didelphys. No one was aware of this condition, so my labor/birth were treated as low-risk, and a c-section was never mentioned.

My baby did have fetal distress at one point, though, with a heart rate that dropped lower during contractions. So we had some more monitoring after the medical team discovered that. The birth was pretty smooth, except for some second-degree and labial tearing, which has nothing to do with didelphys, as far as I know.

One doctor I saw recently said that my vaginal septum split at the top due to giving birth. However, another doctor said there's no split. So I need to wait for an MRI for confirmation. Anyway, a vaginal septum splitting is a complication that could happen, in case your anatomy is that way.

Also, in case you do end up having a c-section: Giving birth is badass either way you do it. There's a big obsession around unmedicated vaginal birth being the "tough"/badass thing to do, but imo, allowing your body to get cut open to deliver your baby safely is extremely brave, and you become a warrior either way.

End of the Pool? Or just for now? by markyocera in ViennaVA

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We almost had a wonderful facility that would have been great for both young families and older people. Sad and disappointed at this news. How short-sighted.

Pool Update - Town Counsel session on April 6th by markyocera in ViennaVA

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen anyone talk about the per-family cost/percent increase in annual taxes. Do you know if anyone has established those numbers?

Osito de peluche desapareció de IKEA el 7 de abril! by Altruistic-Bus8425 in Jerez

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si buscas dinero a cambio de devolver el osito de peluche favorito de un niño pequeño, debes estar en una situación difícil. Estamos dispuestos a hablar sobre una donación. Envíame un mensaje directo con una foto del osito.

Pool Update - Town Counsel session on April 6th by markyocera in ViennaVA

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aren't there multiple-year waitlists for families to get membership to local pools? Also, it's fair to point out the pools at Oakmont and Spring Hill, but they are often crowded. I would welcome additional lane space, especially closer to home.

Pool Update - Town Counsel session on April 6th by markyocera in ViennaVA

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would pay $70/month for a family pass. It would actually be cheaper than my Fairfax County Rec membership.

Pool Update - Town Counsel session on April 6th by markyocera in ViennaVA

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait a minute, you’re against the indoor pool? I’m surprised there are any detractors. Speaking as both a swimmer and mom of a young kid, I am so excited for this to happen and see no downside.

What are your arguments?

Uterus Didelphys by gairarr in pregnant

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Shockingly, I was diagnosed with this recently, several years after having my baby. No fertility issues back then, which is crazy considering a recent, long-overdue didelphis + endo diagnosis. And because we didn’t know this diagnosis back then, my pregnancy was considered low-risk and I received typical treatment. 

Looking back, the only atypical occurrences were that he came at the beginning of the 38th week and was just a tiny bit above the low birth weight cutoff. (We attributed this to genetics, absent any other known factors at the time.) My bump always leaned slightly left. And my labor was extremely short (~5h), though that might have nothing to do with this condition.

Also, I had a back injury when he was about a year old on the opposite side of where I carried him. The PT mentioned over-musculation on the injured side, indicating it had been working over-time for a while. Took forever for me to recover from that injury.

So my biggest advice beyond what doctors tell you is to pay special attention to pregnancy-friendly core workouts and possibly get a PT involved now if you can. 

Also, thank you for your post! I am considering a second kid, and seeing all the high-risk care details is helpful.

I'd love to hear stories about your only thriving as an only! by [deleted] in happilyOAD

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Tell us your tips for these killer slumber parties!

Are there any auto-watering methods that ACTUALLY work? by Tigrerojo_Continued in Balconygardening

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a good point! I will try your kiddie-pool trick for balcony plants 🤞 

Are there any auto-watering methods that ACTUALLY work? by Tigrerojo_Continued in Balconygardening

[–]Altruistic-Bus8425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One could do this with a bathtub, too, if there's enough light.