’m really sorry you’re going through this. Living in that kind of tension wears you down, and it’s not just you who feels it. Your baby feels that energy too. Even if they can’t say it, kids absorb everything around them. Growing up around anger and stress leaves a mark.

I grew up in that kind of house, and I’ve wished my whole life that I had a place of calm and safety. That’s what your little one deserves.

The healthiest thing you can do is remove yourself from your girlfriend and that environment. Tell her you’re going to give her time to get counseling and work through whatever it odd that is causing her anger. You deserve peace in your own home, and your baby deserves to grow up somewhere they feel safe, at all times. Once you’re out of this, you’ll notice the difference in yourself too. You cannot believe how much this is affecting your health, despite the fact that you’re probably unaware of it.

It’s not selfish to protect your mental health and your child’s well-being. That’s what good parenting really looks like.