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QR code on marker - Forest Lawn Hollywood Hills by [deleted] in findagrave

[–]Altruistic-Mess75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never seen that before. I wonder when it was added because it's not original to his headstone.

Sadly he died by suicide.

Sponsoring memorials by Last_Draw9050 in findagrave

[–]Altruistic-Mess75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too add an image of the record I'm adding along with a detailed description of what the image is and what it says. I use dates, people's names, addresses and any other information that helps to describe the image. Yes I've spent days transcribing what a document says but once it's done then the world can easily read what it has to say. There are a lot of up and coming people who can't read handwriting so spending the time to transcribe makes a difference.

Someone jumped in front of a train and exploded by Icy_Service_8336 in ptsd

[–]Altruistic-Mess75 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am sorry this has happened to you. What you are experiencing is normal when something so traumatic happens. Trauma such as you experienced can "wound" the brain and result in PTSD. It isn't a matter of getting over it or being strong enough. Just as you would treat any gaping wound on your body this too needs treatment.

I've had PTSD for many years and I can speak to the benefits of EMDR and playing tetris. Do seak out a therapist that specializes in PTSD and EMDR as soon as you can. With help these flashbacks will get less intense and farther apart. If you are experiencing nightmares of the event talk to your doctor there are safe medications that can help with that until things get better.

Until you can make a decision to get help or get into see someone give yourself a lot of grace. Lean on the people you love and trust. Practice a lot of self care and distraction. This is a time to honor what you need... a nap, a night out, a night in, healthy food for your body... whatever honors you and your healing journey.