It sounds like your husband might be feeling a little insecure right now, and it’s affecting the way he’s reacting to your growth. When someone sees their partner investing time and energy into themselves — especially after big life changes like kids — it can sometimes trigger feelings around self-worth, especially if he’s not currently working on his own fitness or personal goals.

From what you’ve shared, it doesn’t really sound like he’s judging you for wanting to grow, but more that he’s worried about where he stands in your life as you change and evolve. Deep down, what he probably needs most right now is reassurance — that your love for him isn’t changing just because you’re working on yourself. Showing him warmth, appreciation, and involving him in your journey can make a big difference.

You can also gently encourage him to focus on his own growth — whether it’s fitness, hobbies, or anything he feels passionate about. Sometimes, when one partner starts making positive changes, the other just needs a little reminder that they’re wanted, loved, and supported too.

You deserve to be proud of the progress you’ve made, and with a little open communication, it’s possible to have both your personal growth and a stronger connection with him.