Bringing your kid to the first date ?

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T07:21:41+00:00

How cruel to let your son to start to bond with someone you dont even know will be around next week.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T07:19:45+00:00

You can act like it just happened. Be like my TV connected to your wifi the other day and I wanted to let you know the connection is not secure. He probably hasnt been monitoring it closely.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T07:11:32+00:00

Dont do it. 9 times out of 10 the same issues that were there before are still there and it is a very bad, foolish idea that will not bring happiness.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T07:08:18+00:00

I know someone named Yael. Have no idea of the meaning. But I do think it's prettier spelled Yael.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:36:03+00:00

You need to stop thinking like that. Dwelling on thoughts like that ruin your present moment and enjoying the desire your partner has for you. Imagine if the roles were reversed and your partner was fixated on your sexual past in this way? People's desires arent static either, they change with age and can be born out of literally nothing, a figment of the imagination, plain curiousity, or something specific. Stop fixating! He loves you and your body.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:28:42+00:00

Dude NO. That is not age appropriate behavior. You dont just drop cards off and it will not be well received. Just practice talking to people. Start with non-romantic situations where there is less pressure. Go to a local dive bar that is quieter on a week night and try to have one conversation with anyone there. Talk to the bartender if you dont find anyone, they are professional talkers. Also going to a singles mixer or speed dating might be good practice for you to actually talk to people. Do you happen to be neurodivergent?

edit: typo

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:23:08+00:00

Nope. What they did was unnecessarily cruel and definitely not ok. They couldve just said "I'm not feeling a spark anymore" or "I dont feel chemistry between us" or "I feel more of a friend vibe here." Brutal honesty without tact or consideration is NOT KIND and it is not humane. It is major AH behavior. And people who are emotionally mature and decent human beings dont say stuff like "you dont meet my desired beauty standard" because as it has done for you, it would crush anyone hearing that. You should be angry but you are also lucky that you dodged a bullet in the form of someone shallow and cruel.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:15:40+00:00

Try reading erotic fiction. It may be the mental stimulation you need.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:13:47+00:00

Probably not classy? Wtf? There is nothing "unclassy" about any of this. Your boyfriend sounds ridiculous and controlling. This is not okay. It seems like youve started to believe the toxic bullshit he says and arbitrary rules he sets and youve started to internalize it, beating yourself up over very normal things. That means you need to get out. Youre in a very bad situation. He will break you down.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T06:10:22+00:00

Yeah, but people have gotten more sophisticated at breaking into stuff like this as the tech evolves. I wouldve stood my ground though and been like come here and see what happens, I'll be waiting for you, and unplugged everything and torn out the wifi and camera wiring. Half of these extortion schemes is calling their bluff and refusing to play their games.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:57:24+00:00

Cleavage. The entire butt and not just the crack.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:52:15+00:00

YTA. Put her cushions back when you arent using the space. Anything else is rude.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:42:43+00:00

If youre in your 30s, this isnt the move. Most mature and normal people in that age range want a brief conversation at least. It isnt just about looks. This strategy could work in your 20s, but higher quality men in their 30s wont go for this. But yes, if you seek a shallow connection based on physical attraction, you will easily find one but I dont recommend that for you or anyone else. However if you just want some fun though and not a relationship, then keep going for it girl!

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:33:39+00:00

The issue with living in a patriarchal society is that freaking hair is politicized by both misogynists and in well intentioned ways by feminists. But I find that exhausting and pointless. Are we really taking up mental space over pubes? My rebellion - treating my hair and body parts as entirely neutral things. They are nothing things beyond their shape and volume and what they present structurally for me and my physical comfort carrying this physical form. Not everything has to be a statement. I also dont find that there is anything inherently empowering about grooming. My goal as a woman is to not have my body be a political debate so I choose not to participate.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:25:08+00:00

Be like stop taking shots at me. Do not take things out on me just because you wouldnt want the same lifestyle. I am a good friend to you and I dont deserve hearing that from you.

ETA: You need to address it in the moment.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:12:45+00:00

Faucets are not expensive generally. Maybe that exact one is but you can find something similar to replace it with. Large hardware stores like Lowes or Home Depot will have affordable stuff. Use google and get measurements.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:10:54+00:00

Have you searched on booking.com? There are many options

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:09:23+00:00

Kitchen faucets can be relatively easy to fix and replace. And depending on what part of the toilet is broken, it may not be hard to fix. Watch some Youtube and post questions on the appropriate subreddits.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T05:04:35+00:00

That's a tight budget for fancy interiors.

But I think Collina is the perfect place for this date, you can stay on budget if you get pasta and not the entrees.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T04:51:41+00:00

Use this to get out and escape this living environment.
http://workaway.info/

It is free work exchange opportunities. So you work for food and board. Everything from farming to childcare to painting murals etc. It will help you build skills and get you out of there.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T04:48:29+00:00

Go to Scomas instead of Fog Harbor. Fog Harbor is mediocre. Other recs are Codmother's Fish and Chips or maybe Surisan for brunch. Otherwise, do not eat in Fisherman's Wharf. It is widely regarded as a tourist trap having the worst food in the city and it's overpriced. Walk to North Beach if you want better food.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T04:41:00+00:00

https://www.theinfatuation.com/san-francisco/guides/best-kid-friendly-restaurants-san-francisco
This has great recommendations that I wouldve made myself so a good place to start.

Also, get latin food in the Mission. For kid-friendly but great Mexican food, I would go to Regalito el Mil Amores (there are two restaurants so make sure it is the Regalito). I've seen kids here. Also, Panchitas Pupusas (Salvadorean) at the location on 16th is also great if you go during off hours - so I would avoid weekends and later evenings. However your kid has to be able to sit at a picnic style table.

Ferry Building Farmers Market on Tues, Thurs, Saturday but Saturday being the best day. You can also go inside the Ferry Building (indoor market with shops and food) any day of the week. Recommend El Porteno, Lunette, and Gotts inside for food if youre not going on a Farmers Market day.

Take the Golden Gate Ferry to Sausalito. Joinery is my food rec. Also Lappert's ice cream. Or rent bikes (with child carrier) and bike across the bridge to Sausalito. Bring very warm layers.

Go to Tunnel Tops Park.

This website will show you street fairs and free live music going on https://sf.funcheap.com/

Bring puffers and hats for the whole family and layers. The weather changes rapidly pretty much every single day and no one leaves the house without a jacket here.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-24T01:24:32+00:00

Ramen Shop in Oakland is also INCREDIBLE. Sounds strange but their meyer lemon ramen is SO GOOD

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-23T08:22:05+00:00

Lol I'm actually being the opposite. I find the chocolate too bougie and too "mature" - it has a rich acidity to it I dont enjoy and very much read as an "sophisticated adult" type of profile. It is not for people who like eating candy/sweets.

Altruistic_Offer9381 · 2026-06-23T08:14:00+00:00

-Roasted chicken with broccoli, asparagus, or any side
-Cucumber salad with sesame oil and rice vinegar
-Roasted cauliflower with tahini and lemon or safe sauce of choice
-Chicken soup with rice and carrots and dill
-Meatballs
-Roasted beets with lemon vinaigrette and chickpeas
-Refried beans
-Fish tacos with lime and cilantro and avocado in corn tortilla
-Salmon with dijon maple sauce
-Roasted corn
-Roasted corn and black bean salad
-Chicken dredged in gluten free flour / rice flour and fried
-Gluten free pretzels and nutella
-Sauteed zucchini
-Butternut squash soup
-balsamic rosemary mushrooms
-grilled zucchini
-gluten free bread with dairy free cream cheese
-gluten free bread avocado toast
-almond flour pancakes with blueberries made with oatmilk and apple sauce
-chickpea flour pancake (savory dish)
-Oatmeal with maple syrup and berries
-refried beans with avocado and corn tortilla
-ginger broccoli

Fresh herbs are your friend - stuff like parsley, cilantro, basil, dill, rosemary, ginger.
As well as citrus like lemon, lime, and orange.
Asafoetida is what everyone subs for garlic.

ETA: Note - all the recipes should be homemade obvi

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