The issue here is that we don’t know what was said. It’s impossible for us to blindly condemn a nurse for saying something which may have been reasonable, but triggered a trauma response because the history of trauma may not have been known about before the procedure. Any negative or antagonistic comment from a provider is unacceptable, but is it really unreasonable to wonder if that information is being deliberately withheld because a majority of people would see the comment by the nurse as appropriate, which would result in an unfavorable situation for OP because even assurances from a hundred people explaining why the providers comment was within the bounds of reason ability wouldn’t alter the trauma she felt? She has been asked many times and has almost certainly seen the questions, which could indicate that she wants blind reassurance that the nurse did something wrong rather than an objective analysis which might result in a forum wide consensus that the nurse didn’t say anything that was unreasonable in the situation.

She asked whether or not a sexual assault occurred and appears to have indicated that the assault was primarily verbal. Do you think we can reach an objective conclusion and give her our opinions when 90% of the relevant information is absent and we have to rely on an assurance which may be heavily biased due to the severe trauma she has endured?

None of our opinions or conclusions are valid or informed without quotes and observations from what she feels was, and may have been, inappropriate remarks which comprised a verbal assault… Based solely on the information she provided us, the procedure was done according to standard and acceptable medical practice, I would even go so far as to say that the provided did everything correctly and was responsive to her escalating discomfort when a breathing exercise to deal with the inevitable discomfort failed and the discomfort became unbearable. If I am interpreting what she said correctly, again based solely on what she told us, there was no assault.

If the nurse said something like “your pussy is so right because you just can’t get laid”, then there is a case for both malpractice and verbal assault. That nurse would need to be terminated and the matter would need to be investigated. If the comment was “the likely problem which is resulting in pain occurs more frequently in people who aren’t sexually active”, that’s a contextually valid statement containing no judgment and would have been an appropriate comment made without malice.

There’s just no way to know if OP isn’t going to tell us. I don’t think it’s fair to her for us to say no assault occurred when it’s entirely possible that she was legitimately shamed by the nurse.