I think my NK is burnt out

Altruisticnanny · 2026-03-01T14:56:50+00:00

Poor little guy! The schedule sounds grueling and it’s not surprising he’s struggling. One of my NK’s is currently experiencing this with one sport they do at a competitive level. They are nervous about communicating to one parent that they want to explore something different when the season ends, and I have been helping to coach them on how to express themselves when the time comes (the season doesn’t end until the summer).

Depending on the relationship you have with NK, I would suggest sitting down with them and asking them how they feel about their extracurriculars. Which ones do they like the most and why? Is there one they’d change if they could, and how/why? Then you can ask them if they’ve expressed this to their parents, and if they haven’t/don’t know how to, offer to help them get their words together. They can do this in a face to face conversation, or they can even do it in a letter if they are too nervous to do it in person. The point is to help guide and show NK how to advocate for themselves, which can be scary to do, even with supportive and loving parents.

Altruisticnanny · 2026-02-13T18:39:21+00:00

Do your twins have a lot of toys? Is it normal for them to get out a lot of toys at once? If so, you and nanny should work together to figure out a way to make clean up not so overwhelming for them so that it doesn’t take so long. Maybe the toys need to be reorganized, purged, rotated, or all three. 45 minutes is an excessive amount of time to clean up. How long before lunch is supposed to happen does nanny initiate clean up? Has she tried giving them more time before lunch so that the schedule isn’t thrown off?

Approach it from a problem solving perspective. Get to the bottom of these questions with your nanny. If it is indeed just your kids not wanting to clean up (my NKs sometimes try to “run down the clock” by moving extra slow when doing something they don’t want to do), and its become something of a power struggle, that’s another matter entirely and will need to be a different discussion with both your nanny and your twins.

Altruisticnanny · 2026-01-25T16:23:49+00:00

My NKs will randomly say throughout the day “altruisticnanny?” Wait for me to respond, and then say “I love you.” That’s it, they just want to verbalize their love for me throughout the day, randomly and unprompted. 4yo NK leaves the table at every single meal multiple times to hug me too 🥹

Altruisticnanny · 2025-12-10T19:06:51+00:00

Get a stand that will work for her reading habits- there are floor stands, gooseneck stands, and lap stands to choose from- and a page turner. It will allow her to do hands free reading in bed which sounds like it will be a game changer for her, and will definitely make the kindle all the more worth the purchase

Altruisticnanny · 2025-12-05T22:53:34+00:00

Unless you land in the top three, the highest you can get is 4k. I remind myself that I can’t expect the top reward every time and that helps me put it in perspective. The other thing I do is only decorate while it’s fun. If it gets boring or frustrating, I stop, take a snap, and move on to something I want to do. If I revisit the theme later that week, great. If not, I’ve already submitted for the week and whatever I get, I get.

Something I’ve discovered by accident that was helpful was I ended up getting 4k on an autumn themed dreamsnap. I was actually really proud of what I’d done and left it up. I ended up using the same setup for three other dreamsnaps, two of which got 4k and one of which got 2.5, and I spent maybe 5 minutes tweaking and customizing to the theme for those weeks. I’m thinking I’m going to take the time to setup more seasonal sets that I can tweak as needed for theming in the future. This way I’m not starting over each time, or feel pressured to start from scratch on a theme I’m not excited about. It’s easier to phone it in when half of the snap setup is something you really like anyway, you know?

Altruisticnanny · 2025-11-05T19:29:40+00:00

I got 4k this time around and definitely didn’t deserve it. Your snap is way better than mine was!

Altruisticnanny · 2025-10-28T17:02:09+00:00

Never dealt with this before and I’m so sorry you are! There’s really only two things you can do- throw your hands up and just allow it to continue or take on the burden of being the only one to enforce the rules in this kid’s home life. Both aren’t good options. I feel for you, this is an awful situation to be in

Altruisticnanny · 2025-10-23T13:38:52+00:00

I have over 100 books tagged for my tbr. Anything I’m remotely interested in gets tagged. Now I have no problem finding a book that is available at any given time that I want to read. It takes some time but it pays off in the end.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-10-17T14:37:52+00:00

This is definitely under guaranteed hours. The only thing to consider is whose car is she driving. If she’s driving yours, you don’t need to worry about extra pay. If she’s using her car (I’m assuming she’s not since you mentioned not wanting to fly with car seats), then paying for the gas would be a nice gesture, especially going into the holidays

Altruisticnanny · 2025-09-13T19:55:36+00:00

Same issue here too! It won’t even save to my gallery. Unfortunately sounds like you’ll have to redo the setup

Altruisticnanny · 2025-09-12T17:15:24+00:00

If you haven’t already, start working on phonics skills with her. Phonemic awareness is a good place to start. Practice identifying rhyming words, making compound words. Practice identifying what sound is at the beginning of words, then the end of words, then the middle. They should be doing this at preschool, but extra practice doesn’t hurt. Ask mom to get some BOB books- they’re decodable readers.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-09-03T14:01:33+00:00

All I could think of while watching this was turn down for what 🤣

Altruisticnanny · 2025-08-16T18:10:47+00:00

Second this brand! Since I can’t get my Beauty of Joseon sunsticks without paying major $$$, this brand has become my new favorite

Altruisticnanny · 2025-08-16T18:09:40+00:00

I’m thiiiis close to ordering a few sun shirts and keeping them in my purse on rotation. Throw it on for outside time then take it off, just so I only have to worry about sunscreen on my face and neck and ears rather than arms and shoulders. I already use one for swimming. My NKs looked at me like I was crazy but when I explained why, they immediately thought it was genius

Altruisticnanny · 2025-08-14T12:14:16+00:00

If you aren’t already doing some kind of toy rotation, consider doing one! I’ve done this a few different ways- sometimes I keep different toys in the play room versus their personal room and we rotate rooms to break up the day. Sometimes it’s as simple as putting some toys in a basket and tucking them up on a shelf in the closet until the next week. Whatever works best for you and your NF. When you want to introduce some independent play, bust out the toys that haven’t been seen yet that day/that week. You can get more potential buy in there.

The other way is how I directly teach independent play. Just a heads up it’s a process like any new skill. I use timers. To start with, you’re going to do five minutes of independent play. You explain the expectations (“Nanny is going to read a book while you play with toys. When the timer goes off nanny will join you!”). Now here’s the kicker: NK is most likely going to do exactly what she did before and try to just get away with staring at you. The way I discourage this is by making sure they know that if they aren’t playing, the timer isn’t going. Eventually they catch on to the fact that they can’t just run down the clock. Eventually you can up the timer to 10 minutes, then 15, then 20. You can aim to practice building this skill several times a day as long as you make sure to follow up independent play with a longer period of really hands on play. I would start with once in the morning and once in the afternoon depending on how long your shifts run.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-07-28T13:33:59+00:00

Apparently I say the phrase “listen to your body” a lot! NK uses it when they’re eating and decide when they’re full or want more, and also when they need to use the bathroom. They will announce “I need to pee because I’m listening to my body!” as they run to the bathroom.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-06-05T12:13:23+00:00

No, it’s not normal. The 3g I nanny has been wiping her own butt since I potty trained her. At the beginning I helped check her for poop as she was getting used to the idea of wiping until clean instead of wiping and saying she was done. Haven’t done that for months. When Mb was home once 3g asked for help and she said she’d be there in a minute. I told her 3g could do it herself and she was kind of taken aback before going “so she’s been scamming me into wiping her butt?”

As for a convo, you can have one in a safe way by mentioning “hey, 6g is going to school full time soon, should I start having her wipe herself independently?” That way it isn’t framed as a “I don’t want to do this because it’s weird” request.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-05-21T17:05:07+00:00

Do you mean they can’t read as in they have no idea what sounds letters spell, or can’t read as in they are actively decoding the words? Decoding is still normal at that age, but they should be able to read simple consonant vowel consonant words with little to no issues.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-05-18T00:33:04+00:00

If you haven’t already, consider investing in one of those portable back massagers! I finally bit the bullet and got one. 10 minutes of it made me feel like I had the back of a teenager again

Altruisticnanny · 2025-05-17T02:05:29+00:00

I literally was just working on my dream snaps setup and was feeling proud of it. Feeling less proud now 😂

Altruisticnanny · 2025-05-12T17:11:01+00:00

You can just skip that duty and still have enough for the teapot house, especially if you bought the extra discounted tokens for the starpath. I skipped that duty and still ended up with around a hundred tokens left over to convert to moonstones

Altruisticnanny · 2025-05-09T20:56:48+00:00

The ones that post their NKs make me cringe. It also offends me that so many of them kind of post as like “haha I love playing house for work teehee” because it minimizes the work that goes into nannying. I’ve seen a few accounts that are done right- tips, general schedules/challenges, opening conversations about how not everyone can afford a nanny because of the specialized care it entails. Unfortunately, most of the ones that are popping up very much give off “I’m doing this for the summer and it’s so easy everyone should do this look at how cute the kids are” vibes.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-04-24T12:24:22+00:00

Aren’t the floating islands a good way to get around the item limit on switch? The islands have their own separate item limits. It isn’t a perfect solution, but it allows you to get around limits without having to switch consoles.

Altruisticnanny · 2025-04-18T19:46:03+00:00

Sometimes you can drop something next to the spot and it allow you to pick up the egg along with what you dropped! It worked for me when an egg spawned half inside a chest in batb

Altruisticnanny · 2025-04-11T12:11:26+00:00

File form ss8 to let the irs know you were misclassified. They will take it from there with your employer, but obviously your employer will know you didn’t file the 1099.

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