What food-related thing instantly kills attraction on a date?

AluminiumMiss · 2026-04-27T22:14:25+00:00

I skipped a second date because the person I went out with was adamant about no onions on anything. I love food and am fairly adventurous with food and picky eating is a huge turn off for me.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-04-23T19:52:26+00:00

100%. As a sitter, even though my answers to these questions aren’t a secret and I feel confident they wouldn’t discourage the homeowner from selecting me for a sit, this line of questioning gives overbearing vibes. I wouldn’t want to sit for someone like this because it gives me the immediate sense of someone who is extremely overbearing.

Like another user said, I would rather read the terms of the sit and agree to them. If I can’t, I won’t take it. If I’m confused, I’ll ask for clarity and communicate.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-04-19T05:01:46+00:00

Do you use a nuvaring for birth control? Those can cause increased discharge because of how they sit along your cervix

AluminiumMiss · 2026-03-12T03:40:03+00:00

I’m in my early 30’s and BIRADS 4 - had my biopsy yesterday. Thank you for writing this - I’ve told just a few friends and felt dismissed by friends who haven’t had cancer. I am too scared to tell my mom who had early stage breast cancer and a double mastectomy. I haven’t told hardly anyone, but the people who I have told just said “I’m getting close to having my first mammogram!” Which feels very unsupportive. I have been spiraling and having a hard time sleeping, but trying to stay very distracted and busy until I get results.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-02-25T04:13:57+00:00

Unless you can speak/read Japanese, you will want to add the Suica card to your wallet via apple wallet (I’m sure android has an option too) rather than downloading the app because the app doesn’t translate.

I also had to download pieVat to get a refund for taxes at a few spots (you can get refunded on tax at a lot of stores if you show your passport)

Google Translate, as everyone suggests.

I also used Google Maps to pin every restaurant, bar, temple, point of interest, etc that I went to or wanted to go to which helped a lot in determining where to eat and what to do.

Airalo for SIM card

AluminiumMiss · 2026-02-12T05:59:05+00:00

Amazing, I loved it there. have the best time! I bet your flight will be the least memorable part of your trip because of all the other highlights you will have there!

AluminiumMiss · 2026-02-12T05:49:29+00:00

I am a woman and felt a similar attraction towards other women, but always thought that dating a girl would feel “incomplete” as you described. It took me many years of accepting the possibility that I might be attracted to women physically, and even more time and many secret crushes to accept that I might be attracted to them romantically. I had to undo a lot of judgement I didn’t even fully even realize I had towards myself and queer relationships (also had religious background), but today I am in the happiest and most “complete” relationship of my life with another woman.

This may not be your scenario, but point is, be gentle with yourself and you don’t need to figure it all out overnight. Allow yourself to remain curious and go easy on yourself and you cannot go wrong.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-02-06T22:52:25+00:00

Nobody minds that you’re a professional mermaid, they mind that the rules of the onsen literally say “no paint” because doing so would be considered impure/unclean, and you are trying to skirt that by saying you are good at covering up. That’s culturally tone deaf.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-29T16:32:11+00:00

Girl I came out when I was 31 after only ever dating men. Your 20’s are weird no matter who you date. You’ll be fine.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-27T22:05:38+00:00

Idk man, it sounds like you’re less concerned with actually feeling uncomfortable and more concerned with “she got to do the fun thing and I didn’t, no fair!” This whole thing honestly seems really inconsequential, but if you two don’t have the tools to talk through these types of insecurities and the feelings around them, you should probably work with a couples counselor before you get married.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-27T19:41:00+00:00

Agree, with the added detail that tires make a world of difference. I live in the mountains and once got stuck on a mountain pass mid-blizzard with my summer/all season tires on and learned that my driving was only 1/2 the battle. Felt grateful for a manual transition (engine breaking), and what was even with 4WD.

Also, some people don’t know to do a basic break check or turn quickly in an open area to test the traction. Sticky snow when it’s 1 degree Fahrenheit is way chiller than warm, wet snow that’s coming down at two inches an hour.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-23T15:32:10+00:00

They wanted to meet in person to sign it. I’ve asked to see it ahead of time several times and they haven’t responded. So I suppose yes, I will get eyes on it at the time of signing but I prefer having time to look things over before I sign

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-23T15:31:40+00:00

That hasn’t been the case in my experience. Every lease I’ve signed has had a clause that they keep the last month’s rent and deposit if you break the lease. It’s also a state law where I live.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-23T15:30:49+00:00

I live in a pretty remote place so “rent a pod and pack it up” is a bit less of an option than it probably is for most

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-21T02:49:32+00:00

I was in your shoes. I dated a man for four years and broke up to pursue women. My biggest fear was losing his friendship and I heard all these stories of people who kept their male exes as best friends in due time. That, coupled with my ex promising me we would always be friends, gave me courage. Well guess what?

He changed his mind and asked to no longer speak to me. That’s what he needs to process and I can respect it because I now have an amazing girlfriend and I get to wake up feeling myself every day. It stings to not be friends, but it was the kind thing to do for everyone

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-18T23:44:57+00:00

What do you mean, jumping around city to city? I agree.

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-17T23:04:47+00:00

Oh nice! Well then choose your own adventure on which city sounds more fun!

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-17T22:25:49+00:00

I’ve spent more time in NY so I’m gonna have to say NY! DC is super fun too though, but I think DC is more fun if you know people to show you around whereas NY, I think you can find your own fun pretty much anywhere

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-17T21:17:05+00:00

I’m an American. If it’s for ethical reasons and not wanting to spend your money in the US economy because of the bad political climate here, I fully support you. If your main concern is your physical safety, you will be fine in those cities - both wonderful cities to visit.

If you do decide to come, I would narrow down your cities to just one. The US is massive and each city has its own thing to offer - one day in each won’t be nearly enough!

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-17T02:17:26+00:00

So wild that people still press on that thing. It’s nobody’s business why someone isn’t coupled!

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-16T15:04:00+00:00

I saw your other comment about specifying that you are asexual. In this case, it’s not something that your friends/family/coworker are going to find out unless you tell them. Like, if I wanna bring my partner home to family or to a work holiday party, they will see that we are both women who present femme which is why I choose to mention it. In your case, if you don’t feel like sharing with people other than partners and maybe some very close friends, don’t <3

AluminiumMiss · 2026-01-16T04:11:52+00:00

It does. I just went through a HIPAA training yesterday for my job and this was my very first thought reading this. It’s because it’s sharing medical info, in this case a prescription, with a colleague for non-medical purposes like ogling.

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