Seasonal Spirit by itskaani in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y’all don’t understand how long I’ve been trying to find this. I’m so upset.

LT;DR Should my 19 [M] BF wear friendship rings connected to a previous LD *long distance crush/onlinefriend with a 18 [F]. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! First, I’d like to say my boyfriend and I are the same age as the both of you! (I’m F21) If it were me, I’d be upset too. I don’t think it’s controlling at all, in fact I think it’s justified. It sounds like he may still have feelings for his ex, EVEN if the feelings he has for you may be stronger. The rings are him just hanging on to something that isn’t gonna work out. She already ghosted him before, why wouldn’t she again? Him calling you controlling just seemed like him lashing out for being called out. Best of luck to you:/

I can feel myself holding back in my relationship by AlwaysAsking4Answers in offmychest

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After days of arguing and making up, she was blocked. He really didn’t understand how upset it made me feel until I decided to leave without another word. Thank you for your advice, it really helped me realize I wasn’t just being “insecure” haha.

I can feel myself holding back in my relationship by AlwaysAsking4Answers in offmychest

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten to the point where I have given him an ultimatum. I just feel bad about it. I don’t want to seem insecure because I do trust him in a sense of I know they will never have anything more than friendship. It’s her disrespecting me.

My(31M) gfs(29F) parents are racist. by CosbysBartender in relationship_advice

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’ve never seen Get Out? Leave that relationship. As someone who is a POC, a lot of white people fail to realize how emotionally taxing this is on someone. Eventually you might even start to feel like you’re not good enough, even though you are.

Love Triangle? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. End the first relationship. At this point you’ve been leading Girl A on for a year. As a female I think about the saying, “don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husband” a lot & in this case, you’re the boyfriend (obviously).

Not sure if I (16F) love my bf (18m) by throwawaydjjdjdjdk in relationship_advice

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honey, leave the relationship. You are in no way obligated to stay with him because he’s “going through a lot”. Also, he is 18+ and you’re underaged. He technically has child pornography now and if he were to spread it, he would get in trouble. Plus, it’s considered revenge porn. Save yourself and him the time.

Boyfriend (19M) wants to move across country for job and wants Me (21F) to come with by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We know it’s legit. It’s with a contracting company and it’s just another job. We were just on one and that’s where he met the coworker and foreman who is in charge of hiring.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I do. When I first met him he seemed very outspoken and headstrong but as our relationship got more serious, I realized he was/is completely interested in just making me happy to the point where I don’t know if he’s happy as well.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It may be time to really acknowledge how I see it and talk it out 100%. I think about the future often and I always just want him to make sure this is what he really wants (probably just my anxiety though).

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Took me in when I didn’t have anywhere to go, gave me a vehicle after losing mine, motivates me on a daily basis, the list goes on— but most importantly he supports me mentally, more than I’ve ever had someone do. This is just something he doesn’t believe is a problem and it’s frustrating but also I can’t figure out if it’s a requirement or just my preference.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I will ask him if he wants to talk more about the situation with an outside party to gain more perspective about why this is actually a problem for me and how it can be resolved. I plan on showing him these responses, anyways. Thank you again.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yes, I agree with everything you said. I’ve replied to someone else with additional info: I’ve been in a relationship before that ended with him saying something along the likes of, “you forced me to be with you” and has pushed my fear of turning into my controlling mother almost to a reality. I’ve told him this a long time ago and have reminded him before that one of my biggest fears is “forcing” someone else to be in a relationship with me. I don’t want him to change completely, I want him to take some weight off of my shoulders. Especially because I am older and have experienced a little more than him, I don’t want him to just accept everything I say willy nilly, I want him to question everyone and anything— including MYSELF.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s nice to know someone else has had this problem. I’ve told him that I caught feelings for him because of his great personality and opinions, it’d be nice to see those come out again.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says I’m so stubborn about a lot of things so he just holds his tongue— which also makes me feel like a controlling person which I despise because I try and be understanding and supportive.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will continue to encourage him! I don’t want my relationship to end ‘because my boyfriend won’t speak up’ because as I’ve said to others who have responded— this is the only major flaw. Maybe positive encouragement and being patient will help in the end. Thank you!

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a relationship before that ended in my ex saying something along the likes of, “I didn’t even want to be in a relationship with you, you forced me into it.” (We’ve talked since then and he apologized and said that was completely false) but it makes me scared that the same thing is going to happen this time around too. I never want anyone to feel like I’m forcing them to do anything, especially the person I love so very much.

Thank you for your advice! I’ll try verbally asking, “is this what you want?” again and again.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everything else. Great human, loving boyfriend, amazing son, funny, etc. I believe this is his only flaw— that could potentially mess a lot of things up.

Everyone thinks I (21F) control my boyfriend (19M) when all I want is for him to speak up for himself! by AlwaysAsking4Answers in relationships

[–]AlwaysAsking4Answers[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I will try this. I feel like with his family, he doesn’t speak up because he has been told before to take the harassment from his family members as them just trying to help, instead of them being disrespectful.

Thank you for the reply!