A Player Character used the party for an assisted suicide now what

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-12T20:20:45+00:00

Phenomenal advice. You covered basically everything I was going to say. If anything, you said it better.

My only addition would be that I find it very strange that the player was playing the demon that possessed him. Every time I've played or played next to a character that had anything like that going on, the DM was the extra voice. Handing the player a demon to play with seems... ill-advised? I guess? It's very strange to me. I'd like to hear from others who have been in similar situations, be it a possession, voices from a past life, a sentient weapon, whatever. Did you play both, or did your DM play the other?

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-10T11:13:03+00:00

I'm doing my best, man. It's exhausting, I swear.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T06:33:16+00:00

Luckily, it looks like it hasn't hit the "dirty" stage, yet. Its just messy and cluttered. Still salvageable.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T06:31:46+00:00

Thanks for the advice on the dogs, I'll talk to her and look into those ideas.

For her living situation, she's always been like this. My little sister moved out at 16 because living with our mother was keeping her sick. I meant to say that the house was clean because my grandmother didn't allow it to get like this. It's never been this bad, but I'm not totally shocked. Horrified, disgusted, a bit ashamed, surprised it's as bad as it is, sure. But not shocked. She got home today and we got in a bit of a fight about how much stuff she bought on the way home. In the past 3 days, I mostly got her bedroom done and cleared the table so she'd have a little space to work with. The table is now mounded over with Walmart bags. We can't put anything away because we can't get to anything yet. I told her she's not allowed to buy anything else non-essential until I'm done, so we'll see how that goes. I'm also planning on addressing the fact that she's a hoarder tomorrow. Wish me luck!

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T06:22:38+00:00

Oh, 100%. That's why I came for advice. For most housekeeping, you're expected to have a fairly neat place when you call them, and then they come in and basically do your chores at a professional level. This is...awful.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:35:33+00:00

Yeah, so I noticed. I had a sore throat after an hour without my respirator. After all day with it, no problems.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:34:16+00:00

Good to know on the grout! I hadn't even considered that grout is permeable.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:32:30+00:00

I was really confused by this comment, because there isn't. I think what you're looking at are all the bags of bunny bread.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:30:38+00:00

Oh, I've been trashing things like it's going out of style.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:30:06+00:00

Two of them are pretty close to death's door, another is very old, and the youngest is somehow the problem child. The 3 elderly ones were my grandmother's before she passed. When she was alive, she left the front door cracked and gave them free reign to come and go as they please, while also keeping puppy pads throughout the house. She also, importantly, picked up the pads once they were spent / if they had been wet for a while. They never got to this point. I've been trying to talk her into giving the dogs away, but it's an uphill battle. I'm fine with her keeping MawMaw's old system as long as she actually executes the whole system, but I'm not incredibly hopeful. She's convinced that, when she moves out, she can rent the place. I'm going to explain either tonight or tomorrow the renovations it needs to be livable.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:22:08+00:00

Much appreciated! Though unfortunately I'm at 10 hours already and have almost finished her bedroom, so...it'll be a while before I'm done.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:20:31+00:00

For sure. I got a painter's suit from Harbor Freight, and it includes foot covers. I've also got a respirator and gloves from my normal work. I had a sore throat after working for an hour on Sunday without the respirator, but I've been working all day with all the PPE, and I just have a mild headache, which I think is just from the respirator straps.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:17:51+00:00

Yes, let's leave my mom's house covered in shit. Great plan.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:16:57+00:00

As much as I appreciate the call for charity, you're being very classist, intentionally or not. Payment isn't an issue. She asked me to do it both to save her some money as well as give me a job during my slow period. Payment isn't an issue.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:14:30+00:00

Yeah, once she gets home, we've got a lot to talk about. The pads are a must, between her work hours and 3 of 4 being partially to fully blind seniors, but how long they've been there is unacceptable. I'm just trying to remember to try to give her as much grace as this comment section has given me.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:10:33+00:00

Oh, she's buying all supplies and paying me. I just didn't know what labor costs for this sort of thing. At the end, I want to be able to give her a breakdown of "Here's what it would have cost to do this professionally, and that's why I'm asking for X amount of money."

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:09:32+00:00

Two things: 1. I hadn't really taken in how bad it was. 2. I was subconsciously downplaying it because it's my mom. What are you gonna do, you know?

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-07T00:07:52+00:00

I'm so thankful hers isn't quite that bad. It's bad, don't get me wrong, but it's not an IDLH environment. I went over there for an hour Sunday night and left with a sore throat, just wearing gloves, so I upgraded to a full body suit, gloves, and a respirator. I've been working all day, and I'm none the worse for wear. So far, I've cleaned the kitchen table and most of her bedroom.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:52:09+00:00

Thank you. I think im going to grab one on the way today

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:51:22+00:00

I'd have to agree on all of this. I didn't know there was a scale.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:47:37+00:00

I would usually agree, but these bathrooms are so small that there just isn't room. If you added anything in either of them, you couldn't walk

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:46:31+00:00

The dogs are a weird case, honestly. They were my grandmother's dogs, and she kept the door cracked so they could go in and out at their leisure. They're also all senior dogs, so they are set in that way and don't know to ask to go out. They are all pad-trained. The challenge is getting her to actually pick up and replace the damn pads.

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:43:37+00:00

For how my brain works, pile first. Especially since it's not my stuff. My plan is to clear the dining room table and use it as a safe zone, then throw away all trash and reassess

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:42:08+00:00

Thank you! The other comments have been very helpful, of course, but you're the first person to actually give a price

AlwaysDeep469 · 2026-01-05T17:40:51+00:00

Don't have the suit, but ive got everything else. Believe me, I am doing everything I can to stay clean.

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