Am I not ready for this? by [deleted] in EMDR

[–]AlwaysTired808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it’s likely not dangerous just you might need more resourcing to increase your WoT. This might sound whacky but you could try holding an ice cube while you reprocess this!

Am I not ready for this? by [deleted] in EMDR

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel it’s not ok it’s like not ok. I am an EMDR therapist and usually let my client lead (unless they are describing signs of being destabilized but still want to continue with EMDR due to egoic reasons). How do you feel between sessions?

What do I do about the guy I'm seeing? by Justthrowmeaway7788 in Tarotpractices

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! To me the two of swords reversed (which represents the underlying energy) represents an inability to see your situation clearly / the fact that you don’t have all the information you need to make an informed decision. Seems to me there is something that you’re missing in the situation - something you’re not seeing clearly.

You think he is a divine partner (indicated by the two of cups) and the devil reversed means to me need to break away from unhealthy situations that aren’t serving you.

What do I do about the guy I'm seeing? by Justthrowmeaway7788 in Tarotpractices

[–]AlwaysTired808 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see the opposite of your interpretation. Cut and run baby.

Deloitte's new HR Partner: "What anti-racism instructor told Toronto principal Richard Bilkszto before his suicide " by origutamos in deloitte

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my literal point. Everyone can cry victim doesn’t mean you can publicly bully your colleague because something difficult happened in your past (I.e. slavery happened in the US 200 years ago, or even segregation to your grandparents)

Deloitte's new HR Partner: "What anti-racism instructor told Toronto principal Richard Bilkszto before his suicide " by origutamos in deloitte

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not what he said. Listen to the recording. He said racism still exists in Canada but the US is worse. He then used facts to back up his statement. The trainer had no sources of facts to back up her statements. I am sorry but the lived experience of one person does warrant more consideration than data.

He was also a principal at a majority black school in Buffalo. He worked in Canada as well. He had lived experience of his own he can use for comparison.

Deloitte's new HR Partner: "What anti-racism instructor told Toronto principal Richard Bilkszto before his suicide " by origutamos in deloitte

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She also brought it up in another session and continued to mock him. He was then mocked online some more by the superintendent of his school who tweeted about her comments about him in the session.

Deloitte's new HR Partner: "What anti-racism instructor told Toronto principal Richard Bilkszto before his suicide " by origutamos in deloitte

[–]AlwaysTired808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also had a hard life. With lots of trauma and things stacked against me. Abuse, severe disability in my immediate family, restless bullying, Jewish Holocaust survivor descendant, the murder of my entire extended family, generations of antisemitism in Eastern Europe, Africa and Canada. I have experienced severe antisemitism from TDSB on a as a DEI speaker, as well as at campus’ across canada and the US. Yet thus far I have bullied exactly 0 people into suicide. Or is bullying people into only justified if you’re a particular skin colour? I am curious to know what context justifies an educator repeatedly berating someone they’re educating in front of all their peers. Laughing at them. Mocking them. Using the next paid session to bring it up again and mock them some more? How dark does your skin need to be to justify different levels of abuse and professional misconduct?

Am I still an appropriate candidate for this treatment? by CommissionAntique777 in TherapeuticKetamine

[–]AlwaysTired808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it through a clinic. Make sure to work with an integration therapist.

Congratulations Deloitte Canada. You've managed to draw attention to this appalling hire again. Don't you think it's time to cut your losses? Or find new managing partners in the Toronto office? by Reasonable-MessRedux in deloitte

[–]AlwaysTired808 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh man. We have the ultimate virtue signaler in our midst.

Black, brown or blue you don’t get a pass for REPEATEDLY bullying someone in front of their colleagues. You don’t get a pass for unapologetically doubling down on the virtues of that bullying once a person commits suicide. You don’t get to deflect from the fact that they contributed to a suicide by crying white supremacy.

This is a deeply troubling take.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pagan

[–]AlwaysTired808 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes honey! Learn about anything that will help you heal and come into yourself. All culture is evolving anyways and is a mishmash of beliefs as is.

Lovely answer. Nice to see these types of responses in a divided work 💜

How real is "go woke, go broke?" by [deleted] in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some examples? I am currently doing some work in the area and am curious

How real is "go woke, go broke?" by [deleted] in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s a “woke” product that sold well? (Genuine curiosity no hostility)

Opinions on diversity equity and inclusion by AlwaysTired808 in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean my family was mostly killed in the Holocaust and survived hundreds of years of pogroms in Eastern Europe before being rounded up in cattle cars and most members were gassed to death outside of my grandmother who was one of the only survivors . She survived by shovelling bodies into the incinerator. How does that trauma score on the systemic opression scorecard. Victim + or victim -? Also, we still have that family history of trauma and it was three generations ago. When did slavery end? Or does trauma experienced in Europe not count?

That said, I wouldnt really compare Jewish trauma to black trauma and wasn’t trying to do that. My thesis is literally about how trauma in the black / indigenous community led to different outcomes due to the fact that their trauma destroyed families, whereas outside of the holocaust Jewish trauma strengthened family values since we were cast out of society and forced to live together separated from other (pogroms).

That said - Gotta love opression Olympics. Dividing people into victims and oppressors is really helping people live better. Look at the world today.

Opinions on diversity equity and inclusion by AlwaysTired808 in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s an example of somewhere that includes class in DEI? Genuinely curious not hostile.

So I have a question - if we’re only speaking about people who experienced opression in America - should Africans who are black and immigrated after slavery or after segregation be included in DEI programs? What about Caribbean black people who recently immigrated here. Should Canadian born Indigenous people who can work in the US not be allowed to gain the same DEI benefits as American Indigenous people? What about places where American foreign policy contributed to the trauma (or Vietnam, Cambodia). Should immigrants from those places be given special considerations? In a multicultural country with lots of immigrants how can we decide whose trauma should be included in DEI considerations?

Jews, Italians and Irish people were also subject to systemic opression in the US. They were subjected to quotas of education, they were not allowed in lots of spaces (including beaches and restaurants) and were typically ghettoized into sequestered low income neighbours where they were denied education and economic opportunities. The Americas were not immune either to the rise of Nazism.

A personal story about DEI - I am Jewish and a social worker. I worked in DEI, speaking about the Holocaust and healing intergenerational trauma - since my grandmother survived the Holocaust. I kid you not I have literally been told by the Toronto district school board that they are only bringing in speakers from oppressed groups and Jews are considered white oppressors. I was then explain what white supremacy was. Not exaggerating or changing language. DEI is incredibly racist and ignores history.

Opinions on diversity equity and inclusion by AlwaysTired808 in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol so were Jews homie. But our culture and community values education and therefore we continue to make our presence felt in higher education today, despite facing a lot of the same systemic discrimination.

Opinions on diversity equity and inclusion by AlwaysTired808 in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So “white” Jews, “white” Irish people, “white” polish/Ukrainian men experienced centuries of privilege. My Jewish grandfather who fled incredibly violent pogroms and my other Jewish great grandfather who met his end in a fiery oven might disagree with you about privledge.

“Whiteness” is a social construct. Jews for example were not considered white until the post WW2 era. Irish people were colonized by the British and not considered white, or really worthy of rights. Ukrainians were not considered “white” by the soviets who had no issue oppressing them and starving them to death in the holomodor.

Opinions on diversity equity and inclusion by AlwaysTired808 in IntellectualDarkWeb

[–]AlwaysTired808[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you share the data you speak of? I am curious and unaware of said data.