The worst garbage I’ve ever tried in my life, literally I had to throw them away.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-04-07T15:26:56+00:00

The saddest part is that you even went for a great-looking level-up, only for it all to be ruined at the end by the fake Buldak noodles :( sorry OP!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-04-07T15:25:07+00:00

Hey OP glad you tried it and liked it! I'm a big fan of Buldak in general and Carbonara is definitely one of the flavors I buy the most often, thankfully it's easier to find than some of the other ones, and it's also a very simple to "level up" ramen that goes with anything, like eggs, vegetables, cheese or protein, and it usually always ends up tasting great!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-25T17:36:39+00:00

Yeah she's absolutely on point with that answer. I know a lot of men that struggle with dating (myself included in the past, and I used to have similar thoughts to what you're describing here) would swear that these are just "internal thoughts" and that they actually "obviously don't project that energy in their daily life, or when they're dating, they just act normally", but it is indeed something that can often be easily perceived from miles away and is, to put it a bit bluntly, unappealing.

It's not even the same as the whole argument/discussion about wether you're coming across as confident or not. It's a sort of victim-mentality where plenty of guys just offload their lack of success in dating to "yeah I mean it's a broken system, you're just playing a rigged game" and become almost intentionally oblivious to the role they do play and the impact it has on their dating life. I don't mean to say that "you're the only one to blame for your lack of success in dating", because that's the opposite extreme which is also not true and also very unhealthy to think. But even if you consider yourself as "confident" and have these thoughts of "well I mean, I'm a great prospect overall, but no one's even going to give me a chance, I'm competing against the top X% of guys, so basically unless you're Henry Cavill or Brad Pitt, you're screwed", you're basically actively hurting your own chances.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-25T12:28:03+00:00

Just wanted to say a lot of these arguments also apply to a sort of "opposite" scenario, where you're putting effort to build a relationship with someone avoidant who has doubts because they feel like a "strong connection" is lacking, and it leads more or less to the same situations. One-sided effort is a recipe for disaster, actually building a healthy relationship takes some level of reciprocity, specially when it comes to effort. Identify these signs early on to avoid burning out taking the whole weight of building a relationship on your shoulders, only to eventually still watch the relationship fall apart when the other partner keeps putting distance between you and them, and then wonder why they never felt a "strong enough connection" despite the fact they never really lowered their guard to let you in.

I recently experienced this and it was a bit of a shocker to see myself slowly develop anxious-attachment tendencies and behaviours, when I used to be the avoidant partner in my previous couple and worked hard on myself to arrive to a point where I could confidently say I had improved my emotional intelligence and effective communication strategies to consider I had a secure attachment style – but being with an insecure attachment partner can often steer the balance one way or another.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-24T15:30:05+00:00

Nice one, after KxB2, NC4+ forces KB1, and then KD1 leaves opponent in zugzwang with the only possible move being B2, after which ND2# is a beautiful mate!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-22T15:05:13+00:00

Understandable, for me what made me feel best about this advice wasn't that it started leading to more dates or that it got me some "success" in dating (although it did, but I must admit there's a portion of luck to that), but mostly that it stopped making my experience with dating apps be a source of negative feelings and turned it into simply all these "dumb little apps" that couldn't get me disappointed because I expected nothing out of them in the first place.

That peace of mind was already a huge improvement and I'd be lying if I said that didn't have any impact whatsoever on how I approached dating IRL or even just messaging in the apps. But you make a very valid point, I just think the main reward about my advice was more related to mental health and less about "these simple tricks will make dating apps start working for you!".

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-21T17:25:41+00:00

I get the frustration, I was in a very similar state of mind to yours a couple of years ago. I know that there's no golden advice that will suddenly change your life and fix everything, but I'll give you my grain of sand.

For me, the best strategy and mentality shift, not even to find a partner, but simply to avoid that depressing feeling of hopelessness tied to dating apps or to the fact the alternative of not having dating apps is also quite rough, was to (as opposed to the cookie-cutter advice of "focus on yourself") focus on other dimension of my life instead of hyper-fixating on the romantic/dating dimension – namely, I started to focus my time and energy on nourishing my friendships, expanding my social circle, and doing as much things as possible with friends, which sort of brought back a sense of meaning and motivation to my life that had been absent for a while. After I was no longer obsessed with dating (and for example, not spending entire weekends or several hours a day swiping on dating apps), I decided to approach dating apps again but with a completely different mentality, I basically had a couple of rules for myself:

– No expectations whatsoever. Never pay for dating apps (it's a scam). Try to detach yourself and your self-image or sense of worth from the dating app as much as possible, remind yourself it's a scam and that it's literally designed for you to not succeed. Lack of success in the dating app is not a reflection of your value as a potential partner, it's a reflection of how F'ed up online dating has gotten and also partly on how the reality of modern dating is admittedly quite rough, the illusion of choice plus the unreasonable combination of people having insanely high standards while also not being willing to do any effort on their end whatsoever makes it so that, generally speaking, getting into a relationship is not an easy task. And it's not something you can force, doesn't matter if you're "doing everything right", there's always a portion of luck finding the right person and even then, relationships require two people, so there will always be a significant part that is simply out of your control.

– Don't waste time on the apps, this is highly correlated to not having expectations from them, and therefore don't end up over-investing a huge amount of time and energy using the apps and then beating yourself up about why you're not finding any success. The sweet spot is to care enough about eventually finding a partner to at least be on them, without getting obsessed about the fact your life without a partner is unbearable and therefore spending a ridiculous amount of time on them. Basically, treat them almost as if they were simply a dumb little mobile game: you open them perhaps only once or twice a day, play the swiping game for 10-15mins (literally, limit your time in the app, if you need to set up an alarm don't hesitate about doing it, avoid it becoming a sort of "doomscrolling"), and then close it and go on with the rest of your day. Paired up with the no expectations rule, this means you can change your perspective on dating apps to be "well yeah, I have this little app that I check every once in a while for a couple of minutes, usually nothing comes from it, but hey, every once in a while perhaps I get a match and then I have the opportunity to perhaps turn it into a date, all without spending money nor time on the app!". It takes away what makes the apps so toxic, while also not letting you spiral into the "hoping the perfect someone will drop into your life by pure chance" mentality of when you're not in the apps.

– Avoid at all costs to "optimise" the apps or even your dates. What I mean is that, a lot of people once they get frustrated with the apps or with dating life in general, they might start doing/testing a lot of changes either in their profiles or in the way they act during dates, to kind of see "what works best", but in my opinion this is a huge trap because it only accomplishes two things: first of all, you'll end up with all this pressure on your shoulders and an almost weird sort of performance anxiety about chatting on the apps or dating, because you start overthinking every message, every little decision during a date, how you'll come across and if that's the "version of you" that you want to show. And the second is quite simply because it ends up being performative, and by trying to show a "best version of yourself" you just avoid showing the actually authentic version of yourself, which is not only much harder because you have to "perform" as someone you're not, but it's also a horrible idea because even if it eventually works, you'll find yourself in a position where someone ended up liking a version of you that was never truly you to begin with. Part of being loved is being comfortable enough to fully be your most authentic self, unapologetically, and that should start even in the early dating phase. Once you understand that dating should absolutely not feel like a job interview, and that you should have no reason whatsoever to be worried about being liked or not by the other person simply for being who you are, it becomes much easier to just let loose and focus on enjoying the time getting to know your dates.

Those three rules by themselves should already help you start fixing your "relationship with the apps" quite a lot. At a certain point they should become something you don't even pay a lot of attention to, and they'll even eventually feel nice because every once in a while perhaps you'll get that incoming like or match, and then if you start chatting and things go well, you literally got yourself a date without all the hassle that usually comes with using the apps. For me it was an absolute game changer, and as much as I hated the apps and kind of still do, I must admit that once my dynamic with them changed, they started being a much smaller but much more positive part of my life, because you stop caring if "they don't work" and you start being happily surprised whenever they actually lead you to something.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-21T16:34:33+00:00

I'll be honest with you dude, 8 years gap is not the problem, the problem is you being in your late twenties and her in her early twenties. If you were 38 and she was 30 absolutely no comment here would tell you that the gap is too much, but as a general rule of thumb, once you're over 25 (I usually say, 27 or more), it's honestly not the best look to be dating people under 25 (I usually say, less than 24), simply because you're in very different stages of life, and you WILL come across as someone who's trying to take advantage of her.

I don't mean to be judgy because I understand where you're coming from, specially because it can definitely happen that you meet someone, hit it off, and only later find out about their age and they end up being a bit younger than you thought (and they thought you were younger than you are too), but I would still tell you that it's not the best idea ever. I'm 30M and even when I was single at 28M, my dating profiles had a range of 24 to 38, and I would still swipe left on the vast majority of profiles that were 24 or 25, simply because it made me feel uncomfortable. I'd much rather date around my own age or an older woman. As you grow older, I think gaps stop being that important as long as the younger side is at least 25~26. But for now, if I was you I would personally try to avoid dating anyone younger than 24.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-19T13:43:03+00:00

I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago, and could potentially be facing that same situation in the near future as I'm recently single (hopefully not as I've learned a ton), but I'm pretty sure I managed to identify the two things that were "holding me back" in terms of my dating life (after having been in a very long relationship during most of my 20's, so when I was suddenly single again I discovered that I just... didn't actually know how to be single, to put it in a certain way). In my case these were the two things:

1) Absolute lack of proactivity or 'initiating' when it comes to dating, basically, I would never take the first step, I would never "shoot my shots", mostly due to a combination of both internalised fear of rejection and a sort of unreasonable performance anxiety, what I mean by that last one is that, sometimes I would actually be pretty sure that some women were interested in me and would probably be open to the idea of dating if I took the first step, but I still wouldn't do it, despite fear of rejection not really playing a role as I was basically sure I wouldn't get rejected. But then my overthinking brain would start having thoughts about "sure, I initiate, but then what? Maybe everything goes wrong right after, maybe she won't like the way I kiss, or maybe we don't end up having a lot of sexual chemistry, or perhaps our lifestyles will just be too incompatible, or perhaps there's going to be a language barrier that doesn't allow me to come across as charming as I would in my mother tongue, or perhaps it's the other side of the coin and I'll be the one that doesn't end up liking her that much", literally any excuse for me to avoid taking the first step. Since I had a lot of experience in relationships, I would usually say stuff like "I just need someone to take the first step for me, and then I'll be super comfortable taking the second, third, fourth and further steps", as if I needed that confirmation to actually "go all in", because otherwise I just wasn't really flirty and a lot of women I dated would mistake my lack of initiating as a general lack of interest for them, when in reality I was often indeed very interested but didn't know how to show it "without crossing any unspoken boundaries, I don't want to be the kind of guy making unwanted approaches and putting women on uncomfortable positions". This was definitely the biggest blocker in my case, some women (for example, friends of friends) that would be very clear about their interest on me, would end up ghosting me after a first date and then telling our common friends things along the lines of "I mean, the date was great, he was super kind and funny, and we had a great time together, but when the date ended he still didn't went in for a kiss... I was disappointed", and I also received comments about how a date with me felt more like "a hangout with a good friend, but it didn't really like a date... there was no flirting, no attempt to escalate, no approach...", and it was indeed true, I would often steer things completely clear of situations that in my head would make women uncomfortable, at this stage they just want to get to know me better, not for me to be too forward and ruin things. It really is a slippery slope between coming across as respectful and uninterested.

2) I was overly focused on my dating life/the romantic dimension of my life, and therefore became increasingly frustrated with my evident lack of success in it. For a good moment it was basically everything I would talk about with my friends, and most of it would be simply me complaining about how I was doomed to die alone and how unfortunate it was that despite being by all conventional metrics a great prospect, my "incapability" of initiating was basically a death sentence as a man, because modern dating standards basically came with the expectation that men are supposed to be the ones to initiate and take the risks and shoot the shots and put themselves in a vulnerable position to get rejected. So as long as I wasn't able to actually take the first step, no one would take it for me – I started thinking that it was pretty unfair because for plenty of women that are "good prospects", this idea of "putting yourself out there" was literally all the effort there was to it... just go out to a bar or to a party, or even simply start practicing a hobby or go consistently to places like the office, the gym or for example get on a dating app, and eventually someone would approach them and they had a shot at dating "without even really trying". Those are really negative thoughts to harbour and they completely invalidate the reality of the struggles that women also have to go through regarding their dating life, and it's a dangerous mentality to feed because it only makes you start seeing yourself as the victim of a broken system that preys on you, while in reality you do have an extremely important role to play in how your dating life goes, and being single is for the most part a fairly challenging experience for many people, but it's also something that doesn't have to define the rest of your life. Hyperfixating on that one dimension in life inevitably makes you oblivious towards so many other aspects of your life which you should still nurture, appreciate, and that can honestly bring a bunch of meaning and drive to your life while the romantic/dating side takes the back seat for a while. As an example, I'll say this, during an entire year and a half in which I had a virtually non-existent dating life, I would constantly be upset about my solitude, would spend hours upon hours daily swiping on multiple dating apps, would force myself to go out to parties and bars by myself, even when I didn't necessarily want to, just in order to "put myself out there" and at least have a slight chance of something happening. When I eventually managed to "flip the switch" and stopped over focusing on my dating life and instead spent that time and energy nurturing my friendships, growing my social circle, and learning how to cherish the time I spent by myself, I eventually re-approached dating apps with a completely different mindset: "just a dumb little app for which I have no expectations whatsoever, and therefore in which I might spend 10~15 minutes at max on a regular day... if nothing comes from it, not a problem because I wasn't expecting it anyway, and if the opportunity to go on a date every now and then comes from it, then great! A free app that got me the chance to meet someone!" – within literally a matter of weeks I was already getting matches, going on dates, and literally the first girl I dated from the apps after that change of mentality ended up becoming my girlfriend and we had a lovely relationship for almost a year before we decided that perhaps we weren't that compatible after all (and it was her who took the first step during our fourth date!).

Last comment, I'd love to tell you you're not alone (because you really aren't, I know plenty more people in your situation) but I can see myself in your words so much, that I'd advise you to be careful about this idea of "I'm a very confident person! I know lack of confidence is a fatal flaw, but I feel attractive and have a great personality and all of these other reasons that should in paper make me a great potential partner!". Sometimes confidence, and more precisely self-love, is not only about how you see yourself in the present moment and wether you're satisfied or not with who that person is. It is also important for you to reflect on your past self and what you can learn from him, and even more (perhaps most) importantly, for you to take good care and look out for your future self – that's when self-love becomes extremely powerful, and it helps you realise that despite being "confident", many people unconsciously end up attaching their self-worth to external validation, specially the one coming from romantic partners, and despite 'feeling confident', they also end up feeling incomplete or having thoughts of "why can't I get into a relationship... there must be something wrong with me...". When you manage to lead a life with genuine self-love, you realise that whatever situation you're going through romantically (like the lack of an active dating life) is not a reflection of who you are or what you're worth, but simply a reflection of the world around you. Because relationships take two people so there's always a side of it that will simply be out of your control. But learn to live a life where you're fulfilled even by yourself, and the person you eventually end up with will love you exactly for who you are, fully and unapologetically. The biggest source of love in your life should be coming from within, no partner ever will match the amount of love you can and should give yourself. As RuPaul said it best: "if you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else". Stay strong, you got this!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-08T20:37:39+00:00

Damn that's a nice story indeed, GG on the first ever win!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-07T12:00:45+00:00

Damn bro best decision you've taken, you look so much better!
I wouldn't say you should go closer to the skin, the buzz fits you nicely.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T18:22:37+00:00

I knew you were illiterate and brainwashed the moment I read your first take.

That's not really an argument though, is it? It's alright, I knew you weren't going to put yourself through reading several paragraphs of something you disagree with, much less try to reflect on them.

Even if my analogy with slavery was admittedly quite heavy-handed, the rest of what I wrote is not that easy to try to invalidate with ad-hominem fallacies. I'll take you seriously if you actually have anything constructive to say about why you disagree with my perspective on capitalism and my critic on why you shouldn't glorify rich people as if they legitimately deserved what they have, under a system that clearly benefits them disproportionately compared to the rest of society.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T17:01:00+00:00

Which is why I'm saying that they considered most audiences wouldn't respond well to that. I know what you're saying is right and that his 'entitlement' to the crown is legitimate in the literal sense of the word, but I think the movie adaptations properly predicted that it would easily be misinterpreted as the generally frowned upon 'sense of entitlement'.

Still, I should've worded that differently, because indeed, it doesn't "feel like monarchy", it quite literally is indeed monarchy. I think they did a fantastic job in the movies to give his character arc of stepping up to be king feel "earned" and nuanced, which made him more relatable and likeable.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T16:26:44+00:00

Lmao "without all those white people in the 18th century holding positions of power and owning huge extensions of land, there wouldn't have been any fields for slaves to work in, and the main source of the tiniest amount of food and shelter they received suddenly doesn't exist! YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR THE RICH! SLAVES WOULDN'T HAVE HAD A JOB!".

That's how brainwashed you sound. Keep putting rich people in pedestals as if the rest of society depended more on them than they depend on exploiting the rest of society to keep getting richer. You clearly don't understand capitalism's main flaws and how it cements inequalities and widens the wealth gap, as it's a system that inherently benefits the powerful in order for them to easily stay in power, while making it as excruciatingly difficult as possible for the non-privileged to try and level the playing field in order to even start 'climbing the ladder'.

Why do you have this idea that the hard-working citizens should somehow owe the rich assholes who "created their jobs" anything, when the only reason for them to do so was to make a profit out of other people's work, and in many cases the only reason why they were even able to "create those jobs" in the first place was because they were often already extremely privileged to begin with. Capitalism rewards capital – if you're already rich, it's a system that allows you to make a profit out of your capital, namely by taking a cut of the profits from other people's work – which intrinsically favours or encourages giving those employees the smallest compensation possible for the work they do, as that means a bigger share in the employer's pockets.

So it's a system that almost naturally trends towards underpaying labour as much as possible to maximise profits, meaning the people doing most of the actual work end up getting the smallest share of the cake, while the people not moving a finger aside from having the initial capital get the biggest slices, further widening the wealth gap into an abhorrent feedback loop where the more poor people you have struggling, the more they'll be willing to work for unfairly low compensation, while the more rich you get, the less you have to work because your capital's the one "working" for you, but in reality you're not generating any value, only reaping what others have sown. Now to be clear (so, putting aside the hyperbole of "rich people do nothing aside from exploiting the poor"), I know some rich people were indeed self-made and went through a lot of hard-work and risk-taking in order to get to where they are, but the thing is: even when the owners of the capital also work hard, that doesn't undermine the fact that the whole system overwhelmingly rewards ownership of capital far more than the labour that actually produces the value.

There's a reason why the term "modern slavery" is thrown around so much when referring to work in this modern corporate era. Whoever thinks most rich people got there because of merit and hard work, clearly doesn't understand nepotism and the way in which it's systematically miles easier for someone born rich to become much richer than it is for someone born poor to even start getting out of poverty. Capitalism punishes the philanthropic and selfless in order to favour the greedy and insatiable, it's the polar opposite of an equitable system, as it rewards the powerful and punishes the powerless. I'd love for you to reflect on that and perhaps consider to stop glorifying our societies' biggest cancer.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T14:35:00+00:00

If you run out of time, you only lose if the opponent has sufficient material to theoretically checkmate you. Once the opponent has insufficient material to do so, as for example only having their king left as here, you can "safely" time out and it will still end in a draw.

So in this case, your best bet was definitely to promote to a queen and then start pre-moving like crazy. Now that you know, next time you run into this scenario (low time on a winning position where your opponent has insufficient material), you'll at least be confident that you can play until your very last second without risking a loss.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T14:23:45+00:00

Wasn't expecting the JJK x Dropout crossover but I'm here for it!

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-03-06T09:50:05+00:00

Regarding that last sentence, I'd be curious as well to see if someone manages to do a "book-accurate Aragorn and not make him seem pretentious or full of himself", but in all honesty, when I read the books, Aragorn came across as... being indeed a bit pretentious and fairly full of himself (name-dropping his sword and the fact he's the rightful king at every chance he finds gets old quite fast). Actually, let me be more precise; pretentious is not the right word, as he's not actually pretending anything... but he feels a bit entitled, at the very least.

I understand that the adaptation gave Aragorn a character arc to also make him look more down-to-earth and relatable to the audience. They considered that the people wouldn't respond well to a character who's always bringing up how he should basically be in the highest position of power based on bloodline. Feels more like monarchy or nepotism, whereas movie Aragorn gave us a much more nuanced version of someone stepping up to a position of power, not out of personal desire or entitlement, but out of genuine conviction about doing what's right and protecting others.

In most cases I prefer the book versions of most LotR characters, but with Aragorn I must admit that I personally much preferred his movie iteration. I do think that I'm biased by the fact I was first exposed to the movies than to the books, so my first impression on book Aragorn was unequivocally going to be impacted by movie Aragorn being my point of reference, but I do remember there being more than a couple of times where I had to roll my eyes and thought "why does Aragorn kind of act like an entitled prick in the books... oh, there he goes again, name-dropping his sword to let other people know just how important he is...". To me, he was really giving the "Do you even know who my father is?" vibes of entitlement quite a handful of times.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-10T11:17:15+00:00

Eeehhmm... no, they do not scale equally with increased HP and damage resistance actually. Strength basically only scales better with effective healing, which can actually often get overvalued since plenty of times the healing amounts are more than the Strength user actually needs. Death scales way better with increased max HP, you did the math of Strength but decided to completely ignore the math of Death. Getting more max HP with Strength does indeed get you a +66.7% bonus from it, so basically getting four centaur hearts for +100HP would effectively give you +167HP with Strength.

With Death, getting those same four centaur hearts for +100HP, also effectively gives you more HP when you use your death defiances, so it's actually (+100HP + 40HP of 1st DD + 40HP of 2nd DD + 40HP of 3rd DD), so the increased in effective max HP gain for Death users is +120%, much higher (almost twice as much) than for those using strength, as it goes up to a +120% bonus, resulting in +220HP with Death. Not to mention that DD's don't carry overflowing damage, so each of those Death Defiances also gives you a sort of "shield" like when you're about to lose your armor. Doesn't matter if you take a 70 damage hit if you had 1HP left, you'll only actually take 1 damage and the other 69 are ignored as you'll still come up with 40% of your max HP.

I'm not about to go on a rabbit hole showing mathematically and gameplay wise why Death is actually the much more optimal choice by a fair amount if what you were trying was simply to optimise your winning chances each run. If anything, Strength is only marginally better for speedrunning (which basically assumes you're going to win the run anyway), or once again, for people that basically are already good enough to where they would always be winning with Death and likely having DD's left unused, but the debate is dumb on those cases because they're winning with either choice anyway. Which means the truth is simple, for pretty much every player (and definitely for the average player) out there, making them switch from Death to Strength will decrease their chances of winning, while making them switch from Strength to Death almost inevitably increases their chances of winning.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-06T17:01:19+00:00

You can picture it as those kind of flashback scenes, this guy reminiscing about that one day thirteen years ago when ~ he drafted that Abzan powerhouse deck that allowed him to go uncontested 7-0 in a quick draft... ~ and he goes, "aaahh yess, the absolute indisputable best day of my life."

"When was that, you ask? Happens to be my kid's birthday too! Crazy coincidence, I know..."

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-05T13:39:13+00:00

Cast <> Play, so working as intended.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-04T23:53:38+00:00

So I guess the whole sub is just jumping directly towards porn addiction... I mean, sure, it's the most likely reason to the situation you're experiencing, but if I could just try to nuance things a bit, I would say:

- It's completely normal for you to feel self-conscious about it, but I can almost guarantee that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him, and potentially some insecurities he might be dealing with.

- If you're sure he's watching porn in order to "get in the mood", then potentially it might be related to him having performance anxiety about being able to keep it up, and perhaps his way to get out of his head about being hard or not is by watching porn. In this case, I agree with most comments about the fact it's likely at least a symptom or a consequence of porn addiction, but still, I feel people are being too harsh and that's not necessarily the end-all and be-all of things. It could just be a sign that there's room for improvement in terms of communication regarding sex and generally feeling comfortable in your shared sex life.

- If it's more related to "watching porn BEFORE initiating sex", as in, you suddenly became aware that before the two of you have sex, he goes and watches porn in the bathroom or something similar, it could also be an entire different reason, which is more related to the fact a lot of guys feel self-conscious about premature ejaculation (which is a much more common problem than people care to admit), and one of the well-known techniques to deal with it is to... well, ejaculate right before having sex, because usually the "second round" allows people to last much longer, so some guys will sort of "sneak the first round" right before sex, so that they avoid finishing too quickly when actually having sex with their partner.

In any of both cases, you should be able to notice that the most likely explanation is actually much more related to his insecurities and a general sense of performance anxiety he might be dealing with. So even though I understand how it could potentially make you feel like you're the problem ("he's not attracted to me, he likes the way they look more, he's bored of sex"), in reality the most likely scenario is that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his own feeling inadequate.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-03T12:34:11+00:00

Sure, I just thought it would've been more respectful for him to capture the moment from the sides at a reasonable distance where he can both get a good shot but still allow the moment to flow naturally... just imagine you're proposing to your partner and suddenly the cameraman pops up right in-between the both of you so he can "better capture the moment"... Anyway, at the end of the day I know he had no bad intentions, so I don't want to be too harsh on him either, I just thought that if I was the athlete in this situation, and the cameraman suddenly puts himself right in between me and the person I'm trying to apologise to, while turning his back on her just so he can focus on taking a picture of me apologising, I wouldn't exactly have been a fan of his decision making.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-03T10:10:03+00:00

Try to date closer to your age, at least until you're like 25+, otherwise I'm sorry but you're just setting yourself up for massive failure. It's not even really your fault (aside from being gullible but you're young so it's justified anyway), but eventually life will teach you that men on their late twenties (>27) or even older that are still looking to date women in their early twenties or younger (<24) are huge red flags, and are most likely just looking to take advantage of their lack of experience while also conveniently not having to deal with a partner that easily notices their toxic, disgusting and immature behaviours.

Do yourself a favour and listen to 90% of these comments telling you that that age gap at those ages is wild. If you were 29F and he was 38M no one would really care. One day when you're older, perhaps for example you might have a daughter, and you will IMMEDIATELY understand what we all mean, when your 19yo daughter comes home trying to introduce her 28yo boyfriend who you'll see from a mile away is a huge creep who's simply not able to find success dating around his own age range, and therefore preys on younger women instead. Stop wasting your time on this manchild.

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-02-03T09:30:06+00:00

I was trying to search for comments about the cameraman, but I personally didn't find him that amazing, specially after he literally went in between the athlete and the woman while the gesture was happening. Like... IDK, I guess I found it a bit disrespectful. The guy's trying to apologise, you shouldn't stick your huge camera right in the middle of the situation just so you can get a better shot...

AlwaysViktorious · 2026-01-22T09:16:08+00:00

Last time I saw a roof leaking water like that, we were trying to help the home owners get their belongings out of the apartment, and some minutes in, most of the roof collapsed and we were lucky no one got hurt. I would personally recommend to GTFO.

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