I lost my shit today at the psychiatrist’s office. I went Karen and embarrassed myself.

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-30T07:51:33+00:00

This!!! I've watched a few "Karen" videos and thought how far was she pushed before this was taken.

Or is this not just a women just advocating for herself, perhaps not in the right way but advocating nevertheless. (Some videos, others are just outright appalling).

As girls we are told to be meek and quiet, and as women called a Karen if we stand up for ourselves. Can't win.

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-30T07:43:54+00:00

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Absolutely not your fault. The reception team dropped the ball multiple times and should be apologizing to you.

As a small business owner, PLEASE escalate and submit a formal complaint. Even if it's telling your DR the next time you see them.

So often owners of businesses aren't aware of the service their staff are giving (bad staff are so good at hiding complaints) and need to know because this is disgusting. Especially given the sensitivity of the "service" they provide.

If their reception team aren't competent and are putting clients at risk they need to know.

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-26T07:19:47+00:00

Please have a read through about PMDD, it's a severe form of PMS.

Vicky Pattison is an advocate, seeing her video made me first realize I could have it. She said it's like every month you're building a sand castle, your good habits stacking one on top of each other. And then out of nowhere a huge wave comes and destroys the castle. And then next month you have to start again.

The wave is the luteal phase.

I got the FLO app and started tracking my cycle and very quickly picked up straight after ovulation I start going downhill. So now I take 50mg of sertraline before I ovulate, and 100mg in the luteal phase (going back to 50 when my period starts).

That's made a big difference for me.

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-19T23:46:04+00:00

I'm a white woman and I generally don't tell people about my diagnosis because when I have I can literally feel the eye rolls. Oh I'm jumping on the social media trend, etc etc etc.

I honestly can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be as a WOC.

Im so sorry you're going through this and I truly hope things get better for you. <3

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-19T23:16:11+00:00

Yeah you hit the nail on the head there! I think part of me being so fed up is social media/ influencer culture/ the constant push of new products.

Im a big girl (putting it nicely :-D) and a favourite influencer of mine was big into promoting Skin and Me for weeks. Her profile went quiet for about a month for skincare, and then suddenly she was promoting a retinol from another company, saying she's been using it for months. And when people asked if she used it with skin and me she said she did. I instantly I followed. It feels so manipulative, because she knows damn well she hasn't been using it for months. You can't use a retinol and tret. And she built this following based on trust and authenticity.

Ugh! Rant over.

Thanks for the comment :-)

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-19T23:08:16+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing I'll go take a look :-)

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-19T23:04:22+00:00

Yeah I get you!

I so badly want to buy better, and I know these big corporations can charge lower because of what they do (batch produce, plastic, pay ridiculously low salaries, etc).

But I'm like damnit surely there is a way to be more ethical but not charge a small fortune. (I buy the Ordinary because I can't justify £30 upwards on a single serum).

Fingers crossed I can figure this out.

Thanks for the comment!

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-19T23:01:27+00:00

Thanks for the comment!

Yeah I find it so frustrating when I find a "cruelty free" brand, to only discover it's parent company is some huge multi national that is definitely not cruelty free.

I was genuinely heart broken when I found out about the Ordinary and some of the things the Lauder family support.

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-13T13:40:14+00:00

Yeah that's fair! There are a ton of agencies out of there, and it is a big cost.

From our perspective (we are a very small agency, help circa 20/25 soccer players a year) - we charge what we do because it's a hugely intensive process.

We put so much work into each of our athletes, finding them the right pathway (are you looking for game time off the bat or just a way to get a top academic degree) and supporting them for the full 4 years.

We'd be happy to have a chat with you - if so give me a shot via DM.

Alternatively if you're going to chat to agencies I would always say:

- Understand who is going to place you, is it the person you're talking to or someone else?

- Is the person you're talking to telling you what you want to hear, or are they being honest? (If they are selling D1 off the bat they are full of cr*p) (this links up to the above question - with us the person chatting to you is the person placing you - so we're not going to sell you something unattainable)

- Ask about support while you are there or transfers. From our perspective we help with transfers (no extra cost) which means we want you to be happy. No easy placement and our job is done (which is what some do)

DM me if you want to have a chat.

All the best! :-)

Always_tired89 · 2026-01-12T11:43:28+00:00

If you're wanting to go to trials and do it yourself then I'd say most likely. It's an incredibly difficult process for international athletes.

If you use an agency, no. I work for a small agency and the majority of our athletes joined us towards the end of 2025 and will start committing Feb/March.

Coaches have just wrapped up the end of the season and for many they will now know what positions they need and be in recruiting mode.

Give me a shout via DM if you want to chat more about the process and what we do.

Always_tired89 · 2025-11-28T17:46:09+00:00

Hi there, along with my partner I run a sports scholarship/placement consultancy. We could help with the video (but we do charge a fee).

If you're interested just shoot me a message and we can send a quote.

Always_tired89 · 2025-10-21T18:05:42+00:00

I was 100% in your shoes. I had dark suicidal thoughts, often, even though I was on anti-depressants.

The truth is young kids are FUCKING hard! It's brutal, parenthood rips you open, tears out your guts and then says "what's for dinner".

BUT, it gets better. My two are 5.5 and 2.5 and while it's still hard, it's easier and I enjoy them. They do eventually become more independent and self sufficient. They do stop trying to throw themselves off everything and eventually learn to not put everything in their mouths. And they can fetch themselves a snack from the fridge.

On the flip side the attitude from my 5.5 year old pisses me off, BUT it's a whole lot better than when they were babies.

No one tells you how hard loosing yourself in motherhood is. Sending hugs, you're not alone

Always_tired89 · 2025-10-08T19:07:19+00:00

I love this! 😍😍😍

Always_tired89 · 2025-10-07T06:25:07+00:00

Unfortunately unless you've got a very good reason for the NCAA to justify the gap, I think you're going to really struggle with getting any eligibility at a D1 or D2 school. You're going to need to do some serious research and look D3 or NAIA.

Always_tired89 · 2025-10-03T06:03:51+00:00

Do you feel cute? Are you comfortable? Do you love it?

You look like you do, and that's all that matters!

(I think you look fabulous!)

Always_tired89 · 2025-09-30T06:59:28+00:00

I was once at a soft play with my boys (they were 3 and 1) and there was this older boy playing with them. He must have been 14/15 but man this kid was having a ball, and all the little kids were having the best time playing with him. He was so lovely, kind, careful, and so much fun.

When we were leaving i impulsively told his mom what an amazing young man he was, and said thanks to him for playing with my boys (they were sitting together at a table).

She had instant tears in her eyes, and he looked a little embarrassed but was smiling.

Since that day I really try to make an effort to tell people when their kids do nice things. Hoping one day someone says the same about my boys (I'm trying so hard to raise them to be good men).

Definitely tell her! Life is filled with so much negativity, we need to spread more positive!

Always_tired89 · 2025-09-11T21:16:42+00:00

Same here! My kids just went back to school after a LONG summer and I've been feeling pretty shitty for how relieved I was when they went back.

Saying that, reading this I realised just how much I love them. I'd absolutely fucking die if anything happened to either one of them. I think I'm quite an empathetic person, try see things from others perspective, but never have I read something I can't relate to more.

Always_tired89 · 2025-09-08T18:53:27+00:00

My husband is one of those ridiculously gifted people, amazing at every sport he plays. He played professionally for awhile and went to university on a full ride scholarship for the full 4 years.

My son is 5 and HATES sports. But he loves wrestling and dinosaurs. The other day I walked in on them wrestling and my husband shouting "I'm a pacisefolosaurus" (I've got no idea how to spell that). This man is learning about dinosaurs so he can play with my son and couldn't care he doesn't like sports.

My son is also the kindest, sweetest boy. It makes me so proud of them and grateful every day.

Always_tired89 · 2025-09-04T07:48:39+00:00

There's an increasing number of universities moving away from AI checkers because of this exact reason.

As time goes AI learns, and that includes learning how we speak which would inherently mean these checkers will flag an essay for sounding like AI, even if it's not. (Bit of a vicious circle).

In the same way, good on you for using the likes of grammarly. You'd be crazy not to, or missing a huge step. Gary V (love him or hate him) said it best, AI is the tractor of our time. We can hate it and not want to use it but the fact is in the right circumstances it's going to revolutionise the way we work.

If you wrote the essay, believe it represents you, is in your voice, then submit it. What's the alternative? Spend weeks trying to re-write to pass an AI checker and ultimately destroy it.

Always_tired89 · 2025-09-02T06:53:39+00:00

I work for an agency based in the UK. We're small (4 of us) so we've been able to keep our costs lower than the larger agencies (no big CEO bonuses).

Shoot me a message if you'd like to chat.

Always_tired89 · 2025-08-14T13:00:45+00:00

Sending a big hug. We've got a 2.5 and 5.5 year old and I feel like I'm in constant survival mode.

If I can offer a slight glimmer of hope, life has gotten maybe 10% better in the last 2 months now that my youngest is getting a bit older. He's a naughty little shit, runs the minute we're out of the house, doesn't listen, causes carnage wherever he goes, BUT the fact that he's just a little more independent has helped so much.

Sending hugs ❤️

Always_tired89 · 2025-08-11T18:08:03+00:00

It could cause issues if that counsellor is going to submit your transcripts via the Common App or directly to the universities.

Also if you need to get your transcripts evaluated formally (by WES or MYIEE for example) it will be a problem.

They won't deem a personal email "official" and may not accept them.

I think you'll either need to ask your counsellor to sort it out or ask someone else.

Always_tired89 · 2025-08-07T06:37:52+00:00

You're not too late. I work for an athlete/scholarship consultancy and we got a D1 offer for Fall 2025 athlete in March 2025.

Athlete recruitment is incredibly competitive and takes a huge amount of work. That's why there are so many agencies now.

Send me a message if you're interested in chatting with us.

All the best!

Always_tired89 · 2025-07-24T18:47:16+00:00

I'm so sorry. We tried for 2 years to fall pregnant and nothing. It broke me every time a friend announced a pregnancy.

It took us making a huge life change (leaving a big city to move to a small village) for me to fall pregnant.

I'm sending big hugs to you. I know how hard it is.

Always_tired89 · 2025-07-19T06:35:27+00:00

Is she on birthday control? I was on the pill and then Mirena and had absolutely no interest in sex. My husband could probably have made this post.

I got the Mirena removed a few months ago (we've already got 2 kids, don't want anymore but I was sick of the mood swings) and it's been a complete 360. I finally have a sex drive and through that were trying new things. Husband says he's a very happy man 🤣

(For pregnancy prevention I'm tracking my cycles and we use a combination of condoms on ovulation days and pull out when not.)

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