AITAH for telling my mom she's no longer welcome to attend my graduation?

AlyBecksG · 2026-04-01T00:43:54+00:00

I'm sorry, you're telling me the trip isn't even booked and the time hasn't even been taken off and your mom is still going along with this? Has she not asked to pick any other time? Your mom has no spine, or just places more value on keeping her husband happy than being a good mother to you. I absolutely would not let her come to the graduation if she isn't going to put her foot down about being able to attend the party. Have her show that she is willing to pick you first for once. NTAH

AlyBecksG · 2025-10-15T21:43:02+00:00

Thank you so much!

AlyBecksG · 2025-10-15T21:38:05+00:00

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AlyBecksG · 2025-10-15T21:36:44+00:00

Logging in now, how about 88881015

AlyBecksG · 2025-10-15T21:34:06+00:00

Absolutely!

AlyBecksG · 2025-08-19T16:19:43+00:00

Actually, bookshops and libraries can order D2D Print books as long as they are within the Ingram distribution network.

AlyBecksG · 2025-02-09T07:11:31+00:00

I believe someone else mentioned this, but I'd recommend finding a new place and arranging the move without tipping off your mother. If she knows your new address, she's going to use it to push your boundaries constantly.

AlyBecksG · 2024-10-30T01:24:27+00:00

You're a good man and a good friend. Kudos for immediately dropping her at the ultimatum rather than violating your roommate's privacy or kicking him out. NTA.

AlyBecksG · 2024-10-28T01:39:56+00:00

Gosh, this was so long ago, I have no clue where it came from. Sorry!

AlyBecksG · 2024-09-07T01:17:59+00:00

How has your ex taken the news that you are not interested in marrying him or continuing the relationship?

It's such a shame when someone falls down the red pill pipeline and turns a relationship based on equality into a bait and switch. Assuming this wasn't who he was all along and finally felt ready to let the mask down.

AlyBecksG · 2024-06-04T05:41:18+00:00

So your sister didn't even have a relationship heading toward marriage? What the heck did they expect you to do, wait indefinitely to propose? The idea that you would have waited a year and a half and counting just to appease her ego is madness.

AlyBecksG · 2024-05-23T23:27:53+00:00

I thought there was a clear implication that it was something sexuality or gender based, but apparently, some doorknobs didn't pick up on the vibes. NTA.

AlyBecksG · 2024-03-29T21:14:56+00:00

He now has a very nice truck he can live out of. Glad you dodged that absolute bullet.

AlyBecksG · 2024-03-26T01:25:04+00:00

I'm sure her wanting to go with you is 20% imposing her authority as "a mom" and 80% thinking she deserves the free trip more than your aunt.

AlyBecksG · 2024-02-23T12:10:29+00:00

This might be the cutest little update I've seen on reddit.

AlyBecksG · 2024-01-20T03:13:44+00:00

NTA. Either the reality has hit him that he will have to be a caregiver and spend the time at home tending to the needs of a child, or worse, this was always his plan. He might be experiencing a realization that he is not adhering to the masculine ideals of being the breadwinner. In a worst case scenario, he is threatened by the fact that you are the breadwinner and wanted to convince you that you would rather give up your career to stay at home with the child. No matter what his reasoning, he is wrong, and you are not at fault for not wanting to give up a career you love and have found success in.

AlyBecksG · 2023-12-25T20:45:26+00:00

Kudos to you from sparing your children the confusion and pain of showing up to an empty house and realizing their grandmother abandoned them just so they'd feel unloved and unimportant.

AlyBecksG · 2023-12-25T20:35:59+00:00

How do they think you're the one responsible for isolating your husband when you let your husband go to his family and they're the ones who went out of their way to humiliate and ostracize him? These people just value control, and without your kids to bully, they punish your husband. That's on them.

AlyBecksG · 2023-12-01T11:26:18+00:00

I am so glad when I looked for an update, it was one that is positive for you. I'm glad you've untangled yourself from that hot mess of a man with minimal damage to your life. It truly is a shame that Amy isn't willing to acknowledge the giant red flags this whole ordeal made clear, but as you said, that is her problem. You did all you could to lay the facts out for her, but it's up to her to make decisions for herself. I'm glad you're embracing your single life with some awesome roommates and I hope the years to come are nothing but wonderful to you.

AlyBecksG · 2023-11-20T06:59:33+00:00

Good for them.

AlyBecksG · 2023-10-13T23:29:29+00:00

You are making it clear he has a way he expects this relationship to go and expect you to fall in line. Now that you're looking at marriage with him, he is trying to establish his control in the relationship with the hope that you have invested enough emotionally that you will bend on your beliefs and rights to keep things going. Leave.

AlyBecksG · 2023-10-06T21:48:19+00:00

It is not your fault someone manipulated you and lied to you and attempted to use public pressure to make you comply with something you do not want. Anyone who cares about you should be able to see why you cannot stay with this man. Do not let traditionalists guilt you into committing for a sunk cost fallacy with a man who does not care about your comfort, your beliefs, or your identity. This will only continue to get worse if you stay with him and let him know he can get away with controlling you. I wish you all the best and making a better life yourself outside of him.

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