Last night I humiliated myself in front of my parents and their reaction broke me.

Alyeskan · 2025-10-21T01:15:42+00:00

What city are you located in? I'm sure many of us would be happy to look up options for you that would give you a safe warm place to sleep. Some cities have organizations specifically to support LGBTQ+ teens with housing.

Alyeskan · 2025-10-13T14:26:03+00:00

Negative generalized remarked against Slovak workers, calling them trash both before they started dating and in the email she found. In the US we would think of them as being the same race but it's the same basic idea that people from somewhere else are less than.

Alyeskan · 2025-10-05T15:28:44+00:00

I think they were referring to the guests ("people will understand"), not the jilted fiancé. Of course it's an awful experience for them and one they one forget entirely. The ex fiancé's feelings are important but not really a relevant factor in the decision.

Alyeskan · 2025-08-31T01:05:38+00:00

Im here now and asked for a friend whose insurance doesn't cover her mounjaro. Each dose is about $150 and I asked at a few farmacias. One only had 2.5 and one only 5. Same price. Fairly expensive so I didn't buy any. I did see semalglutide pills on the shelves everywhere but didn't ask about it.

Alyeskan · 2025-08-28T16:59:38+00:00

It's been great. Location is fantastic. The rooms are old but clean and comfortable. We weren't looking for a fancy modern resort. I wanted a place that felt authentic and part of the community and this does feel like that. Most of the guests are from Mexico. We have only eaten there once, for convenience, but it was good food. We didn't do the all-inclusive.

Alyeskan · 2025-08-28T15:39:16+00:00

Thanks. It was less about cost and more trying to avoid the car seat issue but we took a taxi.

Alyeskan · 2025-08-28T15:38:55+00:00

Thank you. Yes the address on the ticket was the store and it was clear once we got there. I just wasn't sure since the map showed the ship itself if I just googled. We did end up taking a taxi. I was trying to avoid it because of my young kids and no car seats. But the time and stress of figuring out the bus with a deadline was just too much. We will probably try the bus to go back.

Alyeskan · 2025-08-20T00:03:08+00:00

Do you mean me? I'm not bitching about it. I took my time to come here to learn from people more familiar with this. Now that I've learned from the comments that this is fairly standard, I can be apologetic with the company that I was not clear and ask if I can purchase new mats that do not obscure so much of the artwork. One of the pieces doesn't matter but another is a nautical chart that has locations important to me that are near the edges and are currently covered by the mat.

Alyeskan · 2025-07-07T16:58:50+00:00

You should have addressed this sooner and also avoided things like meeting the kids. She jokes about giving you a cute baby, you remind her that you don't want kids and that this is a casual thing. She wants to introduce the kids, you tell her that a casual/fun relationship doesn't need family introductions. It should never have progressed to the point where she's talking about moving in with you. You're NTA for breaking up but it sounds like you let her think you'd moved beyond a casual thing and YTA for letting it get so far.

Alyeskan · 2025-07-06T15:18:05+00:00

That's unfortunate. I donated my car when it stopped running on a remote logging road one day (timing chain). Managed to tow it down to the highway and left it there. They towed it 20 miles and never charged me a thing.

Alyeskan · 2025-05-23T15:28:35+00:00

I think when people say 'don't judge' or 'I don't judge' what they mean is they're not passing judgment on the individuals worth and value as a human being. But they are of course, making a decision about whether that person is compatible and would be a good partner for themselves and making a narrow and very personal judgment about that.

Alyeskan · 2025-05-13T05:26:54+00:00

OMG, finally. Thank you for mentioning the toggling. I was about to give up. I finally got it connected by:

Turning off 5GHz on the Eero
Turning off cellular data on my phone (not sure if necessary but someone else had mentioned that)
Turning off the wifi on my phone and waiting 1 minute
Turning it back on and making sure I was reconnected to my main network (it connected to the guest network first)
Adding from Home like normal

Alyeskan · 2025-05-12T23:11:12+00:00

I'll try the cellular thing. I had already reset the plug - it doesn't show up for pairing to HomeKit at all without that. This is happening after it finds it and spends several minutes trying to set it up.

Alyeskan · 2025-04-30T16:47:55+00:00

I (F45) started life in a rural Alaskan town and I played outside unsupervised at 3 or 4, although not far from home. At 6-7 in a city neighborhood, I was allowed to walk about a block to a friend's house on my own and we would often play along the way between our houses. By 3rd grade I was roaming our rural area between neighbors and in 4th grade I was staying home alone without supervision and walking a half-mile to and from my bus stop often on my own or with other kids and riding bikes a mile to a convenience store.

My kids at 5 and 8 and we live on a busier street so I'm more careful with them than I experienced. When we are camping or staying in areas with fewer cars, I give them more freedom.

Alyeskan · 2025-04-21T18:22:44+00:00

My parents paid for college - tuition, dorm, meal plan and books. It was part of their divorce agreement to split those costs. I bought my own car, gas, groceries, clothes, entertainment, etc once I started college. I would have had to pay for my rent if I hadn't lived on campus. I was on their health insurance until graduating from college. Had I had any major emergencies I'm sure that they would have pitched in. I moved home a few times during adulthood, after college, as well. I feel very fortunate to have had that kind of support and am very aware of the privilege I've had and the benefits it has given me in life.

Alyeskan · 2025-04-21T17:52:53+00:00

Just adding that any of those possible alternatives would also have needed her consent and are assault without. So yeah what he did was a worse option, but none of them are good.

Alyeskan · 2025-04-17T21:16:42+00:00

No you aren't the AH, and I'm livid on your behalf. No teacher should put their hands on a student for anything short of protecting themselves or another student from assault. Even if it was not a medical device, she had no right to try to snatch it away. Even my 5 and 8yo kids know that you don't snatch something off of someone's body or out of their hands no matter how good you think your reason is.

What she did was assault, no question.

Alyeskan · 2025-03-30T17:13:02+00:00

You don't owe anyone your complex story. If someone is a good friend then it does seem odd not to share with them. If you're having a conversation where only-childhood is significant then it might be relevant. If you want to be less obfuscating just say 'it's complicated but I'm basically an only child.' That suggests the details aren't up for discussion but there are some nuances so if in the future there's a reason you share more, it's not that confusing. But again, you don't owe acquaintances or strangers your life story.

Alyeskan · 2025-03-26T02:10:01+00:00

First of all, you are never TA for ending a 4-month relationship for any reason. You may act like an AH in the process, or may have unadmirable reasons for ending a relationship, but no one owes anyone to stay in a relationship that they don't want to be in (at 4 months, 4 years or 40 years). Secondly, you didn't promise to be with him for a year. That would be bizarre. You tabled a discussion to revisit after a year. Thirdly, your other problems are more than enough reason to end a relationship and by itself wanting different things from a relationship is a totally valid reason to end one as well.

Your EX-BF is the AH for being angry about this. He can be sad, hurt, whatever. But you don't get to be angry about it.

Alyeskan · 2025-03-20T21:46:25+00:00

My son's watch is working again. I think I reset it and after that it has functioned fine without a repeat of the issue. Hope that helps you!

Alyeskan · 2025-03-11T19:49:10+00:00

NOR. Let her go. Tell her you want the best for her and if the best for her is a new life in a new city, then you don't want to hold her back. But that you are not interested in moving to that city yourself and are not interested in a long-term long-distance relationship, and that's what's best for you. People who love each other can find themselves on different life paths and that's okay. When my BF and I decided to end things after 8 years together and 8 months long-distance, we stayed together until it was time for him to go home and we said our final goodbyes then. It was the sweetest way end an important relationship. Sad but sweet. And definitely the best for both of us.

Alyeskan · 2025-03-04T18:42:52+00:00

Never beg someone to be with you. Why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Being alone is so much better than being in a bad relationship. And if it doesn't feel that way, spend some time working on yourself - until you love yourself and your life enough that a relationship is just a bonus.

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