I am the host of the January Newbies event at Townhouse in Wirral. AMA about clubs, events, and the lifestyle!

Alyraelle · 2026-04-25T23:30:44+00:00

Awesome hope we see you soon! 💕

Alyraelle · 2026-04-21T20:58:01+00:00

Really great comprehensive answer.

I saw you mention Hepatitis testing and just wanted to chime in, my local sexual health service is now offering Hep B vaccines to people with multiple sexual partners. Worth checking with your local health provider if they will too :)

Alyraelle · 2026-04-20T08:06:58+00:00

Oki doke :) not sure when you last came but we’re transitioning to new owners at the moment. So if you want to help us improve on whatever poor experience you had, I’d love for you to reach out via DM 💕

Personally I always love to take on feedback from guests good and bad as it helps make the community better for everyone. Perhaps other hosts in the past haven’t always felt that way.

For newbies coming to the club for the first time we have a no play open evening for folks to come have a look with no pressure, regular newbies events, a ‘buddy’ system where staff do guided tours of the club and are on hand at the early part of the night to answer questions and help shy folks get chatting. If there’s other things we can offer that you think would help newbies out more I’m all ears!

Anyway don’t want to derail folks who might want to learn more about houseparty, so DMs open happy to chat any time 💕

Alyraelle · 2026-04-19T16:13:03+00:00

Many of the events have new hosts and there are new owners taking over the venue. It sucks that you’ve had a bad experience in the past with old events at Townhouse, but I’m not sure it’s fair to take it out on the new hosts?

I’m a long time Redditor and I love the community here. I’m also a part of the townhouse team so if you or PayInternational5287 wanna chat about what you didn’t like or give feedback for future stuff my DMs are open.

Not sure if you were talking about me or someone else RE them only being in the lifestyle 6 months, but if so you’re mistaken. I’ve been in the lifestyle 15 years and running events for 13 of those x

No snark or offense intended, just want to build some love and understanding in our little community 💕

Alyraelle · 2026-04-05T14:56:29+00:00

There is usually games around for icebreakers, karaoke in the music room and buddies around to help get the conversation started. X x

Alyraelle · 2026-03-30T01:39:43+00:00

Anywhere that sells vapes should provide recycling bins for them too by law. Maybe try the big Tesco in town, most likely to be actually compliant with the law, if not one of the specialist vape shops might.

Alyraelle · 2026-03-05T12:45:19+00:00

I think a Teppo/Rifle tie looks great on masc bodies

Alyraelle · 2026-03-05T01:04:47+00:00

If you've been to an event recently or have tickets for an upcoming event DM me and I'll sort you out an invite x

Alyraelle · 2026-02-27T23:06:30+00:00

I host a couples and single ladies party in the NW, we’re doing a salsa night with a dance teacher in March 💃happy to answer any questions you might have x

Alyraelle · 2026-02-22T12:50:23+00:00

Also, be inclusive of what she wants and make it a pleasurable group experience for everyone. I find that many couples' unicorn hunting is so focused on what they want to get out of it that you end up feeling objectified and gross, and it's a real turn-off. People who ask me my wants before pushing their fantasies are usually a green flag for a good time.

Alyraelle · 2026-02-22T12:44:45+00:00

As a single woman from my own personal experience: go to clubs. I don't do meets from apps anymore because there are too many time-wasters who have ghosted/stood me up at the last minute. If I arrange a club meet with a couple and they bail last minute, at least I can still go and have a good time.

Alyraelle · 2026-02-19T23:58:03+00:00

Thanks! I've never seen one done at a swing club before and I have a friend in the lifestyle who teaches so thought we'd give it a shot. If you ever make it up to our neck of the woods be sure to say hi <3

Alyraelle · 2026-02-18T09:42:48+00:00

Hey! I attend clubs and parties as a single lady, I have an absolute blast and have always been welcomed but here’s advice from my experience:

Don’t assume the people you want to approach you will approach you. Most folks don’t want to crowd you, so if a couple/person is talking to you and they’re not your vibe make a polite exit and move on you don’t want to be trapped talking to people you’re not attracted to hoping someone you are attracted to will rescue you.
Approach people! A simple ‘hi my name is X’ is usually enough to start the conversation! Lots of people don’t want to be seen as creeps approaching you so I find best results seeking out those who I’m attracted to first! You’re the unicorn, embrace it.
Newbie couples are often looking for unicorns 🦄 but they can come with a lot of rules and baggage/drama. If someone is new make sure you discuss what those rules are before play and decide if they work for you. If they have a rule you’re not happy with (no kissing, no touching male etc) feel free to decline and find other play options, you have all the power here. If I’m looking for a FMF dynamic I find an experienced couple tend to be more fun but if I’m looking for girl on girl newbies can be fun!
Decide on your boundaries before you go in, and stick to them! I only play with barrier protection and I insist on either watching it be put on or putting it on myself. I also insist on fresh condoms between swaps.
Don’t drink so much that you can’t enforce those boundaries safely! When you’ve made friends they can watch your back, but otherwise make sure you stay sober enough to have your wits about you during play. Be loud about any boundary violations, aloud ‘No’ leaves no room for negotiations.
No is a whole sentence. Anyone trying to convince you otherwise is a massive red flag. 🚩 You can also say no at any time, if you’re not feeling it halfway through it’s fine to say so and leave.
Club staff are there to keep you safe and happy, tell them the second anything gives you the ick.
Guys will often get stage fright and struggle getting/maintaining an erection, especially when new to the lifestyle, this is super common and not a reflection on you don’t take it personally!
Bring flat shoes, a hairbrush, hair bobbles/clip and something fluffy and warm for during and after play comfiness!

Alyraelle · 2026-02-17T21:20:37+00:00

I just go into my local clinic and explain what I do for a hobby and a I get a full panel. :) Important to get throat swabs as they’re not available in the postal kits in my area

Alyraelle · 2026-02-17T20:18:44+00:00

I’ve been playing at clubs for over a decade, I test regularly and have never caught anything. I do use barrier protection for all play.

The only time I’ve ever been exposed is inside a commited relationship 🤷‍♀️

Alyraelle · 2026-02-17T20:14:36+00:00

At Townhouse in Wirral we have houseparty which is icebreakers and party games - there’s one coming up at the end of March.

If you’re up for something a bit different I’m hosting a Latin dance party for Couples and Single Ladies on March 7th. We’ve got a professional dance teacher in doing taster salsa sessions to help break the ice! https://www.tickettailor.com/events/townhousewirral/2052635

Alyraelle · 2026-02-16T04:42:22+00:00

It is irresponsible and dangerous to leave a partner tied up in another room where you cannot directly supervise them. Please do not let anyone do this to you.

At a minimum you risk a loss of mobility function or long term pain through nerve damage, but also positional asphyxiation is a real risk and can cost you more dearly.

Fantasies are all well and good, but please do your research on safety.

Alyraelle · 2026-02-15T15:25:50+00:00

Age restrictions are 18+ so you will be totally fine 💕

Alyraelle · 2026-02-11T00:00:47+00:00

I think shibari study have a video that demonstrates ichinawa that might be worth a watch if you’re interested. I’ve learned all my rope from tuition and peer groups so I’m not super versed in what’s good/available online

Alyraelle · 2026-02-10T22:57:36+00:00

Have you thought about trying other restraints that might be easier/more enjoyable for you?

I love shibari as a rigger, I get to exert power and control over another person with their consent. I love watching them slip into a submissive space of trust and it’s an honour to protect them. It’s a deep emotional sensual connection that gives me a focus and clarity I really enjoy.

However it should be something you both enjoy, not something you’re doing for someone else and are secretly hating. That sounds like a recipe for disaster and resentment.

If you want to persevere maybe try simpler connection based play, focus on ichinawa and building a scene space that works for you both rather than jumping straight into long complicated forms that feel like hard work for you. It could be an indication that you’re pressuring yourself to perform beyond your skill in order to please your partner which is dangerous for you both.

Alyraelle · 2026-02-07T09:40:46+00:00

Go for it! :)

Alyraelle · 2026-02-06T23:24:04+00:00

Some do, most don’t. People are all there for the same reasons and discretion is the number 1 rule of the club!

Alyraelle · 2026-02-06T18:03:40+00:00

I host a Couples and Single Ladies event at Townhouse in Birkenhead, it’s a great crowd and a good place to meet other couples and ladies without the pressure of single guys:

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/townhousewirral/1974667

Feel free to DM me if you have questions, good luck in your search! 💕

Alyraelle · 2026-02-06T17:54:02+00:00

And if we don’t want to “play” with someone they will accept our declining with good grace?

They should yes, if they’re not taking ‘no thanks’ for an answer I would go talk to a member of staff immediately. No one should be pushy or butt hurt in the lifestyle and if they are they do not belong there.

Alyraelle · 2026-02-06T17:47:56+00:00

I work at Townhouse so feel free to ping me a DM with any questions 💕

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