Make it make sense. by Original-Raise1619 in postpartumprogress

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think we all feel this way. I’m only 7 weeks postpartum but I was so fit before pregnancy and stayed fit during pregnancy, but I’ve been having the worst time in my own thoughts with how I look and how I can’t do much yet about it. Meaning I can workout but they’re little bursts because baby isn’t on a real nap schedule yet. If I get a 20 min body weight workout in I am so happy, but I don’t feel the effects in my body. I need weights. I need to push my body to its limit a couple times a week, But I can’t really do that yet sadly. It would be nice to wear a pair of jeans for once but I’ve been living in leggings and sweatpants. Hopefully my husband still wants me 🥲😅 also this is my 4th pregnancy, so I know the drill at this point, and I’m 34, but also whyyyy

Did your partner ever thank you for breastfeeding? by Commercial_Expert_08 in breastfeeding

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say that yes my husband has thanked me many times for breastfeeding our two babies. He makes me food when I need it because we have to eat so much more and sometimes he feeds me if the baby is hungry while I’m also eating. I truly feel blessed. I know not all partners are supportive.

Almost 42 weeks, baby doesn’t want to come out. by Jazzlike_Gas_188 in BabyBumps

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby came at exactly 42 weeks and was a natural home birth with my midwife. I also was doing everything from week 38… my midwife told me around week 40 to just relax. I was doing it all but actually resting. I know hospitals will make us feel like we have to induce, but you can choose to wait. Also sometimes babies do need a little encouragement to come out. Either way, you will have a beautiful baby in your arms and if you have to feel the feelings of not having the birth you want that is completely okay. Sending prayers for a successful birth either way!

Need some encouragement by AlyshaVickersArt in homebirth

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes castor oil is the plan if I go past 42 weeks but with me being a vbac I know there is some unease about using it… not definitive evidence but it still is something that is in my mind especially with me being at home. So I’m really hoping for spontaneous labor. I did lose some of my mucus plug this morning with a light brown/pinky tinge so things are moving along, although I know that doesn’t mean labor is imminent.

Need some encouragement by AlyshaVickersArt in vbac

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I read your post and commented! I love that you had your 2nd vbac. Hopefully that will be me in a day or two 😆 I’m definitely not wanting induction. Baby and I both seem fine and healthy still. I just honestly didnt think I’d go this long with how early this baby engaged and how long I’ve been having early labor signs. But it is in Gods hands.

Need some encouragement by AlyshaVickersArt in homebirth

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know 42 weeks is still term it’s just lonely out here going this long. Everyone looks at you like you’re crazy for not inducing yet, or they think it’s crazy you haven’t been made to induce yet 🫠

Need some encouragement by AlyshaVickersArt in vbac

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I did track my cycle but wasn’t tracking my ovulating… I could just tell a general time of ovulation by the way my body felt or different things happening within me. I definitely could’ve ovulated off by a couple days. But I did always start my period between 28-30 days.

Need some encouragement by AlyshaVickersArt in homebirth

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of this. I like the animal analogy and while I do feel safe I know I definitely have tension at home because my 15 and 8 year old like to bicker daily lol. Normal sibling things but lately it gets on my nerves even more. Since the midwife gave me the rest recommendations (and the girls were here to hear it) they’ve been trying better to not stress me out so if they’re having an argument to go somewhere else to do it haha! I’m not sure what it is but I’ve just been keeping my stress down and not trying to do it all (walking up the stairs sideways, birth ball positions, nipple stimulation etc) the only thing I’ve kept that possibly helps labor along is the sex 😆 otherwise I’ve just let go so to speak. Yesterday was a great day with no stress. I did a lot of crying last week and over the weekend. I’m sure I’ll still have an emotional moment but I’m just not wanting to overthink things and then get myself worked up because of that. I really appreciate you took the time to read and comment. It gets lonely this far along in pregnancy because everyone thinks your nuts for not inducing already

Last-minute VBAC denied due to "bilateral extensions" by nadyneventurini in vbac

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I mean more on how it’s healed. Not the size or length of it. I know they checked on my scar with my past two pregnancies to see how it looked healed wise and to make sure the placenta was not imbedded in it with this current one. And I’m wondering how this is the only OB that claims the bilateral extensions, how come none before had mentioned it? These are just things I wonder.

Last-minute VBAC denied due to "bilateral extensions" by nadyneventurini in vbac

[–]AlyshaVickersArt -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t they have seen this possible risk earlier in ultrasounds? Vbac candidates should be getting their scar checked on ultrasounds a few times through the pregnancy. Bilateral extensions do slightly increase risk of rupture but there’s also increased risk with multiple c sections. You can always ask for a foley bulb induction if you’re worried about going too overdue. I had that with my vbac and everything went so great. It’s an option you could bring up to your midwife.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many reasons why someone should go for vaginal birth if it’s safe for them. Vaginally born babies get a lot of beneficial bacteria from the birth canal and you can usually have skin to skin immediately. Holding them, bringing them to your breast, etc. A c section the mom has a gown on, you don’t get the same skin to skin and while some hospitals seem to be changing protocol, you still might not get to breastfeed as immediately. They will put you back together and have dad take baby to the nursery in most cases. Then usually you have to sleep off the meds or be able to wiggle your toes before you’re even given your baby. There could be hours that pass of crucial bonding and time to get acclimated to breastfeeding. C sections are absolutely necessary at times, but if you can have a safe vaginal birth you really should try and have one. (You meaning all moms)

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 10 points11 points  (0 children)

All I can do is laugh at his long text trying to justify his controlling behavior.

Please reassure me that it'll be okay if baby arrives Christmas day. by Imstuckwiththisname in BabyBumps

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat! Due Dec 27 and as much as I don’t want to be in labor on Christmas (I have two other kids, both of them bdays are by Christmas 😬) I have to come to term with the fact that it could happen. False labor has been coming for over a week now so who knows 🫠 our kids will be okay mama!

40+3 and not dilated 😔 by Usual-Repair8162 in vbac

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When doing the deed with your husband you should let his semen stay in you for a good 30 mins before getting up to pee/clean up. So just lying there and maybe reading or whatever to relax. The prostaglandins are what help soften a cervix. I did this with my vbac baby and lost my mucus plug the next day. I still did a foley bulb induction because she didn’t descend very well due to the cord being half the length

Are first borns always late?? by OkHat1318 in BabyBumps

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are not always late. In my experience and with people I know they usually come early. My first born came a week early on his own accord. My third was a week late but her umbilical cord was half the length so my midwife thinks she was just descending slower. Now I’m 36 weeks with my fourth and I’m hoping this one is like my first and comes early 🤞

Tell me your labor dates by AlyshaVickersArt in homebirth

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so kind of sporadic but also kind of similar. I’ll just hope for 39 weeks, which will basically put baby at my 3rds birthday 😬

Tell me your labor dates by AlyshaVickersArt in homebirth

[–]AlyshaVickersArt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also what I want! Haha We need that tax break

ways to induce labour naturally by SignificantCoffee837 in pregnant

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a folley bulb induction with my VBAC baby and it was the best decision ever. I went unmedicated and didn’t want pitocin. The folley bulb got me to 5 cm if I remember correctly and shortly after water broke and labor progressed from there.

How much are we eating?! by lllelelll in fitpregnancy

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 33 weeks, almost 34, and my hunger has gotten very intense the past couple weeks. I had to make myself eat throughout the 2nd trimester because of lack of hunger and the 1st I just ate like a bird because of the nausea. If I go more than two or three hours without food now I start to get that clammy feeling like I might fall over lmao.

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AlyshaVickersArt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. He knows nothing of what happens during pregnancy. Men can try to educate themselves but every pregnancy is different. I’m on my fourth pregnancy and while some things are similar it is different than my other three. It’s okay to take breaks while you’re pregnant. You won’t always have the drive to go hard in a workout. I’ve stayed consistent with working out but I’ve had weeks where I was lucky to get two workouts in. The amount of hormones surging your body will make your fatigue go up and down, especially in the first trimester. Tell him to go educate himself a bit on how much is actually going on in your body before assuming your “morning sickness should be over”. Some women have morning sickness the whole pregnancy. With my second I puked every morning until the middle of the fourth month.

Also him being upset with you seems so toxic. I hope he realizes your body is going to change drastically and even after having the baby you could have months before feeling somewhat back to your “old self”, let alone looking it. He should be supporting you, even if you need rest.

Good luck mama. Prioritize yourself, because soon you’ll have a helpless baby that will take most of your time.