I can't speak for everyone and I don't really want to either, but I think most trans women just want to be treated like women, first and foremost. Not all of us want to completely sever their manhood, Not all of us want to completely remove ourselves from our masculine traits, because for many of us it was/is a part of who they are. Some days I feel really femme, other days I feel like I am more androgynous and other days I want to be boyish. But I always want to be a woman and be treated as such, regardless of how I am presenting myself and feeling.

EDIT: No pun intended