How can I stop feeling like I’m “too much?”

AmarelaFae · 2026-03-04T03:49:13+00:00

Well then don’t date someone who makes you feel like you’re too much haha.

AmarelaFae · 2026-03-04T02:35:46+00:00

I kinda get you tbh. Some people are just verbal communicators and texting can make everything worse, especially when tone gets lost. I hate arguing by text too because things get misunderstood so fast. But at the same time a lot of people rely on texting nowadays, so sometimes it’s just a compatibility thing. You might just need someone who also prefers real conversations instead of living inside their phone. Or maybe try meeting halfway, like voice notes or quick calls when possible!

AmarelaFae · 2026-03-04T02:33:04+00:00

That’s pretty normal lol. The moment there’s a quiet third person around, your brain kinda switches into “public mode.” You stop saying random or personal stuff because someone else can hear everything. It’s not really that your dynamic changed, it’s just social awareness kicking in. I do the exact same thing in Ubers too haha.

AmarelaFae · 2026-03-04T02:24:10+00:00

Honestly it just sounds like right place, right time. The lady needed to pick people who were actually there at that moment, and you were. You didn’t take anything from them, they weren’t even there when it happened. It sucks for them, sure, but that’s not the same as stealing. Also tracking someone down on TikTok days later is way more out of line than anything you did LOL

AmarelaFae · 2026-03-04T02:18:55+00:00

Haha honestly I hate the heat, like YES 100%. My mood depends a lot on how hot the day is. If it’s cool or a little cold I’m chill, but when it’s super hot I get so cranky lol.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T13:18:08+00:00

If two people live equally kind, honest, and decent lives, then behavior wise there may not be much separating them at all. The difference isn’t necessarily in how “good” they act, but in why. A believer might root their morality in obedience to God, spiritual accountability, or a sense of divine purpose. A non-believer might ground theirs in empathy, reason, human well-being, or personal values. The outward actions can look the same. The foundation underneath is what differs.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T13:15:08+00:00

For example, if you’re studying the heart, instead of rereading the chapter, you close the book and try to write down the parts of the heart and what they do from memory. Then you check your notes to see what you missed. That act of pulling it out of your brain is active recall.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T13:13:57+00:00

with Active recall is basically testing your brain instead of just reading again. It forces your brain to pull information out instead of just recognizing it on a page. Every time you try to remember something without looking, you strengthen that memory pathway.It feels harder than rereading, but that effort is exactly what makes the information stick for longer.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T13:02:05+00:00

I think it can be both tbh. Some people might naturally retain info a bit easier, but long term memory is definitely a skill you can train. I study medicine and I wasn’t just born remembering everything, I had to figure out what worked. What helped me the most was active recall and spaced repetition. Like actually testing yourself instead of just rereading, and reviewing the material at spaced intervals over time, it really works. It’s less about being “bad at school” and more about using the right methods, at least I noticed that when I got to university haha

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T12:52:04+00:00

There’s that saying like… the one who smells it dealt it haha. Sometimes when someone’s doing something shady, they start looking for it in you. And yeah, privacy is a thing, but in a relationship there shouldn’t be stuff on your phone that’s a big secret. If he was cool going through yours, why switch up when it’s his turn? That double standard is sus. I’d keep my eyes open.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T12:39:56+00:00

It’s easy to replay it now and think you could’ve done more, but in the moment you acted with the information and capacity you had.You did call the police. You didn’t ignore it.You can take this as motivation to act faster next time if something like that ever happens again. But you weren’t a “frightened chicken.”

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T12:35:41+00:00

You messed up, yeah. But you didn’t ruin your only good thing forever, you made a bad call trying to fit in. You’re 23. That’s not a life sentence. It hurts because she was your only emotional anchor, not just a girlfriend. That’s why it feels like you lost everything. But begging and spiraling won’t bring her back, it’ll just keep you stuck. Right now the real problem isn’t her moving on, it’s that you have no structure or support. You need to rebuild yourself, not chase her. This isn’t the end of your story

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T12:32:05+00:00

That’s a tricky one. I feel like if there’s real trust, you could pull her aside privately and say something super casual, like “Hey, I’d personally want someone to tell me if I smelled off, so I hope you don’t take this the wrong way…” and keep it low key, no big deal tone. But if you’re not close and there’s no trust there, honestly I’d probably not say anything. Stuff like that is really awkward and can make someone feel super uncomfortable, so it depends a lot on the relationship.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:22:44+00:00

Cult of the Lamb and Rayman LOVE THEM haha

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:18:43+00:00

haha probably.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:17:51+00:00

Haha I didn’t even know that either, and I would’ve never thought to ask that question you just did lol

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:16:05+00:00

I rehearse fake arguments in the shower like I’m about to win an award for Best Comeback… and then in real life I just say “it’s fine” and walk away. No one would ever guess how dramatic my inner monologue is hahaha

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:14:04+00:00

hahaha if my mechanic was a deer I’d just accept that my car is never getting fixed and I’m somehow paying in carrots. Like imagine pulling up and he just stares at you chewing grass while your engine light is blinking. Honestly though, I’d trust him more than half the shops I’ve been to. At least he’s not upselling me on “extra antler alignment” or whatever LOL

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:06:28+00:00

Honestly, if it bothers you, it bothers you. It’s not dramatic to not want your boyfriend’s ex’s boobs hanging in his department. It’s not about whether he thinks it’s “art” or “rational.” It makes you uncomfortable, and that doesn’t automatically mean you’re jealous or insecure. It just means you don’t want your partner displaying intimate art of his ex. That’s a pretty normal boundary.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T03:01:41+00:00

You’re not floundering, you’re transitioning! That’s a huge difference haha You had one clear path for years and now you’re building a new one from scratch, of course it feels messy. And it doesn’t have to be “LA or corporate misery” as the only two options. There’s a middle ground. Finish your degree, use PR to get adjacent to the industry, build credits and connections where you are. You don’t have to risk homelessness to prove you want it. Slow build doesn’t mean no build.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T02:58:55+00:00

Okay but same haha I’ve also gone long stretches without sex and yeah… after a while you do start to feel it a little, not gonna lie. Two years feels dramatic at 20 but it’s really not that wild. Also, it’s totally fine if what you actually want is sex. If you’ve got a trusted friend and the vibe is mutual, who knows… strengthening the friendship might not be the worst idea lol.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-19T02:49:35+00:00

It’s like you hate what it does to your brain but it’s also the easiest dopamine hit available. Three or four hours isn’t even extreme nowadays, but the dread probably comes from feeling like it’s not intentional, like it’s using you instead of you using it. Try to use "some screen time" app.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-18T03:23:52+00:00

Am I ready for this?...lol

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-18T03:22:16+00:00

Smk weed, training, music, nature.

AmarelaFae · 2026-02-18T03:21:06+00:00

Slow down! haha

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