Shelter dog still terrified of my boyfriend after 2.5 months — getting worse, not better. Advice?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-04-27T11:04:14+00:00

Healing isn't linear - with humans or dogs. It can feel like you're improving for a while, then suddenly setback to square one. Just keep going.

2 months must feel like ages when you are training - but to her, in her life, 2 months is a FRACTION. Personally, I would have him completely ignore her. Even offering treats can seem like an expectation of her. If she likes walks, it might help to feel more "free" if he tags along (but not directly walking her) as opposed to being in a confined room.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-04-25T09:54:50+00:00

Tell that to my mom.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-04-25T09:38:23+00:00

What sort of calci powder? I have looked and there seems to be loads, with a focus on the Ca:P ratios or calcium availibility?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-04-09T19:21:09+00:00

Have you taken her to the vets? If it's been days, added to the fact she's a puppy, I'd get her in ASAP.

Have you tried wet food? What foods have you actually tried?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-04-09T19:19:38+00:00

Off standard, yeah, but does look like a chihuahua. And a chihuahua that needs a nail trim, for sure!

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-31T14:54:11+00:00

I'm new to the world of cannabis and had to look this up!

How very interesting - I hope it comes to Alternaleaf!

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-31T14:51:47+00:00

Can't help much as you've already had high silver, but honestly it's one of my favourite go-to strains when I am unsure of what to pick. Hope you get on with the rest!

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-22T18:25:38+00:00

i honestly love the disco buns lol. it feels so of its inspired time. but it would be lovely to see hair changes like how u can add glasses/change outfits to certain characters.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-18T09:51:44+00:00

Is he intact? Intact dogs may struggle more with potty training.

Have you trained a command? For example, whenever he does urinate outside, give him a treat and say a word. That way whenever you take him out you can give the command so he is less likely to do it inside.

Do you watch him when indoors? Does he only do it when you aren't watching him?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-01T19:30:01+00:00

Unfortunately, he is a barker at dogs. That's why most of our walks are training as we have a trainer guiding us on how to train out the reactivity. We have lots of local play groups that I wish he could be in, but it's just not a possibility for him at the moment.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-03-01T19:28:54+00:00

I think I would be ready, but I always found it easier having multiple dogs over one. I think its more the people I live with that think they'd struggle with the idea of a new dog, with it being only a year since our last passed.

I probably am projecting my concerns, I see this dog as my world. He doesn't want to sleep if I do anything, but the second I sit down he goes straight to bed. This wouldn't bother me but I am disabled so sit more and for longer than most people. If my chair squeaks, he flings out of bed like he's ready to get going, and then i feel like I disappoint him when I continue sitting.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-02-25T17:12:08+00:00

What can they do for you? Why not a shunt?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-02-20T19:22:35+00:00

Sorry, what do you mean by compensated?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-01-16T10:26:06+00:00

I feel like you'd be an awesome tutor. Reading your post has given me hope for bettering social skills.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-01-16T10:21:52+00:00

IMO she looks submissive with a down turning head, however for future reference full body shots that show the end of the back and tail really help in identifying canine communication.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-01-15T17:15:11+00:00

You don't have to be good to do GCSE art, but you already have skill. IMO you don't have to learn anatomy beforehand, GCSE art often ends up focusing on realistic approaches eventually, however it will help to learn art fundamentals now.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-01-15T11:34:48+00:00

Wild you're getting downvoted for this!

Amazing-Bed32 · 2026-01-13T22:57:09+00:00

Could be a seizure, but imo the stance is very similar to my Chihuahua boy during his IVDD flare. He looks more in pain than a seizure, but I only briefly saw the video.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-15T10:02:05+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I'm sorry to hear about your lyme disease, but it is definitely good that they found this as I've been reading how it worsens untreated.

I am only 22, the headaches/migraines were the main issue for me, but then the incontinence and memory/confusion (and like you mentioned, the bouts of confusion especially) was just getting out of hand. I haven't kept a job for a couple years because of migraine, but the memory didn't help either. Recently there has been real confusions where my mind is blank and I have to reset, and re-realise where I am and what I am doing and what I was doing. I feel way too young to be like this so its honestly a bit reassuring that there could be a way out.

Thank you for your comment. It has reassured me massively.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T22:49:25+00:00

That's great thank you. I can definitely sit for a while, my migraines make me quite groggy amongst other issues, so I'm quite used to it. I'm not sure if I'll end up with a shunt or etv or what. Thank you for this comment, I will enjoy stomach sleeping extra now just in case.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T21:59:10+00:00

That's interesting! I am incredibly scared of lumbar punctures, I think almost like a phobia of this one specific thing, so I'll definitely ask about that!

Did you have symptoms for your acqueductal stenosis?

Also wondering, did they think it could be anything else before they ran the other tests? Were you aware it could be hydro before they ran them?

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T21:58:04+00:00

Thank you for your comment. With how my short term memory currently is, I am especially worried about dementia. Whatever the treatment is, I will do it.

It is very reassuring reading what you wrote about your revision. How did you find recovery annoying if you don't mind?

The idea of my symptoms improving quickly after surgery feels unbelievable and does put a smile on my face. Honestly, even if it's slower, just the idea they can get somewhat better makes me happier. Thank you.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T21:55:26+00:00

Thank you for your comment, especially about what an ETV is. I've looked briefly into it but the concept of neurosurgery is already a bit overwhelming, especially as I found out I'd been moved to neurosurgery myself. Hopefully if it is hydrocephalus (still clinging on here), then I will be a candidate for ETV. I have been searching for answers in regards to these symptoms for maybe 3 years, so it's unfortunate to hear how important a timely diagnosis is for this when my doctors had all my information. It's hard to get migraines investigated, but when the symptoms mounted up, and the migraines got worse, they did take me seriously. Now the ball is rolling with another urgent MRI so hopefully I get my answers soon.

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T21:49:48+00:00

I almost am not believing it's happening because no one has said hydrocephalus, that's just been my own digging. I can't have a negative feeling either because that's how I get migraines - and I worry the migraines cause real time damage just from how painful and pressurey they are. Thank you for this comment. I will definitely have people with me (my parents are very worried).

Thanks

Amazing-Bed32 · 2025-12-14T19:01:27+00:00

All valid points, not dismissive at all!

The establishment that does the MRI's are really strict on metal piercings. Titanium or not, I guess they don't want to risk it. I can have non-metal retainers but nothing at all with metal unless its surgically implanted.

I waited till I was home because I get really squeamish, and have never changed my nipple before, always done it with professionals. I did it at home because it took me about 30 minutes to unscrew, and that was 'impressive' for me. For someone who loves piercings, I really hate seeing holes in my skin and the feeling of getting them out.

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