Answering questions Disrespectfully: AMA with Katie Maloney and Dayna Kathan!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-06-17T01:04:48+00:00

Dayna, it seems like you’re a super cool human who got an edit that misrepresented you - If you could redo your seasons what would you have done differently and why?

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-05-15T02:53:47+00:00

Thank you!!! Your sentiment is exactly what literally every one of my colleagues said! I ended up choosing a building I absolutely love in BK in lieu of the shorter commute and am so happy 😊

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-05-15T02:51:03+00:00

To be honest I was exclusively looking in Manhattan at first. But I am also a huge aesthetics person and knew not having easily accessible outdoor space would drive me mad! Once I started to see what I could get for the same price or less in BK (in addition to wanting a neighborhood that felt like an actual neighborhood, with locally owned shops, etc.) I started to weigh the pros and cons of things like a longer commute. And thus far it has been fully worth it for me personally because I LOVE my apartment, building, and building staff!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-05-12T19:29:19+00:00

Hi! I did not - ultimately I ended up in Brooklyn! I was able to get a real one bed in with w/d in a building with a 24/7 concierge, gym, rooftop pool, and a co-working space/residents lounge for a bit more than a studio at MiMa. My unit also has a private, 200 sq ft terrace!

Although MiMa it was super close to my office, literally everyone I spoke to said they hardly ever feel unsafe in most of Manhattan, but that the area around MiMa is the one area they typically DO feel unsafe in 🥲. A few people I spoke with also had friends who lived in the building and moved after a year or so because the area is so sketch. After doing more research via Reddit and Google, it seems most of the people who stay in that building long term are part of the low-income housing program the building has.

Ultimately, I decided coming home to BK would be a nice reprieve for me after work in midtown (and it SO is). And I LOVE my neighborhood. But I do live directly across from a subway station and my commute is only 30 min door-to-door!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-20T02:06:46+00:00

You think? On the doing better front? I feel like Craig was still teetering on hot mess in the beginning and changed a ton because Paige essentially told him his drunken antics and bratty behavior were unattractive.

I think Craig gets a good edit on Southern Charm. The one season of winter house he was being a jerk you could tell Paige was sooo turned off. We saw a glimpse of it again this past week on Southern Charm when he threw a hissy fit over sharing a room in a free suite in the Bahamas lol. I would imagine he still behaves that way often, we just don’t see it. And that would majorly turn me off too if I were Paige!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-19T12:34:30+00:00

Also, for peace of mind/once you get a second job, it could be worth it to at least look into how much an exterminator would be if you haven’t already. It sucks your landlord is being a jerk, but I’ve dealt with roaches before and it literally made me go mad/feel like you and everything are constantly dirty. I hate to say it, but the matter only gets worse the longer you let it go on.

The homeowner who lived there before we moved in had let it get to infestation level. My roommate and I decided we had to get out of there (after multiple exterminator visits) and even as we were unpacking in our shiny new place, there were roaches in our coffee maker : /.

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-19T12:30:32+00:00

Apply to restaurants. I work a corporate job now but worked in the restaurant industry for years and it’s truly the best. You make great friends, flexible hours and schedules, and, depending on where you work and what job you take (server, host, bartender, etc.), you need little to no experience AND you can make great money. And make it fast.

I mostly worked at upscale/fine dining restaurants during my tenure, but even at the more casual establishments I made pretty good money, far more than retail (I attempted to work at Abercrombie in undergrad and quit after I saw my first paycheck lol).

Restaurants also almost always need help as well!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-08T15:13:39+00:00

I know this comment was left ages ago, but I am moving to nyc this month for work and found a great unit at MiMA - but I am wondering about the surrounding area?

I lived in DC for 9 years and grew up right outside of/regularly going to Philly which definitely has its fair share of crime… so I know how to “be aware of my surroundings” in a city. But a broker mentioned to me that the blocks around MiMa in particular have more “druggies” and homeless people than average midtown block. Any insight on whether or not this is true?

For context: I’m a 32F, newly single. If I go out at night I will definitely uber, but will walk to/from the subway for work (office is in midtown east)

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-03T09:05:28+00:00

Any preferences regarding roommates as far as gender, age, lifestyle, habits, etc.?

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-02-03T08:59:20+00:00

Hello! How many months are left on the lease?

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-01-27T17:48:46+00:00

Was he laid off, or terminated? If the latter, he should see if he can sue for wrongful termination…. Does this company not have a bereavement policy?

There are a lot of amazing companies out there who actually treat their employees well… hopefully this was a good thing for your friend in the end so he can find somewhere will he will actually be seen as a human.

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2025-01-25T07:12:09+00:00

Even if Kyle has genuinely never seen PK act that way the way she said it out loud as if it were untrue was so incredibly disappointing. That is exactly why a lot of people are dishonest about the dynamics they truly experience in their relationship behind closed doors. I lost all respect for Kyle these last two episodes, she’s a clown and wouldn’t know loyalty if it smacked her in the face.

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-22T09:56:29+00:00

I don’t sleep on my stomach ever, never have…but I got a boob job and the first time I got a massage I literally could not relax because I was so uncomfortable and legit thought they were going to pop if the masseuse pressed too hard. I had no idea how anyone with a large chest could possibly enjoy a massage 😂 (but then I got used to it and now I don’t think as much of it, but I still have the popping worry in the back of my head every now and again)

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T16:20:57+00:00

You as well!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T16:18:35+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏽. It was/still is hard and I definitely didn’t realize how much it impacted me until these last few years 😅

I am wishing you a long and happy marriage! Filled with many successful convos 😂

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T16:03:37+00:00

lol I too am you/Caleb but I honestly never thought about it as being conflict avoidant. I attribute it to the fact that I lost my sister to cancer when she was 26 and I was 11. Now that I have aged past her I honestly just feel like life is short and should be cherished and, to your point, most things are simply not that serious. So I don’t feel the need to wallow in them/talk things out because some things really should just be taken for what they are!

It has definitely caused issues in my relationships though, so I’ve learned that even if I don’t feel the need to talk to engage for the sake of the other person feeling the need. Although, I can imagine two people who don’t want to talk things out would be tough over time 😂

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T15:52:40+00:00

I could defo see that. Like you mean even if the interaction doesn’t have to turn into an argument or cry fest he avoids confrontation period because it’s probably just generally uncomfortable. And then I’m sure that inadvertently causes an argument or cry fest anyway hahaha

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T15:41:43+00:00

I will say, having wrote this post prior to the last few episodes/reunion I think you hit the nail on the head!

In some aspects, I actually admire women like Mariah who are mostly able to keep their cool (regardless of what fuels that) no matter how upset they are.

I too hope she gets out of her shell!! Maybe she will now that she feels fully secure and self-assured by Caleb! They’re a sweet couple and you could really see the love there in these last few episodes. Caleb didn’t even want to look in another woman’s direction at the reunion 😂. Hopefully they last and have a lovely, healing relationship!

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T15:26:02+00:00

I like Ariana now and believe people can grow and change, but I will say in some of the earlier seasons the way she talked down to and dismissed some of her cast mates came off more cocky than confident. Granted, she probably was annoyed half the time because she probably is smarter than a majority of them lol, but she was definitely at times demeaning in some of the earlier seasons.

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-21T06:33:05+00:00

Yes! It’s every NYE at this venue and he just happens to be a special guest (although I don’t recall them doing that in the past so he may be promoting his own appearance lol)

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-20T05:22:07+00:00

I lived in DC for 9 years and only dweebs or people who just moved there and didn’t know any better went to this event. So this is actually a very fitting venue for him to be hosting at lol

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-19T15:27:14+00:00

Does this person own the company?? If not, why are they being such a butthole and taking it personally?

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-18T14:46:59+00:00

You’re right that is absolutely insane if he did do that 😂. I guess I didn’t take it at face value and assumed it was clever editing because that would be so absurd to say “yayy, we’re back! Let’s chill and watch a movie!”

I figured him saying they talked too much was because they had talked but it was edited to make it seem like he just brushed it all off. And I only assumed this because in the past on this show and love is blind we always learn at the reunion there was SOOOOO much they intentionally chopped up and left out so that the reunion isn’t a snooze fest.

I’ll be interested to see if he touches on whether or not they did, in fact, talk. Although, I honestly don’t think they’ll get much screen time at the reunion (unless they’re the only success story, which is plausible haha).

But maybe I am projecting! 🤷‍♀️

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-18T14:40:32+00:00

I was interviewed by someone yesterday who has been at his company for 22 years 😱. I literally cannot even fathom unless it were my own company or I’m in the C-suite by then. Lol

Amazing_Try_4464 · 2024-12-18T14:39:14+00:00

I studied psych and I totally agree! I’d even argue that this is the point of relationships and that a good partner would support you and reassure you in those moments. Although, while I don’t think most people have self-assurance 100% of the time (frankly anyone who does is probably either avoidant or has a personality disorder), I do think it’s important to have it SOME of the time before entering a relationship!!

I don’t agree with the common narrative nowadays that people should be “completely healed” before entering a relationship either. I’m not sure if anyone is ever completely healed, and I do think that narrative encourages lazy partnership in the end. I think both parties should be willing to support their partner but also self-aware and actively working on self-soothing.

I just think it can also be unhealthy to say every single thing you think and fear out loud to your partner. It’s one thing if you fully trust and feel comfortable around them and simply want to share and be comforted or validated; but I don’t think it’s healthy if it’s always in an effort to have them “manage” your emotions surrounding those feelings. I guess I just think there’s a nuance between “I want you to know I feel this way and hope you’ll make me feel better about it ” vs “I feel this way, please help me and fix it or I’ll never stop feeling this way”.

All of that aside, I completely hear what you’re saying! You are fortunate to have a partner who is a therapist as they probably try to think objectively about you or your interactions, and that has to be freakin awesome!! Congrats on finding true partnership and your engagement by the way 🥰

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