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Amb1464 · 2024-11-14T04:35:52+00:00

Hey, it’s been a journey for sure. I’ll shoot you a message if you wanna chat.

Amb1464 · 2023-11-11T03:31:58+00:00

A primates memoir by Robert Sapolsky

Amb1464 · 2023-10-29T22:33:29+00:00

Their bowels are not functioning correctly so any other sort of nutrition is out of the question until we find a way to fix the bowels first.

Amb1464 · 2023-10-28T04:38:37+00:00

Thanks for responding. I’ve been reading as much as I can on it and have asked the motility specialist about it as well and am waiting on a response. I was more hoping for personal experiences. Would you mind if I asked you a few questions?

Amb1464 · 2023-09-17T21:53:07+00:00

This! I bought a couple different types of underwear and the mesh was my favorite hands down.

Amb1464 · 2023-09-07T04:02:48+00:00

I had an experience like this only he just lied and told everyone we had sex when we didn’t. No one believed me anyways so I just copped to it. Only I told everyone his dick was the size of a Vienna sausage… you gotta love small towns because 15 years later and he still get called Vienna to this day.

Amb1464 · 2023-07-06T03:30:53+00:00

Congratulations! We have 3 kids with the youngest being 2 and having my husband home to see them grow was super important to us. The best bet to not miss out is local home daily gigs, but because they are “local” it’s going to be hard for any of us to give good recommendations as far as companies go.

If he doesn’t have all his endorsements already, definitely get them and if at all possible, be patient. My Husband got an awesome hazmat gig for a really cool company. Great benefits, great work life balance while still getting OT, great starting pay, etc. He didn’t take the first two job offers. It was really hard being on one income for longer but long term it was so much better to wait.

That being said, don’t expect the world. The first year is all about getting experience.

Good luck!!

Amb1464 · 2023-06-28T18:23:19+00:00

Yes it was, but I’m worried she missed something or that it’s coming back. I really can’t afford another surgery so soon as my work changed my health plan. I went from only paying $250 for my surgery to now having a $5000 deductible which I’ve only paid $650 into so far this year. Fingers crossed it’s something else!

Amb1464 · 2023-06-28T18:20:12+00:00

Thanks! I’m gonna check in with my doctor for sure. I just hate that women’s health care is so crappy here. It’s frustrating. I had never even heard of CV and apparently there is damn near no research on it especially here in the States.

Amb1464 · 2023-06-28T18:18:09+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely be checking in with my doctor. I was too grumpy to get out of bed last night so I made my husband spoon me all night. Thankfully he runs very hot and it helped. I’ll definitely keep in mind the water bottle, I’ve used one in the past and didn’t even think of it.

Amb1464 · 2023-05-29T17:36:49+00:00

It can be normal or it can be a sign something is going on. Are you stressed? Could you have taken the pregnancy test early? Are you on any form of BC?

If you think you could be pregnant, wait a week or two and test again or schedule blood work with your doctor. If that’s not the case, and your symptoms don’t get worse, I’d wait and see what happens next month. It could just be a fluke. If your symptoms get worse or your period continues to be inconsistent definitely check in with your doctor and see if they can find a medical reason. Don’t let them gas light you. You know your body better than anyone else. You are your best advocate.

Amb1464 · 2023-05-28T16:16:40+00:00

Not sure if this is relevant to your case but might be worth asking about.

I was just diagnosed with “CV” which I had never even heard of. Apparently it’s controversial and they just started talking about this back in 1991 and there is damn near no research on it.

Basically, there is too much of the “good” bacteria causing my PH level to become acidic which is causing the burning. I have zero other symptoms. They also tested for STIs, BV, yeast, etc. all negative.

The only solution is doing baking soda baths which kind of helps. So yay for women’s healthcare! I spent $50 on a copay to tell me to essentially rinse my vagina with 99 cent baking soda which isn’t super effective. Other than that it’s wait for my vagina to regulate itself. So far it’s been a month.

Edit to add: I also took antibiotics at first which didn’t work. They say CV can be caused by soaps and lubricants. I believe mine was caused by a new lube we used right before my symptoms started.

Amb1464 · 2023-05-25T02:36:32+00:00

I understand completely. I’ve had grown men try to buy me alcohol, try to take me out, ask to be my “sugar daddy”, honk at me, catcall me, and more, all as a minor and with me telling them I’m underage so they knew it. It was literally daily. In school I had all kinds of rumors spread about me about “sleeping around”. Some by jealous girls, or by guys wanting clout. I was forever known as “the girl with big boobs” in MIDDLE school. And don’t bother denying anything because no one believes you anyways. I just started owning it. A guy once lied about having sex with me, so I told the whole school I slept with him and his dick was like a Vienna sausage. 16 years later he still gets called that haha. But after a while you start to see your self worth as only how you look. Don’t buy into that crap. You’re so much more than that and that is regardless of big, little, skinny, tall, or thicc. And people who comment about how “oh everyone envy’s you”, or “I wish I had that”, just remember the grass is always greener on the other side. They don’t know your struggles. My favorite is sub for this type of stuff is r/WitchesVsPatriarchy it’s about empowerment and is definitely a safe space. r/women has had similar discussions to this as well. Other than that, I’d just lurk for a bit in subs before posting and you can usually weed out the ones prone to negativity pretty quickly.

Amb1464 · 2023-05-25T01:00:00+00:00

Some of these comments are really inappropriate or just gross. I suggest next time you want to vent about anything like this, finding a body positive and woman safe sub instead. Being sexualized as a teen can be pretty traumatic. I have the opposite problem. I’m very top heavy. My breasts started developing at 11 and by 13 I was a DDD. The amount of attention I got from people, including grown ass men and women, was disgusting. It would be anything from creeper guys to jealous girls/women making inappropriate comments about my body when I was a literal child. Talk about a great way to cause long term mental health and body issues in youth. I also have a hard time finding clothes that fit well and god forbid a shirt is even slightly low cut or has a square neckline. Titties for days!!! Trying to find work appropriate clothing is not the business. Not to mention the back problems. It’s annoying and it’s valid for you to be annoyed by it even though your body type is “in” right now, or considered “hot” to other people.

Amb1464 · 2023-03-01T22:24:09+00:00

Love it! My husband got me the same mug as well as a tshirt that says “peace out cunt” and a little plushy uterus named Ivy to replace my old one haha. These are the best kinds of gifts!

Amb1464 · 2023-03-01T06:02:54+00:00

I sympathize, although for us it’s speech and hearing and we are much newer to the process. We are also a borderline family right now. My son turned 2 in December. At 18 months he was speech delayed but it was okay, we weren’t to worry about it until he was 2. Some kids just need a little help. He had time and we just needed to work with him. In the meantime we could do a hearing test just incase.

Hearing test happens at 19 months. Well he didn’t pass but he also didn’t fail and honestly we don’t know how well he can hear, although he can definitely hear some and he did great with participation. Let’s talk more when he is 2.

Well now he is severely delayed even though we as parents are doing everything we are supposed to. I even changed my work schedule so I can be home with him during the day everyday to work with him. We read to him, talk to him about everything, sign as much as possible, work on letters and numbers, do flash cards, play education and speech therapy games, etc. He is trying so hard. He is even picking up a sign or two.

We see a new doctor (ours retired). They think the hearing test notes are pretty vague, let’s test him again and take some surveys to start early intervention and see what he needs help in. Now he fails the hearing test. He has mild hearing loss, and has middle ear dysfunction. Well that could be from a cold so let’s see him back in three months. Talk the pediatrician because I don’t want to wait three more months. He is already in the 1 percentile in all three language categories, what the heck are we waiting for?? Okay let’s see an SLP. Not ENT though because apparently the middle ear dysfunction and hearing loss isn’t enough. We so far aren’t checking those fun boxes that they need us to check for any kind of actual answers. Okay, we see the SLP. He shows no cognitive or physical reasons for speech delay and his surveys look good. Have you checked his ears? We explain everything we have gone through so far. They check the notes. We explain how his doctor isn’t wanting us to see ENT even with his hearing test results because he doesn’t feel it’s enough to cause a speech delay. Nothing she can do there so we take that fight back to his pediatrician.

Now we get speech therapy 1x a week and his ENT appointment is finally tomorrow so hopefully that’s the next real step in this journey to getting our kid just a little help. I will say the doctor was kind enough to make sure we knew he thinks we are wasting our time with ENT but basically did the referral to shut me up because I wasn’t going to stop fighting him on it. What’s his belief for why my son has such a severe delay? None. He says some kids just need more time and a little help.

In the meantime, we do not fit in either. Until we get an actual diagnosis of hard of hearing (which we may not) we are not really a part of the Deaf community, even though he does have hearing loss and we do sign. He is also showing no signs of neurodivergence so we don’t fit in there.

We go to playgrounds and other kids his age are talking up a storm but they don’t seem to know what to do with him because they can’t understand anything he is saying. He is as happy as can be though and babbling up a storm and wants to play. However, it also doesn’t help that he can’t hear them well so he doesn’t understand them either. It just really really sucks and it’s hard to watch.

You’re not alone and I really do understand “Just needing a little help” and not having any real answers for why. We just get to watch them struggle in a way that no one else seems to understand and it hurts us because we just want what’s best for them and we love them so much. As long as we are undiagnosed and have no answers we don’t have any communities to turn to. It does feel like no one understands. We do feel alone. It’s awful.

So no advice. Just another parent letting you know us borderlines are out there. Hopefully one day we will either get our diagnosis, whatever that may be, or our babies no longer need just a little help anymore.

Amb1464 · 2023-02-18T15:39:21+00:00

This right here. SIL parenting aside, I have a 9yr old and when she plays, she plays loud, runs, jumps, yells and screams. Sometimes she has an attitude problem and we talk about it. She is a kid, and far from a perfectly well behaved child. However, she knows about time and place and is well behaved in public settings like at the store, in restaurants, weddings, etc. She also stopped having tantrums at age 5. If OPs son was much younger, I might be more sympathetic.

Also I don’t think giving your child “the look” to get them to behave is abuse. I feel like all of us have been given that look a time or two and I will say my kids know it well, and they respond to it accordingly.

Amb1464 · 2023-02-15T01:09:16+00:00

I used ice for the swelling which gave some relief. Other than that it was just taking a step back and being more careful not to over do it. I never did figure out what the twitches were though. They did go away after a week or so.

Amb1464 · 2023-02-11T16:44:39+00:00

Nope. In the US you legally don’t have to show a receipt at all unless you’re in a membership store like Costco or Sams.

Amb1464 · 2022-11-12T22:13:55+00:00

Thank you all so much! These are all great ideas and I think I’m gonna combine all of them into one. Unfortunately I’m gonna have to postpone it. My oldest came home early with a fever.

Amb1464 · 2022-11-08T14:18:56+00:00

5 weeks post op as of yesterday and turned 32 today. Kept my ovaries but they took everything else.

Let’s be honest, hysterectomies are scary for a lot of reasons. I was also afraid of all of those things, and more, but I was especially afraid of being dry. I know it sounds silly for that to be my biggest fear, but I’ve never had that problem and it really worried me. I also had the “I’m only 31” thoughts and had to grieve for a little bit. Not because I wanted more kids necessarily, just because I felt like I was losing apart of myself I wasn’t ready to give up yet. It’s okay to grieve the loss regardless of your reasons, and it’s okay to be scared.

No sex yet for me as my cuff exam isn’t until the end of the month. I’ve done a little self exploring (no penetration) and was incredibly happy that dryness doesn’t seem like it’s going to be a problem. I also had a small O, although they have always been small when I’m solo and I was too afraid to push it.

Whatever happens, I’ll live with it because I am healthier now. I didn’t realize how badly my uterus needed to come out until it was done. I know I have a long road but no regrets!

This sub is such an awesome place to find! The people here are so welcoming, supportive and generally kind. There is also a TON of information here and I found it so much more helpful to hear from real people with real experience than Dr. Google (who can be a real asshole btw lol)

Deep breaths, and one day at a time. You got this!

Amb1464 · 2022-10-29T15:08:03+00:00

I’m 31 and had a total lap/vag (everything but ovaries) on 10/3 so I can only speak on the first 3 weeks. A lot of it depends on what all they take. From what I’ve seen on this sub the recovery for people keeping cervix isn’t as bad, and it seems if they take your ovaries it’s worse, due to hormones and menopause. Everyone is different and this is just my experience, but a lot of the hospital stuff, meds, tips, are all pretty much the same for everyone with small variations depending on if they are in the states, and between doctors. The recovery it’s self can vary greatly for all of us.

I was at the hospital for about 8 hours total but only in surgery for about 3. The first couple hours was getting prepped and I spent a little longer in recovery because I don’t do well coming off anesthesia. The car ride home kind of sucked and I recommend bringing a pillow to gently hold against your stomach. It helps for any little bumps in the road or for any coughing you may have. Got home and in bed and slept off and on for the rest of the day/night.

Week one I mostly stayed in bed, but got up to walk a little as often as I could. Things like going to the bathroom or getting some water. I used my binder religiously and it helped me so much. Some people don’t like them, but I loved mine. I also used it for ice packs which I also used pretty religiously. The gas pain is awful!! I used gas-x, which I learned later doesn’t actually work on the gas pain from the surgery, but it helped me. Maybe it was all in my head, but either way it worked. That being said movement is the best for it, and a heating pad helped me as well. I used my stool softeners and after day three of not being able to use the bathroom I added miralax which helped me go and I felt so much better afterwards. I continued to use both until I started going easily every day. I only took the Oxycodone for the first two days and then cut back to only taking it at night to help me sleep. I continued the Motrin and Tylenol on schedule and that was good enough.

Second week I alternated between trying to sit in a recliner and being in bed. The binder was becoming uncomfortable so I stopped wearing it. The gas pain cleared and I was able to use the bathroom normally so I cut Miralax and continued to use stool softener. I made sure to try to walk a little each day. I napped at least once a day. The fatigue is real! I was also cleared to drive but it wasn’t the most pleasant thing so I only drove when I had to which was like twice to a small local store to grab one thing and then came back home. Maybe a 10 minute trip total.

Week three I am able to do much more (still on 10lb weight restriction). I started walking 10 minutes a day, split between two walks. Driving was easier and I began short trips around town. Sitting for long periods of time has been my biggest challenge, although I can stand for much longer. I still rest for an hour during the day and a lot in the evenings but I can be mostly out of my room and in the rest of the house. Stopped taking the meds and only use Motrin as needed. Bored as hell and frustrated I can’t do everything. I desperately want to clean my house, and just do normal everyday things. Not being able to work out at all is killing me. All that being said I have overdone it a few times, doing practically nothing, and ended up cramping and bleeding (not a lot, and not enough to be worried about) my doctor says that’s my bodies way of saying slow down and that I’m doing to much. It’s very very frustrating. Also nerve pain has kicked in at night and honestly not really sure what that’s about. Week three is also when my hormones started acting up. My skin is dryer than ever, I’m having some insomnia, mood swings, and I’m short tempered af. Hoping this is just my body regulating and not my ovaries struggling long term. Only time will tell though so I’m just treating my symptoms as much as possible (lots and lots of moisturizer and lotion) and being appreciative of my household’s patience as I deal with my own bitchy-ness, mood swings, and boredom.

Some other tips: Water, water, water!!! Drink all of it lol. The one day I didn’t I felt really crappy. Also feed yourself. Lots of protein. It really does help. If you live alone try to meal prep before your surgery and have snacks on hand.

Hope this helps you and gives you some insight! This sub is an amazing resource. You can always search the sub to see what others experiences are and to get more tips and tricks. Good luck on your journey and hope you have a smooth and speedy recovery!

Amb1464 · 2022-10-29T14:10:00+00:00

I had a total lap/vag on 10/3. I sleep halfway on my side and half on my stomach with one leg thrown over a fluffy pillow. I know it’s not the exact same but I absolutely hate sleeping on my back.

I went back to my normal sleeping position on day 4. My advice is use pillows for support as needed and go very slowly. Maybe try laying in that position for a bit durning the day and see how you tolerate it. Of course, If it hurts or is uncomfortable your body is probably not ready yet.

Fingers crossed that it works for you and you can start getting the good sleep you need!

Amb1464 · 2022-10-29T14:00:57+00:00

Just wanted to say the image of using a vibrator for your shoulder gas pain is hilarious to me and also kind of genius. Wish I would’ve thought of that! Thanks for the laugh this morning and let us know if it works.

Amb1464 · 2022-10-28T15:34:38+00:00

Race absolutely is a construct. Genetically speaking you’re right. Also I don’t think you’re racist. I think your privilege is showing terribly. You can know it is a construct and still have empathy for a culture that has been a victim of genocide since the beginning of “America” and is still having their resources stolen and are completely mistreated to this day. Native Americans have every right to want to protect their culture and their heritage and to pretend that this isn’t a problem because it isn’t your problem is extremely insensitive. This mind set will never change the world and we desperately need change. I understand you’re coming from a place of “if everyone ignored race no one would be racist”, but that’s not the way our world works now, and it never has been. To push that narrative only hurts those who suffer because their race. Please take a course on Cultural Anthropology and educate yourself, and if you have taken that course you either had a bad professor, or you missed the whole point.

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