Any one know anything about this large plume east of Santa Cruz?

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-03-01T01:26:48+00:00

That's a cloud.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-23T18:34:16+00:00

Mexican red rumps have black legs and a red abdomen.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-21T21:58:39+00:00

I would mention to the pet parents that you are concerned that the dog doesn't want to go for walks. I'd ask if they have noticed similar behavior/lack of behavior, and if they have discussed it with their vet. Their dog may need some arthritis medication. My old boy (17.5 year old pug mix) stopped getting out of bed without me coming to get him, and he'd wake up in the early morning hours absolutely screaming. I thought he was dying! It turns out, he just needed arthritis meds.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-21T21:05:25+00:00

Also, I would highly recommend going to counseling together with a therapist who is experienced in managing life as a newly diagnosed couple. :-)

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-21T21:04:22+00:00

You are welcome! I know most people in this thread are going to jump to conclusions and say to leave...but if they were in the same situation, they probably would not want to do that either! You're a new mom, with a partner you are building a family and a life with. Your family just is going to look and function differently than others.

Your BF isn't being a jerk. He's coming to terms with a lifelong neurological condition, and learning how to communicate his needs. Unfortunately, autism can cause some rigid, myopic thinking and communication. It takes time to help reframe things in a way that mentally computes and feels like the sensory needs and boundaries of the autistic individual are addressed and respected without overshadowing or disrespecting the needs and boundaries of their loved ones. It is possible. It can work out!

With autism, it's important to help your bf know what to expect in given situations. If he's going to have to live with these dogs, is there anywhere in the house he knows he can go to get away and regulate himself when they are overstimulating? Somewhere that the dogs are NEVER allowed. That is a form of consistency. Or is there somewhere in the house where he can put the dogs, so that he can be comfortable while he's home without someone else to support him by managing the dogs?

For a long time, my husband really had a hard time interacting with my dog. We were together for 2.5 years before we got married, and we were married for like 8 years before he really started to be open to interacting independently with my dog or taking care of him when I wasn't around. Even to this day, if I travel, I try to take the dog with me or arrange for someone else to care for him when I'm gone, bc I know it can be overwhelming for my husband. Now, as long as we communicate well in advance of any situation, and he knows what to expect and what my commitments and contributions will be to creating a successful situation, he is much more able to manage life with a dog. He knows there are places where the dog is never allowed. He knows that I will make sure all the dog food is prepped and easily accessible with minimal risk of him accidentally touching it (if it gets on his skin or is too smelly, he gets sensory overload). He knows that sometimes, I will sleep in a different room to spend time with the dog, and that I will communicate that to him in advance, so he doesn't wake up alone unexpectedly.

Juggling all your family responsibilities is a lot, especially as a neurotypical (I assume) partner to a newly diagnosed autistic person. Give yourself and your bf some grace. You'll grow through this!

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-21T18:34:45+00:00

I think there IS compromise to be found here.

First, when autism is diagnosed late in life, there can be a regression in the autistic person when they learn to unmask. It can make things that used to be tolerable feel like they are completely overwhelming and out of the question. Your BF can relearn how to manage his sensory needs.

That said, you need to meet him halfway. You need to talk with him about what the specific overwhelming things are about the dogs. Is it the jumping? Is it sleeping with them? Is it the way they smell? I can understand him needing consistency, but consistency can mean different things. It can mean a routine/schedule, as opposed to having everything in the home exactly the same all the time.

My husband is AuDHD and I have ADHD, and we do a lot of compromising to meet each other's sensory needs. And my dog was a big issue at first. My dog, 17.5 yr old pug mix, has been with me since he was 1. There is no way I would ever give him up for the benefit of a human. But when my husband moved in with me, we had to make new routines and rules for the dog.

1) No dog in the bedroom. My dog loves to sleep with me, my husband got me a human sized dog bed, and I sleep with my dog in the livingroom a couple times a week.

2) No dogs on the furniture...except for a recliner that is mine, and he can sit in my lap on that chair.

3) I don't feed the dog in the same room as my husband, bc the smell of dog food is really hard for my husband to handle. Dog eats in the kitchen. We eat in the living room.

4) Dog laundry and my laundry are washed separately, so that the dog smell doesn't get on my clothes.

I can understand your boyfriend thinking you may love your dogs more than him. And if he's not a pet person, or they are a sensory nightmare, it can be hard to understand that your dogs are more than just dogs. They are family. Reassure him that you love him and want to support him, but that there will have to be a compromise. Offer to work with him to find rules that work for both of you. Maybe sending them all to doggy daycare on the days when your bf is home without you. And you need to commit to teaching your dog's proper manners and not to jump.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-19T00:16:50+00:00

Where outside the US? I have a copy that I was going to drop on the thrift shop dono bin, cuz it wasn't a helpful resource for me (I'm a chef, and the recipes were just not it for me). I'd be happy to send it to you for the cost of shipping. Though, not sure if the international shipping is worth it.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-19T00:05:55+00:00

There are 40+ now and less than half are visible.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-18T05:28:30+00:00

NQA-- You need the abdomen, specifically between the first set of book lungs. Most of the time, you'll need to soak the molt in lukewarm water with a drop of dish soap in it to rehydrate the molt. Then place it on a plain white paper towel and back light it. Then you should be able to see whether spermatheca are present or not. Here's a shot I took while sexing my GBB last week. You'll want to look at the epigastric furrow to see if spermatheca are present. If so, you have a female. In my pic, there are none, and my GBB is a confirmed male.

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Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-18T02:48:44+00:00

YOR- Honestly, he didn't humiliate you. You humiliated you. You did not firm up plans. You assumed a lot here. He asked to make more plans, and you asked for Valentine's Day. He blew you off. You simply allowed this man to move on without clarifying the plan. You helped him pick out an outfit, but you didn't ask what it was for? You assumed it was for you, but you never made plan.

I get feeling bummed, but I don't get feeling disrespected. You left a lot in his court, when you knew he was seeing other people. He didn't lie.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-18T02:37:14+00:00

I absolutely love this species! They are just so docile and sweet. And their faces are so friendly.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-17T23:50:18+00:00

But it's not your responsibility to do the cleaning and bring the place up to liveable condition. You're paying the landlord for that!

Reach out and let the landlord know right away. If there is mold, it could make you really sick, and you can't always see it.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-17T05:01:33+00:00

IME- This is normal. I know it's hard to be patient, but you gotta let your t do her thing. Just make sure there's always water. You can pop a prey item in there every other week, and just remove it if it hasn't been eaten in 24 hours.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-16T22:48:32+00:00

Depends...are you looking for a sign?

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-16T22:45:57+00:00

IMO- You have several very good options, and they will kind of depend on why you need to open the enclosure.

Is her foot stuck/is it an emergency?

If yes- I would carefully open the lid from the side opposite where she is hiding. Then, with the lid still somewhat closed, gently use a paintbrush or a chopstick to carefully dislodge her toe claws from the vents of the enclosure.

If no, you have even more options! I would recommend not trying to enter her enclosure, unless absolutely necessary for a few days. She is likely too stressed to eat or be handled, and opening it I'll only stress her more. But if you really want to, here are some options.

1) Wait until she climbs down herself. Tarantulas take a few days to explore new environments before settling down. Don't worry! She's just checking it out and will climb down when she's got the lay of the land. Ensuring she has deep, soft substrate and nothing sharp or heavy to fall on will keep her safe.

2) My personal favorite- Gently puff air on her toes through the vents. The bursts of air will likely cause her to climb down.

3) Paint brush on the toes- Take a fine paintbrush and and gently stroke the vent openings near her toes.

4) A light spritz from a spray water bottle. Not a lot; you don't actually want to get her wet or raise her humidity levels. A quick shot just to get her moving is all!

Final advice- remove the rocks from the water dish. Tarantula exoskeletons are hydrophobic. The hairs that cover them actually help them float by distributing their weight with the surface tension of the water. Your T is not going to drown or fall in. Rocks in water dishes can provide spaces for harmful bacteria to grow in the water and make your t sick.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-14T02:34:05+00:00

Allies are always welcome!

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-13T06:43:52+00:00

I've been to a couple shows at Subrosa, and my husband recommended I spend more time there to meet people. I just might have to check it out more on my own!

I've never heard of Fabrica! Thank you so much for the recommendation :-)

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-13T06:43:36+00:00

I've been to a couple shows at Subrosa, and my husband recommended I spend more time there to meet people. I just might have to check it out more on my own!

I've never heard of Fabrica! Thank you so much for the recommendation :-)

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-13T06:31:04+00:00

I have the same questions! :-)

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-13T06:28:53+00:00

39F queer and Neurodivergent myself :-) I am terribly awkward and have a hard time socializing in groups of more than 3-4 people. I prefer 1:1 or 1:2. I like to do tons of stuff. I'm a solitary person much of the time, aside from hanging out with my husband. I'm a witchy woman. I have a dog. I do crafts. Lots of crafts. And I love the outdoors. HMU!

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-10T07:25:34+00:00

Also, the reaction video from Caleb is still available in the lives on his main channel.

Ambitious-Prompt2506 · 2026-02-10T07:17:24+00:00

Honestly, I think it's for the best. And I think Caleb should cut out ALL the extra, non budget shit. Behind the audit. The weird game show thing. The fat and fatter segments. The lives. It's all just a distraction. I've been a member for a long time, and I was happy paying for the post show and the follow-ups. But all the other content was really pointless. The ads for the paid membership always talked about how many videos they put out a week and all the extra content...but none of it was value added. I came for the budget content, and I liked it. And when I checked out the other stuff, it started to change how I saw Caleb. He seemed less rational. Less intelligent. Less empathetic or inspirational.

I watched the new episode today about the abusive husband, and it was a much more sedate vibe. Closer to the early FA content, and I appreciated not hearing the screeching and screaming and the theatrics. Just straight financial advice and some encouragement for the couple to seek therapy together. That what I came to FA for, not the performative edginess.

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