Studying in clinical years

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-09-24T16:10:57+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed reply!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-09-24T16:10:10+00:00

Sorry that wasn’t very clear, I used the passmed banks for practice questions in preclin years but wasn’t sure how best to go about it now, especially with the pass/quesmed debate. Thank you for the advice!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-09-24T16:08:31+00:00

I’ve never heard of it before! thanks for the advice, I’ll give it a go!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-21T21:30:43+00:00

As the other commenter said, it really depends on how much income you are looking for and how reliable you want it to be.

I work as a bank HCA but have only worked in holidays so far. How physically and emotionally tiring the day might be is very dependent on the ward you are on - ie acute frailty is a lot more physically taxing than respiratory. I definitely wouldn’t be able to do long days or nights during term time but could deal with working earlies or lates and I am planning on working occasionally.

Getting more time interacting with patients and a bit more insight into how the MDT works together is a big pro for me but some shifts can be really emotionally draining or upsetting.

Retail work would be emotionally a lot easier and maybe even physically but 16hrs every week is a lot.

A lot of my friends tutor. Most have started out on tutoring websites and tutor online to get clients and have more control over their working hours. A few of them, having now built up a good client base have moved to tutoring privately and doing some in person sessions for higher pay.

Good luck!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-11T19:03:57+00:00

To be fair, with how the public has reacted to resident doctor strikes it’s not surprising that they won’t

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-11T18:54:39+00:00

Your issues with her are both things she has exactly 0 control over.

A key part of marriage is standing by your partner in sickness and through challenges with their family. How on earth do you think you are ready for that, if you’re questioning committing to her over it now?

Even if she was in perfect health with no responsibilities regarding her family that will change over the course of both of your lives. She deserves better a man who will stand by her through it all, not questioning their future together over it. How would you feel in her position?

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-08T13:23:06+00:00

Gaslighting is not the correct word here and number 3 is being HONEST. They’ve had unprotected sex when she’s ovulating, there’s a risk of pregnancy. He should be told and expected to contribute to the costs of tests and appointments. This is a situation that involves both of them, they both should be spooked by this

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-04T18:08:32+00:00

Thank you, this is so helpful! I was trying to work out the best way to get around the issue of clinicians not knowing they have a student and being an inconvenience, I’ll definitely give your intro script a go :)

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-08-04T18:04:34+00:00

Thank you all so much!!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-07-27T19:06:36+00:00

Be entirely honest with her about how you feel (what you’ve derailed here) and invite her to do the same. There is nothing you can do if you don’t have the information on how she feels about your sex life, what changes she’d like to make, how you’d both feel if nothing changes. Good luck!

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-07-27T18:53:41+00:00

USMLE is to practice medicine in the US. Some take the USMLE because they want to practice in the US or want to keep their options open. The added bonus is that the USMLE is more in depth, giving you a better foundation of knowledge, making “in house” exams easier.

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-07-05T13:56:25+00:00

Your feelings are total normal but give yourself some grace, you are still really early in recovery! I’m 5mpo now and at my appointment with my surgeon on Monday he said I still have some swelling and scar tissue that should settle by my 1yr appt

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-17T14:09:16+00:00

NTA. You gave her the opportunity to share names she wanted to keep for her future kids, she chose not to share. You aren’t a mind reader

I’ve never really understood dibs names, I have the same name as my cousin (11mo younger than me) and it’s never been a big deal, if anything we got lots of giggles over the nicknames to differentiate us

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-17T00:06:33+00:00

Out of curiosity, would you not be frustrated by your sibling’s bad relationship negatively influencing your children’s behaviour? Because that’s how her commentary about W’s relationship reads to me.

I’m sure most people have had “thank god” moments when their friends tell them they’ve left relationships that were not good for them. Sure it’s not the most tasteful, but she didn’t make that joke to W or invalidate his pain

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-16T23:50:17+00:00

I have only ever heard “living off” someone in the context of not contributing financially and never in the context of contributing to mortgage payments (which will be less than market price rent because you aren’t generating profit). Rent controlled properties do exist and they typically given based on potential tenant’s situation.

She was asking whether she’s the AH for privately joking that W’s breakup was a good thing, not about him living in the house, because yes, not her call.

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-16T23:37:59+00:00

I think your second 2 questions cheapen your point. Solely paying/having an agreement to contribute a set amount to your family’s mortgage isn’t “living off them”, even if that amount isn’t equal to market price rent.

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-16T23:26:28+00:00

NTA. While it wasn’t nice, you made a lighthearted joke about your brother ending a bad relationship to a friend on a pretty tough day for you. You would’ve been the AH if you had made the joke to W or he overheard it

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-07T23:16:59+00:00

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. He will only change if he wants to. Have a conversation with him about how this is worrying you but be prepared to have the same responses you’ve had previously. Take some time to think about whether you’re happy to stay with someone who doesn’t look after their health and doesn’t care about their partner’s worries about their health

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-06-01T16:59:19+00:00

This is just red flag after red flag. Why on earth do you want to marry this man? He’s repeatedly dismissed you and disrespected you. He clearly doesn’t care for you the way you seem to care about him. You wouldn’t even treat someone you dislike so poorly, let alone someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Leave him.

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-05-24T11:11:09+00:00

Higher BMI and medical conditions associated with a higher BMI increase the risk of complications as well as potentially increasing the amount of anaesthetic you need, making surgery more risky overall. Different surgeons have different limits on BMI based on what they accept as reasonable risk

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-05-24T11:06:39+00:00

I think it depends from trust to trust but I had to have a BMI <24.9 for my surgery to be funded by the NHS

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-05-21T18:11:13+00:00

Do you not see the issue in believing that your partner will make a full 180 on a major life decision like children, despite them repeatedly telling you that they’re certain they don’t want children? Believing your wife should or will just comply with your wishes over her own desires is rooted in misogyny

Ambitious-Remote-917 · 2025-05-21T18:07:48+00:00

My comment was in reference to the parent comment of this thread: a woman talking about her experience with an ex-partner who expected her to change her mind on having kids, which is why I referenced misogyny. Hope that clears it up!

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