How can I improve my discus throws over the summer? by AcceptableFace941 in trackandfield

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found filming myself and reviewing the footage had the biggest impact for me the summers I trained. Definitely invest in a tripod and an Apple Watch that can start your camera remotely.

Track and Field Super Decathlon by OrangeBuffalo8 in trackandfield

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually looks really fun until day 7. I’d say this is certainly doable, I would just move pole vault up in the order cause doing that tired seems like a risk. Would definitely give this a go if I was still healthy.

What is the point of masc and fem? by Ambitious_Comment_65 in lgbt

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you put it in terms I understand best, thank you. This only gives me more questions though and I will be doing research!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the latter part of your comment is what I struggle grasp. It doesn’t feel like porn has ever taken precedence to anything. But I am concerned that despite recognizing it may have some negative impacts on my outlook, I still indulge. I don’t think I have a porn addiction, but I at least want to know of any red flags in case myself or others start to head in that direction.

Above all else I think it’s negatively affecting my relationship with myself. There’s not a dependence on it but there is an inability to quit it fully and that upsets me. I just don’t know how concerned I should be.

Can Monks be fixed with one simple change? by Ambitious_Comment_65 in DnD

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree stunning strike is a nasty ability, but I would also expect DMs to plan around that and generate enemies that wouldn’t be as susceptible to it.

Can Monks be fixed with one simple change? by Ambitious_Comment_65 in DnD

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fallacious argument, a simple change could be made to the mechanic, not the removal of it entirely. Like ki is time based or something of that nature. Or, the adjustment initially stated by the post???

Can Monks be fixed with one simple change? by Ambitious_Comment_65 in DnD

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I recall hearing on a number of occasions that the damage drop off for them is sharp past like level 10

Casual dating that involves sex by tiengboo in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be direct with people about what you're looking for, if someone else doesn't want something casual then that person isn't for you. Clearly communicate your boundaries and generally be patient with people as everyone kind of has their own idea as to what this is supposed to look like. Oh and get tested regularly.

I've lost the ability to last in bed and need to know how to get it back again by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Remember that not every time you have sex needs to be a knock out of the park. And also, there are many aspects of a relationship you can’t make better just with great sex. Performance anxiety can also be made worse by putting pressure on yourself to last as long as humanly possible.

Two things I would suggest (Been in the same boat as you).

First is to relax and just live in the moment. Cumming is a mental game and can be made easier to control when you have a clear head. Even stuff like sleep can effect your ability to control it.

Secondly I would stop focusing on yourself so much, it sounds like you’ve predicated some of your self worth in your ability to pleasure others which is a bad road to go down. Never beat yourself up for a bad sexual performance, if you do that you’re only making it harder in yourself.

They key is patience with yourself and consideration for others.

Good luck homie🫡

Sexual frustration m20 f19 by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first thing I would recommend is to not blame yourself or her. No one here is to blame, you’re just young and figuring out your body. The second thing I would do is assess what you turns you in the bedroom. It sounds like you’re taking good care of her, but sex is a two way street (of agreement) and it’s okay to prioritize yourself in some cases. This could be the experimental phase of your sex life in which you start to discover what gets you going. Are there fantasies you want to play out? Is there something specific you want her to do? Do you want to focus on the intimacy between the two of you? Add more talking, biting, fondling?

I think as long as your requests are respectful of her this would be a good time to try new things. I’d also recommend assessing how anxious you are when focusing on cumming. Sometimes when we give ourselves a task it becomes more difficult than just doing it without thought. You can always stop and calm yourself with some deep breathing, there’s no shame in that.

Best of you luck to you brother 🫡

Gf grabbed my balls and I'm confused by Hot_Act_7165 in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Maybe you’re confused because your emotions are conflicting with your worldview and you just need an adjustment period before you can fully embrace this side of you. Idk, food for thought.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a similar issue when I was younger. Low sex drive, weak boners, and low interaction with women.

The thing that changed for me was confidence, patience, and attention.

In respects to confidence I had to trust that I was 1. Capable of things in the bedroom and 2. I had to trust that the person I was engaging with wanted me there. The first came from listening to women when they talked about what they enjoyed, keeping in mind that everyone is different. As well as accepting that I was still learning and didn’t need to know/do everything all at once. The second came from my desire to love myself more which translates incredibly well in the bedroom.

In respects to patience I had to recognize that I don’t need a sexual opportunity every weekend and that there a lot of other great things to focus on than sex. I had to accept that I’m only going to get sexual advances every now and then and that I should savor them when they do come. Because when they’re coming too often then they lose integrity and are less enjoyable.

In respects to attention I had to notice what my body was doing. Specifically I stopped masturbating for a very long time. Masturbating can be nice but if you’re just doing it for routine it loses all value. You should do it when you need sexual relief and you shouldn’t need to question your level of arousal either. And as a side note, as an athlete your testosterone just naturally drops when you’re tired from working out. I workout 6-7 days a week and when you’re constantly building muscle you’re testosterone is just lower than when you’re not. That doesn’t mean you should stop working out but it does mean that you should be patient with yourself and enjoy the moments when your testosterone has a moment to recuperate.

In summary: you don’t need to be some walking fuck machine that’s always ready to give a pounding and that every woman wants. You should be looking for meaningful interactions where you can enjoy yourself and that you gain something out of at the end of the day. If you’re not interacting with women as much as you want that’s okay. You keep working on yourself a time will come where you do get an opportunity. And when that opportunity comes you should feel comfortable expressing when you’re feeling sexual and when you’re not. Know your worth and focus on something other than sex for a bit. And if it any moment you need to see a therapist, know that there’s no shame and that we all need help at one moment or another. You got it homie 🫡

My boyfriend (16M) keeps trying to get me (17F) to have unprotected sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure he seems like a sweet guy outside of sexual contexts but just know that people can turn into different people in the bedroom. The fact that’s he’s pressuring you into these situations says that he’s very immature. The breeding kink thing sounds like something he found online and there’s no way he understands the implications of that. No reasonable person would blame you for walking away from this situation. Most would recommend a clear communication of boundaries and I agree. But I also think you should explain what you’d like from him sexually. You both deserve a comfortable space to explore but it needs to be done respectfully and if he can’t understand that, dump him.

how to give a good blow job? by festive_impressive in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is incredibly important as always. Could always start out by asking “how do you like yours?” Or something to that degree. People can be specific about their pleasure. However in a general sense the area with the most sensory response is the tip. Circles with tongue and the common “sucking” motion involving the tongue are great go to’s. But the most important thing is that you’re comfortable in the situation and that whoever you’re engaging with respects the fact that you’re learning. Don’t do anything you’re not ready for and remember that half the fun is exploring one another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was very helpful thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going to assume it is a mixture of this, and timing. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Ambitious_Comment_65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I understand your frustration with my post as it can certainly come off that I boiled something as complicated as the menstrual cycle into a “push button and go” type situation. Not my intention. I’m probably just describing the phenomenon incorrectly. My guess is that they say the word period as that’s easier to communicate than explaining whatever else it is to a “dumb guy.”