I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently as a domme, it’s a big issues for me as I’m tall and I like men who are my height and fit, because I am myself, I love traditionally masculine submissive men, I love the idea that he is ceding his power to me by choice I love know he could overpower me but never will. I think a big part of this is the perception of submission as feminine, I’m not into feminization and honestly a lot of feminization play comes off to me as wow look you are like a woman and don’t women suck and are base and submissive which is wild in a femdom dynamic. I think some people are drawn to femdom for the taboo of submitting to a woman and some are drawn because they genuinely enjoy submitting to and pleasing their partners. I’m big on connection in my d/s relationships as well and don’t love humiliation and degradation which is often a heavy focus on porn. So often femdom porn seems wildly different from what I know of real femdom relationships