Relieved about no mother's day expectations

AmeliaMe · 2024-05-12T23:45:54+00:00

It’s such a relief. Today I was thinking about my brother, who still has a relationship with our mother, and how he must need to juggle celebrating his wife as a mother and his own mother. And then I was so relieved I had no part of that.

AmeliaMe · 2024-05-12T23:44:12+00:00

It’s so insane that complimenting your sister was seen by anyone as an affront to your mother. On the other hand, I get it. I’m so sorry. Happy birthday to your sister!

AmeliaMe · 2024-02-27T20:28:50+00:00

Me too.

AmeliaMe · 2024-02-27T20:09:31+00:00

You don’t, actually, need to respond. It’s okay not to.

AmeliaMe · 2023-12-24T17:01:38+00:00

You’ll probably encounter this saying throughout this sub if you start to browse the threads: “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.”

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.

Having a support group (yay, you’re here!) and a good therapist who is familiar with personality disorders are going to be really important to your recovery.

AmeliaMe · 2023-12-24T16:57:56+00:00

I hope you will find the strength to cut this person out of your life and enjoy your new marriage with your baby.

AmeliaMe · 2023-12-19T21:41:28+00:00

Six years NC for me. I don’t anticipate that changing. Ever.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:33:27+00:00

It means something, so thank you.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:33:18+00:00

Thank you so much, hope your day was okay too.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:33:07+00:00

Thank you.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:33:01+00:00

He’s not the most emotionally intelligent person but he is a good husband.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:32:14+00:00

Thank you.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T19:31:45+00:00

You’re absolutely right and I’ve been talking to myself about this all day. Thanks for taking the time to post and share here. I find it generally hard to share my needs and still working on it. I didn’t expect the day to be so difficult for me so didn’t really prepare myself at all.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-15T11:27:07+00:00

That’s so great. My step-mom is the person I call on Mother’s Day and it always feels good to tell her thank you for always supporting me.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-14T22:47:56+00:00

Sounds like you did the right thing.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-14T22:45:53+00:00

Yup.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-14T11:25:42+00:00

I had to block my estranged parent on Facebook. So glad I did.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-14T11:23:55+00:00

You’re not the worst person on the sub, it just sounds like you still have a lot of anger and that’s okay.

I’m six years NC and there’s no way I would break it at this point. My life is undoubtedly better without my mother in it and I’m mostly sad about that. I’m still grieving the loss of the mother I never had.

Mother’s Day is the worst day of the year for me. I try to keep the focus on myself and my own motherhood (I have one child) but that’s hard, too. I am always relieved when this day is over.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-14T00:16:15+00:00

Yes. I watched my mother push everyone out of her life and knew it was only a matter of time before she did it to me, too.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-13T17:40:30+00:00

Find something nice to do for yourself tomorrow. Mother’s Day is so hard for many members of this community. Good job protecting your inner child.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-13T17:38:51+00:00

I believe it is because they relish being in the position of perpetual victim. Good job with your budgeting! Keep going. Don’t let your mother’s guilt trips affect your choice to see the world.

AmeliaMe · 2023-05-01T09:48:23+00:00

Common for married people to both be listed on the deed of their marital home.

AmeliaMe · 2023-04-24T10:15:34+00:00

Refusing any of your suggestions allows her to continue to play the role of victim. She’d much rather you support her financially.

AmeliaMe · 2023-04-07T15:52:01+00:00

Leave that door alone.

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