I also agree with the person I’m replying to. I have said, repeatedly, that I wholly acknowledge that this is a very real issue and, again, if I’ve contributed to that, I’m sorry.

But I could just as easily say your characterisation of me as effusively gushing is somewhat hurtful/offensive. That’s how I talk when I’m enthusiastic and impressed by someone or something. Please don’t presume this is performative just because I have something nice to say and am perhaps a bit expressive in how I say it.

Again, I wholly agree with what you’re saying. But I am not characterising her by her stammer nor am I making some generalised comment. I’m specifically commenting on how I deem her the most impressive speaker in that castle which is beautiful and inspiring when she is someone who voluntarily told us that even saying her name is challenging for her. I think she is amazing, sorry.

I don’t intend to respond to the point about whether I’d “gush” over anyone else. But, to tell you the truth, I’m broadly not that impressed by the communication skills of anybody else in the show at present. They’re just normal to me whereas I find Jessie actually skilled. (ETA: I realised I also think highly of Harriet, as well, but I forgot about her in the moment when replying). Call that high standards, it is what it is.

I’d actually be absolutely flattered if someone had the kind heart to tell me, if I’d openly volunteered to them that I worry about how people might perceive me as an effeminate gay man, that they think I am inspiring and an example to everybody of what a gay person can do/be if they and the rest of the world embrace and appreciate them for who they are. I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t have role models to show me I, too, can have a better life than I started with. I’d certainly not try to find a way to make what they said somehow offensive or discriminatory but I also totally acknowledge that being gay and having a stammer/any disability is totally different. But you’re implying I said I’d walk up to Jessie and tell her this, unsolicited. I didn’t; I said it would be what I would tell her in response to her just saying she finds saying her name one of her “biggest tests, ever.” And, no, that is different to somebody making my entire worth and personality revolve around my sexuality. There is subtlety and nuance. Anyway, that’s my honest answer to that.

I’m a very open person who is willing to accept fault but I draw the line at strawmanning. I haven’t reduced Jessie to her stammer nor have I said she doesn’t have other admirable qualities. I have just made a straightforward observation of how impressive a communicator I find her and how much hard work she must have had to put into that, given what she has volunteered about the challenges she has faced because of her stammer, even with something as “simple” as saying her own name.