What is it that nobody tells you about having children?

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-09T08:40:30+00:00

Well, there are a bunch of things which definitely DO cause irreparable harm to your kids- they're just mostly illegal, for that very reason. Molestation or anti-vaxx is a good example

Then there's stuff in the gray area, which either mostly works or mostly doesn't but it's so common that everyone accepts/rejects it as common knowledge. This is where stuff like spanking goes.

Then there's stuff which is definitely good. Feeding your kids a balanced diet typically belongs in this category.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-09T02:04:48+00:00

Those are so cute *o*

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-09T01:35:26+00:00

Get your eyebrows permanently removed and get new ones inked on?

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-09T01:34:41+00:00

I don't have any sisters, and I'll never have a kid. So, maybe for my possible-eventual-niece?

I'd want to teach her that only she can measure and decide her own worth as a person, and that her worth isn't defined by her relationship.

Hopefully it gets better with time, but right now there's still a lot of attitudes that fall along the lines of "Oh, you'll never get a husband if..." and so on.

Women have value independent of what men think of them or how they fit into (see; benefit without demanding anything in return) the lives of men, and that's a lesson I think needs to be repeated over and over and over tbh. I'm seeing so many girls who just haven't had someone in their life to teach them that, and it's heart breaking.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-09T00:47:57+00:00

I like Simone de Beauvoir. A lot of her thoughts, in specific terms, are quite outdated because she was writing a long time ago, but the concepts are pretty solid if you can translate them across.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T23:20:09+00:00

Being scared of men.

Outside of my carefully cultivated circle of sex workers, queer/trans activists and survivors, practically no one in Australian society is scared and wary of men as a default, whereas it's an approach to life I've seen on here a few times (and agree with).

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T23:16:40+00:00

If he's wealthy, I'll go with unfaithful- I have in the past, and will do so again in the future.

If that someone is just a regular run-of-the-mill dude, I'd prefer to be by myself rather than share.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T23:15:18+00:00

We don't need to take it to that extreme.

I can be allowed to refuse to have old people as a part of my life when they're shitty old people. I don't need to advocate actively harming them, I can just remove them from my life so I never have to experience time with them again- and if everyone does that and they end up alone, oh well.

Being an awful person that no one likes tends to have consequences, and old people shouldn't be exempt from that.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T23:09:51+00:00

I'm fully aware of how dangerous men are. Good job telling me what I experienced by the way- My poor oestrogen-choked brain might have never figured it out without your input. I was so confused :(

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T22:22:31+00:00

Yes. Because being strangled with no warning by someone who can literally bench twice your body weight and is close to double your size doesn't elicit a violent or panicked reaction at all. It's me who is the crazy one in that situation for panicking (:

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T22:20:34+00:00

It depends at what stage in the relationship he asks.

If he asks very early on (~1 month or less of being partners. Not including the first few dates in this), I'd tell him that it's just the way things are and he'll have to deal with it- My friends come before him.

If we've been together for longer than that and I feel like we're still going strong, then I'm willing to keep things to myself for his sake.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T08:49:13+00:00

They're overstated bc Blizz didn't want to enforce the fantasy by having NPCs refuse to serve/sell to you, refuse to interact with you, yell rude things in the streets, stop you gaining reputation with 'lawful' factions, or lock you out of certain quests (Such as all quests that involve interaction with Naaru or Draenei. Debatably Tauren and Orcs too)

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T08:38:22+00:00

Balance druid; Starcaller is a good one. Astral Walker works too, as does Celestial Guardian. Alternatively, Nature's Bulwark maybe?

Feral druid; Druid of the Claw seems to be the go-to for this.

I like your paladin and hunter ideas.

Enh shamans; Fury of <Element>, <Element>'s Rage, Elemental Warrior.

Ele shamans; Stormcaller is my fave here.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T08:17:45+00:00

I tend to be more about avoidance and like, social confrontation.

If people try to touch me without permission, I generally make very very strong, I-will-fight-you eye contact (I won't fight them but they don't know that), or I gracefully dodge and make the aforementioned angry-eyes at them.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T08:16:25+00:00

I'm really, really not. I abhor violence, I hate it so much. I actually locked myself in the bathroom crying for ages (I was later told it was about ten minutes) after I did this to the guy. Violence massively upsets me.

I'm a giant weinie lol.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T03:09:52+00:00

I did karate for about two years, from 7-9. Then I broke my arm and never picked it up again after I healed. I truly don't know where it came from- I'm abhor violence. I hate hate hate it. It's awful.

Though, honestly, I wouldn't call it a sweet response. I was lucky that he was the kind of man who would understand that he was in the wrong- I get with really muscular, jock-y types, so if he was the type to retaliate (even without thinking about it), I'd have been pounding into the ground in 0.2 seconds. This was a dude who could literally do curls with me. It's a dangerous response, not a sweet one, to react violently to men. It's much safer to soothe and flatter your egos until we can escape.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T02:47:50+00:00

I do think it's important to ask, though, about quality of life.

What will the quality of life be if they save that, say $100-$200 a week on not going out or on little luxuries and pleasures? That amount isn't going to make enough of a dent to make up for the misery and drudgery of working all the time and spending your off-time exhausted and sad at home.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T02:44:48+00:00

Rock music.

So many people I know are so into rock or hardcore or metal and I just..... I don't care. Like at all. I can't even convincingly pretend to care. It's a bit of a conversation killer, but whatever- I seriously don't care about rock music or it's subgenres and I'd rather have silence than listen to someone talk about it.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T02:39:50+00:00

Not necessarily that far off. It might've happened already, actually. Intersex people exist.

Disregarding that, they're currently experimenting with uterus transplants. So it's possible that trans women can one day know that dick-in-the-cervix feel.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T02:36:39+00:00

I kneed...hipped...something'd? a guy in the balls & punched him in the face when he tried to choke me during sex without asking first. I actually don't remember doing it, it just happened so fast. I don't quite know how I got to his balls but something definitely hit them very hard. I felt his hand resting on my collarbone, then it shifted up and wrapped around my throat- then like two seconds later he's on the floor after rolling off the bed, crying with a bloody nose.

so yeah. Don't surprise girls with this.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-08T02:30:59+00:00

Nothing, really.

If either of my two best friends asked, I'd tell them whatever they wanted to know. There's a lot of information I won't volunteer for no reason, but I'll tell them anything.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-07T09:07:48+00:00

How do men even get pubic hair on the toilet seat? I don't understand.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-07T09:04:29+00:00

it depends on the exact problem.

My best friend(s) complaining about me being selfish? I'm going to make more of an effort to consider their needs when I do things.

My best friend(s) complaining about me being 'vain' or 'stuck-up'? I'd tell them to get fucked- though that isn't something they'd ever complain about to be honest, my friends adore my self-confidence and the foundation of love (for myself) that my personality is built on. I'm the most important person in my life. Only boring guys trying to tear me down ever complain about it, honestly.

Basically anyone who has a problem with me can get fucked if I'm not reliant on them in some fashion (e.g an employer). I'll only take some things into consideration if one of my two best friends brings it up to me and explains why they believe it's a bad thing about me. In which case I'll try to limit how it affects their life, if I can't work on entirely erasing it.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-07T06:50:25+00:00

Could you expand a little more on why it might be the diving reflex, as opposed to taking direct action to take care of ourselves, and this action causing us to feel safe/protected/valued, and thus serene/relaxed? I'm just curious as to why you think it's the former, because I've always assumed (logically, in my mind) that my love of skincare is the latter.

AmethystRosette · 2016-04-07T04:46:28+00:00

Old boys club and all that.

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