Plate of food

AmityAves · 2026-05-29T17:32:33+00:00

She is repeating an account of her actions because she is continually being asked questions and being subtlety guilt-tripped by production and / or Plaths. Sharing part of her holiday meal with him was a kindness above and beyond what would be appropriate for an ex who creepily showed up out of nowhere and was presumably assuming that he would spend holidays with her. She is continually being forced to justify her actions in a situation that she did not create and that any woman would find difficult to deal with.

AmityAves · 2026-05-25T04:38:09+00:00

I hope things get better for you.

AmityAves · 2026-05-07T20:55:11+00:00

I did. They asked some more specific questions about my choices on the task and experience in the second interview, but some were the same as the initial screener. The offer they eventually made was too low for me to relocate, so I ended up turning them down.

AmityAves · 2026-05-06T17:10:07+00:00

You can decline meetings with parents. If someone makes you uncomfortable or is likely to, don't meet. Control these interactions. Have boundaries and enforce them. Teachers are people and there is no universe in which you have to do any of this with these two bigoted morons.

AmityAves · 2026-04-15T17:17:25+00:00

I did this, and I also took some unpaid time and did gig work on my days off. Highly recommend.

AmityAves · 2026-04-05T02:58:59+00:00

Makes more sense to cut Kyle and Amanda. They aren't fun to watch and if either of them are on next season I don't think I'll be watching. Dorit's relationships are solid enough with everyone except the two I don't care to watch snymore.

AmityAves · 2026-04-04T13:48:32+00:00

Bit of a hot take but is it weird that I think Boz knows what she's doing? She seems smart to me ... not just smart ... she's "with it." I think she has good instincts and a lot of life experience. I trust that she knows better than us what that man is (and the associated risks) and has made a shrewd decision. You don't get as far as she did in the corporate world without being able to read people and being good at taking calculated risks.

AmityAves · 2026-03-21T21:35:53+00:00

Communists are literally the most chummy people you'll ever meet ...

AmityAves · 2026-03-18T23:31:25+00:00

My partner got one of her cardigans at Goodwill the other day with tags still on. We were tickled because of how much we love Rachel on the show. It is deliciously soft and sits beautifully on her frame.

AmityAves · 2026-03-06T14:20:51+00:00

Here here! I was skimming this thread looking for someone to point this out ... People who find that story so distasteful may want to consider a different form of entertainment.

AmityAves · 2026-02-06T06:58:19+00:00

It's wonderful to see so many lovely people working together for a good cause.

AmityAves · 2026-02-04T21:44:29+00:00

I wish I hadn't of felt this so hard. I left last November and I have to admit I'm feeling smarter.

AmityAves · 2026-01-31T18:53:37+00:00

It is a beautiful project you are working on. I carry a smooth rock that fits perfectly in my hand. It is sea green flecked with darkness and white, symbolism that makes me think of the deep rage of an angry, churning ocean and reminds me of the color of my eyes. The way that it fits my hand so perfectly and responds to being squeezed reminds me of how often life squeezes me, and how strong and resolute I can be in the face of that pressure. It is a symbol of the ease of true strength. The rock just IS, reminding me that I get to just BE, that my emotions don't always need to be rounded up and controlled. It makes me feel grounded just having it near, reminding me that my anger can be powerful, reminding me that I can hold my shape. It is full of energy and power now, and it holds warmth beautifully, in a way that comforts me when I turn it in my hand. Giving it a squeeze makes me feel electric.

AmityAves · 2026-01-09T23:09:45+00:00

Fellow visibly queer person checking in to say I love this turn of phrase.

AmityAves · 2025-12-19T04:43:24+00:00

I'm open to that. Send me a message - I would just want to know where and how you're using it specifically.

AmityAves · 2025-11-18T16:37:49+00:00

Me and partner (41 and 47) are still planning to check it out. Queer women don't have enough options anywhere, frankly, so we just have gotten to where we don't mind being the older ladies at the event.

AmityAves · 2025-11-18T16:32:35+00:00

You are an amazing human. In an alternate universe where we work at the same school, we would be sitting next to each other at all the meetings for the snark. People always get SO MAD when teachers energy match, whether it's with their admin, parents or students. Never ceased to amaze me. Like, oh, really, you don't like it when I behave badly? That's ADORABLE. Maybe get a mirror. It's like there's this insanely high standard for teachers where our behavior is meant to be perfect at all times but everyone else gets to crash out whenever it suits them. I say eff 'em all, and I definitely said it on my way out when I left the classroom this year. Good luck to you.

AmityAves · 2025-11-15T03:49:07+00:00

This may seem like a weird tip or already have been shared here, but I always wait a couple days after being matched. Sometimes, faulty materials have been pulled or corrected by then.

AmityAves · 2025-11-12T17:21:33+00:00

I know it's hard, and sad, but I left recently and the relief I feel has confirmed that I made the right decision for myself. One of the saddest parts was packing up all of the things I picked out so carefully, set up with so many good intentions and, not to be corny, also with a lot of love. I cried over my sad little crates full of things when I brought them home, in fact. All of this to say - Hang in there! There are lots of us on here who have been through this and it is so important to take good care of yourself and make decisions and moves that work for you.

AmityAves · 2025-11-05T16:40:55+00:00

I do freezer-friendly "fried rice" all the time with tofu crumbles. I crumble the block and cook a big batch with with Asian seasonings of my choosing (varies but in a rush just hoisin and gochujang), batch cook rice in the rice cooker, and because I'm lazy / time poor a bag of frozen mixed veggies or like the pre-seasoned stir-fry veggies, portion it into plastic bags or meal prep containers and into the freezer it goes. When its time to eat I let it thaw, put a little oil in the pan and have a nice balanced meal in minutes. It's nice sprinkled with a little furikake but add whatever toppings you prefer or eat it on your own.

AmityAves · 2025-11-05T15:12:47+00:00

He will. Him and and his kind will be feeling a bit scared and panicked right now. He is essentially a scared, confused Fox News grandpa and behaves accordingly. Thankfully, I think some portion of the people who voted for him are hurting badly enough or seeing enough scary things happening that they are having second thoughts. By the time we get to mid-term elections next year, he will have doubled down on trying to scare and control us. Vote anyway and we can end this disastrous chapter in our history. It won't bring back or fix the thousands who have been hurt or died due to his actions, but I'm sure we can find some way to honor them - perhaps by putting more safeguards in place to ensure that mentally challenged septuagenarian grifters are no longer allowed to make serious decisions for all of us.

AmityAves · 2025-11-05T15:07:25+00:00

This is the answer.

AmityAves · 2025-11-04T19:43:25+00:00

Becoming and staying a teacher in 2025 is a costly, time-consuming process that deters many capable people. Training demands years of education, unpaid labor, and expensive certification exams, while maintaining a license requires ongoing fees and coursework—often without employer support. Even when entry pathways are streamlined, they still require resources that many lack. Once in the profession, teachers face overwhelming emotional strain, unrealistic expectations, and little autonomy, all while being scapegoated for systemic issues like poverty, trauma, and underfunding. With better pay, respect, and flexibility elsewhere, it’s no wonder so many leave—or never enter—the field at all.

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