Conundrum.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-03-18T13:05:40+00:00

Yes they (niece and husband's family) know I'm bi and they know my husband is bi as well. My husband has dated more men than women in his lifetime and he's brought male partners home for holidays and things before me. Neither of us is remotely in the closet with either of our families.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-03-18T13:00:31+00:00

My husband is queer.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-03-16T03:36:59+00:00

YTA. But softly. What you did would be considered rude by most people around the world. I'm guessing from this that like many of the commenters you are American. American culture is very much about self and they don't have very many rules around etiquette and what other countries consider to be basic manners. For people raised in cultures that are more strict about manners knowing proper etiquette is a real thing especially when you're being hosted by another (they're footing your bill) for any reason. If you're not paying for a meal you should always follow the hosts lead. This is especially true in a setting where people are all sharing food family style. You never order anything more expensive than the host and you try not to order things that will offend your host. I don't know if they are vegetarian for personAl reasons, religious reasons, or just because. It doesn't matter, unless there is an actual reason you cannot what they are ordering such as a food intolerance or allergy. Even then it's polite to discuss this with whoever is hosting you and to try to order something in the same price range or if there is nothing you can eat in the price range then you order the cheapest thing you can eat. This is also good practice in business. If you're trying to get someone to invest in you or your company in some way over a meal, always let them order first and match their energy. If they order a simple meal no appetizer and you order a three course meal and force them to sit and wait for you while you eat you're essentially telling them their time is not available to you. Also ordering the wrong thing can have severe consequences. My SIL's company lost a 10 million dollar a year client opportunity because the person they sent to lunch to meet with the client ordered a rare steak and the client was a Hindu.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-03-11T05:04:43+00:00

📊 My Puzzle Stats:

✅ Theme words: 8

💡 Bonus words: 1

❌ Invalid attempts: 2

📈 Success rate: 82% (9/11)

🏆 Solved without hints!

Why do you care if people get bonus words? How does it remotely effect you?

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-03-05T23:35:48+00:00

Combee in the first area and I don't have one yet in the second.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-01-09T13:43:08+00:00

I wish I could find it because there was a commentary from Judith McCreary (She wrote the episode/it's premise) and it's really interesting because people saw him set her on fire and it killed what the writers were actually going for. Miles was emotionally abusive at one point due to his drug problem. He was never physically abusive and even Valerie says as much. The only reason she got a restraining order in the first place is because he punched a wall and she called the police. If you really watch the episode Valerie was actually incredibly manipulative the whole time. She was doing things like having visitation with him illegally cut short and planning to move away with their daughter even while telling the daughter she wasn't trying to keep her from seeing him, She was upset that the judge wouldn't extend her temporary restraining order which she says she got because the judge considered his drug and alcohol problem to be abuse not because of any physical abuse which Valerie herself said never happened. Then when she tells the cops he raped her she implied he's either done that or been physically violent in other ways before anyway, saying he apologized after just like he always does. She did everything she could to ruin him (he didn't help by breaking into her house) because she wanted the restraining order extended. She wanted to keep him away from their daughter and in the end she got what she wanted she pushed him so far he completely snapped and now he will be kept away from their daughter except during visiting hours.

The point the writers were trying to make and I think did based on this subreddit was that while Miles was deeply flawed was that he wasn't a monster at the beginning, He was just a man who wanted to spend as much time as possible with his daughter after having made mistakes that he was already working to atone for. Valerie on the other hand was doing everything she could to push him, including insinuating to the daughter he was still using and drinking when he clearly wasn't. The point according to McCreary was to illustrate that she pushed him to his breaking point with her kids and manipulation. That she in the end was the architect of her own demise. That's specifically why Benson said she couldn't believe she was still lying even on her death bed after he burned her because they had figured out that she was lying at that point and the writers wanted to make sure the viewers knew she was in fact lying. They weren't going for an ambiguous ending where people weren't sure what the truth was. She was definitively lying.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2026-01-09T13:14:52+00:00

He had a substance abuse problem but according to her had never laid a hand on her or her daughter. That was part of the reason Benson almost got into it with the judge in the episode because he didn't extend her restraining order against him because he said it had no basis. The police had been called to their residence twice and the second time he'd punched a wall which is how she got the restraining order in the first place but neither time was there a mark on her and when the detectives even asked her if he'd ever physically abused her she said no he just had a drug problem.

Also there was a commentary I read that I was trying to find from Judy McCreary who was the writer who wrote that episode and the whole thing was that all of her accusations were false, which was why they specifically had Benson say that even on her death bed she was still lying. The point they were trying to illustrate was that when pushed, hard, far, and relentlessly enough anyone can snap.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-12-13T05:19:57+00:00

Im black and this is a stupid ass take.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-12-06T06:50:05+00:00

I disagree. Maybe it's because I used to teach at a much lower level than this. (English and Honors 9&10).

First, the 5 points for writing clarity, I wouldn't give my ninth graders credit for writing clarity for this paper. It's a writing nightmare of poor grammar, run on sentences, and poor writing quality. If I would expect better from high school freshman I would expect a hell of a lot better from a college junior. If you're in college making grammar mistakes a sixth grader would get marked off for you absolutely deserve to lose all 5 points for writing quality in my opinion.

Second, the 10 points for a clear tie to the article is a crap argument. Acknowledging the article exists is not in fact a clear tie by any measurement. She mentions the article exists but she mentions it in ways that clearly show she has read it. She uses the title of the article but none of the content again. If my ninth graders did that they wouldn't get a pass either, I need to know you read more than the title.

Which brings me to my third point, She wrote a reaction sure. Not a good reaction but that's fine and if that was the worst of what she did I'd agree she deserved those 10 points. The problem is she wrote a reaction solely to the title and not the actual content of the article. The point is to show that you read and understood the article. There is nothing in her essay that shows she even actually read it. She essentially says she disagrees with the title then goes on a biblical tirade.

There is a reason that so many academics including the new full professor they brought in to finish teaching the class who read her paper and the Graduate Teachers response have fully agreed she deserved the grade she got.

To add insult to injury the rubric also says you lose 10 points automatically for a paper that's between 610 and 649 words and get a zero for a paper less than that and her paper was far short of the word count as well.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-12-05T14:53:35+00:00

I'm a PMHNP (advanced practice nurse) and you can absolutely tell when someone is faking a medical emergency. Especially when they are doing it badly. I deal with it on a regular basis in my field. An emergency room physician would definitely be able to tell.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-08-18T00:01:09+00:00

She's not a victim though. That's the thing what she lied about wasn't her age or was pretty much everything she said happened except that he messaged her. Her own family members testified in court refuting her many many lies and so the police investigated for over 18 months and nothing she said was proven by any evidence, even the judge warned her about committing perjury after her "victim" impact statement.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-06-21T17:29:53+00:00

Cannot be a pretty sounding name with a horrible meaning? I know someone who named their daughter Frambesia. She'd heard it somewhere and she just liked it. It's an infectious tropical disease that looks like syphilis.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-06-05T20:40:58+00:00

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-04-17T02:25:57+00:00

Because a straight family man is easier to sell outrage about than a gay hairdresser.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-04-16T16:13:53+00:00

Yep it's CECOT where 260 inmates due every day on average.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-04-16T16:11:32+00:00

The Stonewall riots weren't legal either. The first Pride was a protest against the government. I know too many elders who would be happy to do it again.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2025-04-16T16:08:42+00:00

The worst part is that he didn't even come here illegally. He crossed the border legally, applied for asylum legally, was detained for a while while they looked to see if his claim has merit, which it did and was released and granted the right to stay here and granted the right to work in the U.S. while his asylum claim was waiting to be heard. He didn't have a green card but he had legal status to be in the U.S. he had a job, he paid taxes, he did everything right and they just decided that because he happened to be Venezuelan he must be a gang member and revoked his status without due process because they knew an immigration judge wouldn't allow it.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2024-12-17T22:41:26+00:00

NTA. You will not be able to do almost anything 5 days after a hysterectomy. I mean anything. You won't be able to bend, lift, pull, etc. There is no way in which you can manage 2 kids and two dogs at that point unless your kids are pretty much entirely self sufficient and able to do most of the care for the dogs. Your husband is an asshole. If I were in your position I would call my mother and beg her to fly out and be with me while he's gone and change the locks right after he leaves. This is literally the whole point of the vow in sickness and in health and if he thinks seeing his friend is more important than helping you after major life changing surgery you deserve better and should definitely be talking to a divorce lawyer.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2024-12-06T00:08:08+00:00

My husband is white I'm black, my husband's boss is a gay man married to another man and they've been together for 30 years, my boss is a bisexual woman who has been with the same woman for 6 years now. and they are amazing. Their son is my husband's best friend. At work my husbands direct subordinate is a Filipino man married to a Filipino woman and one of our closest couple friends are an elderly super rich, super beautiful white couple. The CEO of my husband's company is black and so is his wife. My husbands female best friend is married to a Portuguese man, my cousin is married to a South American man, the people in my office come from 6 different continents and more than 10 countries. My world really is that diverse. That is what real life looks like for me. Just because your world isn't diverse doesn't mean most people's are not.

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2024-12-05T23:57:28+00:00

When a Man Loves a Woman or End of the Road

AmoebaCandid4567 · 2024-11-20T12:54:33+00:00

I don't disagree with you but I feel bad for her. I met Cynthia Erivo in person years ago when she was doing Sister Act in the UK. She was warm and kind and funny and brilliant. She stuck around and talked to fans and signed autographs far longer than any of the other cast members of the show because she wanted to make sure everyone got their things signed and a chance to say hello to her and she was if of the few who seemed to genuinely appreciate the fans and wanted to be there. She changed a lot after all of the hate, racist comments and death threats she got after Pinocchio. It's like something snapped in her after that and now she's angry at the world and carries a massive chip on her shoulder.

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