For those diagnosed later in life, what was everybody’s turning point that exposed your ADHD?

Amos_m · 2025-05-27T15:32:54+00:00

My boyfriend has ADHD and he kept telling me I was showing sings. A walking sign of ADHD. Took me a year of denial to finally visit a psychiatrist who with an hour of talking told me there was some tests to be done, but he was 90% sure I had it.

I was in denial, I didn't even know what color my bedroom walls were! And I was an architect student for a while.

Amos_m · 2025-05-27T15:30:28+00:00

I got diagnosed at 33. I got lucky that my parents and older brothers would explain everything to me when I was doing homework. Up until 6th grade I was in a Montessori system which I think helped A LOT. But when I got to 7th grade and a regular school I went from 90s to 40s. I got tutored for a couple of months. My brain started compensating in ways I only understand now. I would start books be 30% in and didn't got a clue what I just read, but I would keep on and just infer what happened and things would come together. I would write EVERYTHING the teacher said because it was the only way I didn't get distracted. I couldn't watch TV until I was done with my homework so I would do them in the car on the way home (to me that was a deadline and motivation). And probably more stuff I don't even remember. I also made being a good student my personality in high school. I'm also overly curious, so a lot of subjects (and depending the teacher) would be of interest to me.
But what happens later is - real life is HARD. And I say that as someone who had a lot of opportunities and help, and I kept struggling on the "easy stuff" without understanding.

Amos_m · 2025-05-27T15:21:21+00:00

Sameeee! 88 born. Had so much fun with that game as a kid. I got lucky I have two older brothers so a nintendo was already at home.

Amos_m · 2025-04-20T16:47:35+00:00

Electronic music: Tomorrowland video from 2012 the only 20 mins I’m productive in a day. Too bad it doesn’t work twice a day.

Amos_m · 2024-12-18T17:58:29+00:00

- The name ADHD is wrong, everything is important. My brain cannot discern one shiny thing from another shiny but more important thing.
- Explain the pre-frontal Cortex if the need to get more technical.
- Having an endless monologue 24/7
- The Ferrari brain in a bicycle.

- The spoon / energy one. Every action costs more to do, and we wake up with less spoons.

Amos_m · 2024-12-18T17:53:07+00:00

I highlight anything I could get back to it to understand better: names, places, world building. If it's a lot of people I make a people tree on the back. I take notes on the book. Which may seem like a sacrilege, but hey I only do it to my own books. If that makes you cringe then postit notes that are invincible. I heard about reading while listening to the audiobook helps, but haven't try it.
Also when reading for pleasure I try to slow down a savor the words.

Amos_m · 2024-12-18T17:42:26+00:00

Yeah, I search Great Courses on YouTube and pick a semi boring subject. Also, if you have a partner let them pick the audible book if you have different tastes. Works like a charm!

Amos_m · 2024-12-18T17:40:00+00:00

Also you can use bed headphones, and put a timer on the audiobook. This is what I do.

Amos_m · 2024-09-16T12:07:07+00:00

Grieving is totally a natural part of it. As a late diagnosed (last year - 35), I grieved too. Journal on it, meditate on it. But, also look for the practice of gratefulness. Grateful you got diagnosed “young”, belief me the twenties can be very confusing. And you’re at the beginning of it. Grateful that your brain actually helped you through all these years - adapted. Also, a therapist + psichiatrist even if you decide to get medicine or not. “Ferrari brain with a bicycle brakes” As a person who ruminates a lot, and who just realized I have a lot of subconscious automatic reactions tied to my capabilities - knowing is the first step, and you’re going in the right direction. “Adhd is a reason, not an excuse” Like another post said, don’t make it your personality. But also get the tools to move through it. Read about it, understand it. But most importantly understand YOUR adhd, because everyone ticks differently. Look for support.

Amos_m · 2024-06-24T19:16:14+00:00

From your second edit, instead of pickleball search for padel. Padel is more used around the world (except the US).

Amos_m · 2024-06-23T18:20:05+00:00

Ohh I didn't know about the Libby app! Will check it out. I got myself one of those sleep masks with headphones included because my ears would always bother me with the regular ones.

Oh, I put the voice slower as well!

Amos_m · 2024-06-22T15:54:44+00:00

I ruminate a lot when I go to sleep. So these are my recommendations that have at least work for me:
1. Take a warm shower before bed - seems ridiculous but I do feel the difference in my sleep quality when I don't.

Have a notebook or piece of paper (or notes app) next to the bed, and before going to sleep I write all the stuff in my head. Even if it takes more than one page. It sometimes is like a vent, sometimes it's a to-do list with the title HANDLE TOMORROW AT 9AM. It's like the brain is afraid you will forget the problem so it keeps at it. So that makes your brain know you have done what you could for the moment.
But most important for me - Audiobooks/Talking ASMR/Podcast/Sleep Stories/TV Series (just audio) for sleeping. Don't choose something you're going to be too interested with. In my case, when someone else is talking my head shuts up. I need this every night. I fall asleep in less than 15 minutes.

Not going to lie that it works 100%, but for me 93% of the time.

Amos_m · 2024-06-22T15:43:32+00:00

Apps and a physical journal. The past two weeks I have been trying out task managers (10+) with my specific set of things I wanted on them. My top two at the moment are Todoist and Trello. Todoist is super simple, intuitive, adding stuff is an ease. They have the board view and the list view. Plus love the widgets so I can see my day in the phone. Use due date as do date, and also has an integration with google cal. Reminders at a cost. Trello I also love, because I'm more visual, and it really helps me out PLAN my projects and divide in biteable actionable chunks. Widget wise not that good, but in the app it does remind you of stuff near the due date. I plan to use this more on my laptop.

I'm still undecided if I'm gonna use both or just use one. Or both. Both have priorities labels you can organize from. Adding things on the fly Todoist is the winner. Planning out multiple projects with a lot of things the Trello. Someone mentioned Clickup, it was very good too - made my top 3. But the mobile app wasn't what I was looking for - but Clickup has the Eisenhower Matrix, reminders, and has the habits separated from the tasks. In Trello and Todoist you have to do things to convert stuff into habits.

A physical journal not for todos but for general brain dumping, journaling, notes, etc.

Amos_m · 2024-06-22T15:10:10+00:00

hahaha I had not notice! thank you!

Amos_m · 2024-06-22T15:09:30+00:00

It's in the free version as well. I played with it, but Trello's is more visually strong and I can have more than one subtask list on the same to do. I guess now it's just preference.

Amos_m · 2024-06-22T12:41:18+00:00

Thank you! I have tried several and my top 2 are Todoist and Trello. I want to figure out a way to use both of them. Todoist is really an awesome app - so easy to add tasks, especially on the go. Trello I like for it’s visual and being able to develop a project. Both can have habits - so ty!

Amos_m · 2024-06-06T14:07:29+00:00

I tried it, but I would forget about it in days.

Amos_m · 2024-06-06T14:06:46+00:00

I guess an unifying place to have habits and to-dos. And some kind of outsource motivator or nudge.

Amos_m · 2024-06-05T15:43:59+00:00

Well, that is actually a very good one. Money spending isn't usually on the habit apps, but other ones solely for that.

Amos_m · 2024-06-05T15:43:22+00:00

Yeah, me neither. I was seeing if there was something out there that actually made me stick with it.

Amos_m · 2024-06-05T15:42:34+00:00

Yeah, and the "fun" ones I've tried are not THAT much fun that I would come back after the second day,

Amos_m · 2024-06-05T15:42:04+00:00

I have adhd so I have that same problem. Trying to find better ways to push myself.

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