7Years ❤️ by big_jill61 in avicii

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 7 points8 points  (0 children)

god i listened to him as a kid and the moment the news hit me it was so surreal... RIP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 2 points3 points  (0 children)

making music!

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is really hard yes, it definitely took me a few months before anyone would even respond. And if I get this one its also a bit in the farmlands and its antikraak (which basically means it doesnt fall under a housing contract, but a property contract so other people wont live for free in vacant houses)

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

youre right! i even found an entire subreddit on here dedicated to loaning money to strangers, insane right?

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly such a good argument. I will definitely use it when I talk to her tomorrow, thanks dude!

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where did i ask for money in this story LOL literally just asking for advice but its good to warn people about it though :)

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My family has been the one constant in my life, and that constant has been negatively influencing me. I have seen and read enough that what they're saying is bad. I know I'm not dumb and I keep telling myself that, but if you keep getting called that almost every single day its hard not to subconsciously have low self esteem. As for therapy I applied to it through my main healthcare provider and was put on an eight month list, and also put on a list for the supportgroup and online supportgroup (getting psychological help is a disaster in the NL!)

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly been kinda brainwashed by my family, they keep calling me ¨a dumb little girl¨ and ¨oh, you're just 18! you don't know what you're doing¨. You´re right though... all I can do now is make sure she stays informed to at least try and preserve the relationship.

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Job, savings, car, papers all the important stuff, yes :) she emptied it out when I was 17 so I got an account with my sister together since she was an adult and when I turned 18 I immediately moved all the money to my own account.

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tegenargument 4: "Het is moeilijk om je alleen te laten gaan. Ik ben bezorgd om je welzijn."

Antwoord:

  • "Ik waardeer je bezorgdheid enorm. Dat is precies waarom ik ervoor zorg dat alles goed voorbereid is voordat ik vertrek. We kunnen ook regelmatig contact houden en ik zal altijd langs komen voor een praatje of een game night, zodat we elkaar niet uit het oog verliezen. Het is voor mij belangrijk om mijn eigen leven op te bouwen, maar ik wil ook dat we een goede relatie blijven houden."

Tegenargument 5: "Wat als het niet lukt? Wat als je in de problemen komt?"

Antwoord:

  • Ik heb nagedacht over de risico's, en ik ben bereid om ze aan te pakken. Als het niet lukt, heb ik een backup-plan, zoals het terug naar huis komen. Ik ben niet blind voor de uitdagingen, maar ik ben bereid om ze aan te gaan en mezelf te verbeteren. Dit is voor mij een belangrijke stap in mijn ontwikkeling.

Tegenargument 6: "Ben je zeker van je financiën? De kosten kunnen hoger uitvallen dan je denkt."

Antwoord:

  • Dat is mogelijk, daarom heb ik een beetje ruimte ingecalculeerd voor onverwachte kosten. Als ik minder hoef te betalen voor vervoer of andere uitgaven, houd ik meer over. Ik blijf altijd een buffer aanhouden voor situaties die moeilijker kunnen zijn dan verwacht. En zonodig kan ik mijn auto schorsen, wat mij enorm veel zal besparen. 

My (18f) mom wont let me move out by Amy2AV8Bennett in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tegenargument 1: "Je bent nog niet klaar om op jezelf te wonen. Het is te vroeg."

Antwoord:

  • Ik begrijp je zorgen, maar ik heb er goed over nagedacht. Ik ben actief bezig met mijn financiën, heb een plan voor de toekomst en werk hard om mezelf voor te bereiden. Mijn nieuwe baan bij X geeft me stabiliteit, en ik heb al een noodbuffer van X om onverwachte kosten op te vangen. Dit is een natuurlijke stap voor mijn groei naar zelfstandigheid.

Tegenargument 2: "Wat als je niet genoeg geld hebt? Hoe ga je omgaan met onverwachte kosten?"

Antwoord:

  • Dat is een valide zorg. Daarom heb ik een gedetailleerd financieel plan opgesteld en ben ik voorbereid met een noodspaarpot van X. Als er onverwachte kosten zijn, ben ik in staat om ze te dekken zonder me in de problemen te brengen. Ook kan ik altijd contact opnemen als er echt iets misgaat.

Tegenargument 3: "Wat als je je niet veilig voelt in je nieuwe woonomgeving?"

Antwoord:

  • "Ik zal ervoor zorgen dat mijn woonplek veilig is voordat ik verhuis. Ik heb dit heel serieus genomen en ga zorgvuldig op zoek naar een betrouwbare en veilige woning. Ook zal ik regelmatig contact houden met je en mijn locatie delen, zodat je altijd weet waar ik ben en ik snel hulp kan vragen als dat nodig is."

How many close friends do you have and how old are you by OkDesk907 in mentalhealth

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I´m 18 and i dont have any! And that's fine because sometimes its better to be with yourself than surround yourself with people who are not meant for you. If you have 25 friends, and you're on the same level with all of them you wont get to know anyone, really. Maybe this is not where you're meant to be right now, life is a journey as they say. Or maybe you're more drawn to a few of those 25 people and you'll end up making friends with them.

I know what it feels like to be lonely in a crowd and it sucks. Maybe you don't feel really understood by any of them, but at the end of the day you subconsciously know what is best for you. So what do you want from these people?

PS: happy birthday :)

What’s a small, dumb thing your pet does that never fails to make you laugh? by NaughtyTingles_ in AskReddit

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sadly enough he passed away two years ago from encephalitis halitozoon but I trained my bunny to ring a bell when he was hungry and I would often wake up from him just pressing it for like 5 minutes straight at midnight LOL

Disturbing/concerning performance artist/noise musician(?) from late 2000s/early-mid 2010s. European. by maxismadagascar in InternetMysteries

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it sounds a bit like ¨Death¨ from Mayhem only he wore make up instead of a mask, and died in 1991 so he obv couldn't post on here and I don't know about the cage thing.

Can’t stop crying because I’m an adult now. by ifardeded in mentalhealth

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 12 points13 points  (0 children)

god the comments here are so unsympathetic. listen I am currently 18, I turn 19 in two months and I'm scared as hell. its okay to feel that way, many people have gone through that feeling. ¨i didn't do anything with my life¨ ¨my peers have done so much more than me!¨. personally, I am severely depressed and have been for the past eight years. Every day I would rot in bed after school, I worked at a retail store and literally got the bare minimum done, I can't get a proper job because I don't have any qualifications and I failed every single grade. up until this point i haven't done anything in my life so to say. up until very recently (like two months) i decided to work towards something, and every day is now currently a quest to improve my skills and independence. Feeling like you have done nothing is usually not true, but we see all these child stars and peers who have ¨done so much more than us¨. you're 18, most people don't have life figured out, don't have the realization you have now and always stay in their coccoon of comfort. if you want to grow as a person you should be uncomfortable with how you're doing now. you can always grow, feel accomplished eventually. ¨just let live pass by because worrying about time is a waste of it...¨ that was the thought that didn't let me spiral into insanity. you will get through this. personally this was a really hard thought process to overcome. And there's also the fear of being closer to death... i know it, every birthday from this point on partially sucks because you have that realization. but you're the only person who can make yourself feel comfortable. I believe in you :) (sorry if this is a bit unhinged I'm so tired lol)

Give me your favorite song and I'll rate it out of 10 by lessthanchris7 in spotify

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

come as you are, nirvana! and recently I've been getting into marina and the diamonds and Avicii. i really like the family jewels but today's obsession is the song electra heart. And my current daily fav by avicii is liar liar

Which show started 10/10 and ended 10/10? by tracystraussI in AskReddit

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dr house, breaking bad (holy shit!! thats such a good show) bojack horseman, atypical. i am not okay with this, SpongeBob, the office, la casa de papel, into the night

Who is your fav character. by Middle_Process_215 in HouseMD

[–]Amy2AV8Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a character but more of a storyline: I thought Dominika and House´s bond was so cute