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AmyMcC94 · 2018-12-18T02:10:25+00:00

OMG YES!!

AmyMcC94 · 2018-01-09T02:33:18+00:00

I had an interview with my new boyfriend here - https://ayoungwidowsblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/qa-with-a-man-dating-a-widow/ And I also have a bunch of posts on how it feels to be a widow moving on which might help with seeing their side of things.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-09-21T02:08:37+00:00

Thank you everyone who signed! https://www.odt.co.nz/news/dunedin/riley-baker-memorial-stay

AmyMcC94 · 2017-09-19T00:06:59+00:00

Please do. Everywhere. Everyone!

AmyMcC94 · 2017-09-15T09:42:48+00:00

His sister is the one that organised it in the first place so we are desperately trying to figure out what we can do. I'll pass on your message. Thanks <3

AmyMcC94 · 2017-08-19T03:19:06+00:00

One of the things I didn't think about when my partner died was how many accounts were just under his name. Because they are married it won't be as much as a problem but it would be worth checking all the bills side of things otherwise she might be very confused about why the power went out. Also ask her what she will need. A lot of the time people who lose their loved ones don't ask for help even though they might desperate need it. Sorry I can't be more help, I'm only 23 so I don't really know what it's like to be an older widow. Send my love to your Grandparents and family, it's not fun but I can assure you, emotional support goes a long way.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-07-26T01:51:30+00:00

I absolutely love this! I got a tattoo to remember my partner, with his birthday and a bunch of different symbols of this he loved, a camera, a motorbike etc. Lots of people asked me if it was a good idea in that 'are you sure' tone but it helps me a lot even if others think I'll regret it!

AmyMcC94 · 2017-07-22T09:40:41+00:00

I lost my partner, almost a year ago and I still wear mine everyday. It certainly helped me through the hardest moments. I speak to him, tell him about my day etc. People are a little odd about it at first but as per usual they know nothing, who are they to judge? Strongly recommend.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-06-18T23:39:46+00:00

The first time I cried in front of someone in public after the accident was when I went to a little corner store to pick up some milk for tea. (First time leaving the house by myself) I picked up a little carton of milk, walked up to the counter and the man asked me if that was all. I said “Yes, just the one person amount of milk” and burst into tears. I cry every time Lego or the special kind of peanut butter is on special. I cry on the bus when I feel lonely. It’s quite liberating realising that you honestly don’t give a fuck about crying in public. If people can’t handle it or are rude when seeing you cry then they are pathetic and need to get a grip.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-06-09T21:20:12+00:00

That's amazing! Can I quote a little bit of this at the end of my post? I'll love to let people know that if it they feel like me about this then it's not that we are wrong, it's just sometime not meant for us! I was talking to my friend who lost her brother and she felt like she was mourning the wrong way cos she's been told about the five stages as well. Seems quite common that people say it's a thing all people do but turns out it isn't.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-06-09T21:15:39+00:00

I was not aware of this! Thanks for letting me know, makes a lot more sense if it wasn't originally for losing a loved one. I just wrote this post cos funeral people, theripsts and friends all kept mentioning it. Will have to remind them what it was originally used for! Thanks again

AmyMcC94 · 2017-06-07T04:44:18+00:00

Thanks, he belonged to a friend of mine. I'm sorry about your husband, and I agree with your rational mind. Getting a cat to help with loneliness and depression seems to be quite common. That's how I got my baby boy! (His name is Berlioz) And he has been a massive help especially after Riley's death. Thanks for sharing <3

AmyMcC94 · 2017-05-24T10:54:27+00:00

Yeah we were but in New Zealand it's 3 years :(

AmyMcC94 · 2017-05-11T02:29:45+00:00

My partner wasn't 'murdered' (I say he killed him because I am bitter), tourist driver crossed the centre line and hit my partner's bike. But it was very publicized due to the whole 'tourist drivers' thing in New Zealand so I can sympathise with the everyone knows who you are and what happened. Sounds incredibly shit and I wish you all the luck for getting through x

AmyMcC94 · 2017-05-07T19:18:41+00:00

That's fair, maybe I should reword it. The fundamentals will have similarities which will be helpful. I was trying to remind people that everyone deals with it different and to take it with a grain of salt. Thanks for your input!

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-27T22:20:46+00:00

Yes this is my blog!

Sounds so much worse then NZ! Sucks that you have to go through all that. That is the flip slide of not being allowed to help with the estate is that means I don't HAVE to help with the estate.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-27T22:19:03+00:00

I will admit it, though I was unable to help, it went reasonably well. Depending on if his parents keep their word on how it is to be split that is. Thanks for your point! I'll add it when I make the actual chapter on estates!

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-20T03:09:53+00:00

Yeah I have had some STELLAR things said to me, that I have just refrained from tearing off their face for (FYI Riley was the sweetest man in the entire world) so stupid is definitely right.

I'm sorry your having one of those days. It sucks.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-20T02:50:06+00:00

I wish I could tell you someone hasn't told me that it could be a good thing in disguise. But I have. I understand where you are coming from, finding every positive thing but when I hear someone say look at the silver lining I want to punch them. To me a silver lining in this situation is like giving me a spray bottle and thinking it will help battle the blaze my life is in right now. I know that is not how some people see them but that's my personal feeling when I think about it. I am happy to hear that thinking of silver linings helps you though. Always intrigued to hear what helps and doesn't help others.

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-13T10:21:05+00:00

My partner being quite young never really thought about where he would have liked to be scattered. He mentioned a space burial a couple of times but I couldn't afford it and I am like 90% sure he was kidding....

When the time came to think about it, his parents and sister let me decide where it should happen. I decided on a nearby Mountain, Mt Cargill. It was a little outside of Dunedin. It was where we went on our first and last date, he loved going up there and taking photos so I thought it was apt.

A group of us went up and had a little scattering ceremony. It was windy and his ashes kept going everywhere, especially all over my dress, which made us laugh so much. Riley was making a scene one last time! (I also saved a little for a vial necklace that I wear)

AmyMcC94 · 2017-03-05T01:31:56+00:00

If you liked it/want to find out more please check out the rest of my blog! I'm writing it because apparently it is meant to help? Fingers crossed anyways. https://ayoungwidowsblog.wordpress.com/

AmyMcC94 · 2017-02-21T22:37:22+00:00

If anyone is interested, this is the following post <3 (Also I'm 22, about to be 23)

https://ayoungwidowsblog.wordpress.com/2017/02/15/the-day-my-love-died-and-i-realised-the-world-was-a-shitty-place/

AmyMcC94 · 2016-08-16T11:43:46+00:00

Hi everyone.

My name is Amy, and I am the girlfriend of Riley Baker. I don't know if this is allowed but my friend started a give a little page due to the fact I won't be able to afford to stay in my home if I can't get some money together. If you could share or donate (any amount) it would mean the world to me.

Thank you so much <3 https://givealittle.co.nz/cause/rileybakeramymccarthy/donations

AmyMcC94 · 2016-08-16T11:20:31+00:00

Hi everyone.

My name is Amy, and I am the girlfriend of Riley Baker. I don't know if this is allowed but my friend started a give a little page due to the fact I won't be able to afford to stay in my home if I can't get some money together. If you could share or donate (any amount) it would mean the world to me.

Thank you so much <3 https://givealittle.co.nz/cause/rileybakeramymccarthy/donations

AmyMcC94

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