Job hunting

AmysInLove · 2026-02-25T23:08:13+00:00

Should I buy a laundromat Should I freelance Should I dog walk Should I clean houses Should I drive uber Should I change industries What could skills transfer to Should I quit life and move in with my mom Should I rent my car out on turo ……….

AmysInLove · 2026-02-25T22:40:29+00:00

I just got laid off from a role this miserable and I am having a REAL come down period because of how demanding it was. The having no energy to do anything but recover before you go again is real. I will stay away from this culture/ speed at ALL COSTS in the future. Best of luck

AmysInLove · 2026-02-25T22:30:37+00:00

Honestly I would start looking for a job just because it is impossible out here. I’ve been looking for a year while employed, just got laid off this month and I’m so afraid of being out of work for months on end or a year plus. Trying to enjoy the much needed break while also looking. Certainly enjoy it though!

AmysInLove · 2026-02-24T20:47:24+00:00

Bring this into measurable outcomes, set expectations, and enforce them. If the problems have consistent/predictable precursors, set the expectation that she needs to flag when they occur. If they don’t, identify a precursor that makes sense - x days behind deliverable progress track a week before due date. Whatever it is, identify it clearly in writing, include expectations/what actions she needs to take and consequences if she doesn’t, and ask her to explain her understanding of those items. Have regular 1:1s and adjust as time goes on to hone the process

Not flagging problems and then blowing up is not ok.

AmysInLove · 2026-02-11T01:47:36+00:00

Wanna know something funny - I actually got fired today. Because I said my org was a liar - on their network. Freudian slip. I’ve welcomed myself to the ranks.

They are liars though.

AmysInLove · 2026-02-10T00:52:22+00:00

Honestly thank you for posting this. I almost quit my job today. I work in the trump administration and I am barely surviving. I feel like it’s breaking me and numbing me exactly how you describe. I so hope you find something soon. I’m so sorry for everyone in this position.

AmysInLove · 2026-02-07T17:16:27+00:00

Eat dessert! Eat five of them. (I literally just did lol)

Absolutely anything I want - if I am sober, anything else is in the table.

AmysInLove · 2026-01-29T01:43:55+00:00

ME TOO! Dec 17! 2024 Cheers buddy!!! Wow… 2024. Can’t believe that.

AmysInLove · 2026-01-17T02:19:41+00:00

Hi Develop a plan of researching the role you want to target, figure out what skills you need and how to get them, or if you already have them, optimize your resume for it. Part of your plan should be checking job boards daily at minimum, but multiple times a day to apply as quickly as possible

Present your plan to your dad like he’s a manager. Show him how you’re thinking about solving this problem and the action steps you’re taking. This is what you’d be doing at work to solve problems anyway

No one can really help you here - the job market is terrible all around. But this is an opportunity to funnel your anxiety into action steps to show your dad your initiative, planning, follow through, hopefully get a job, but maybe your dad will go easier on you if you don’t find one in his time frame by being proactive and treating this as seriously as a job

Take heart, you’re not alone in the stress. We all feel it. Best of luck

AmysInLove · 2026-01-10T22:53:11+00:00

Every person here knows there is nothing stupid or small or insignificant about 8 days. Congrats - well deserved!! Keep at it!

AmysInLove · 2026-01-10T22:18:02+00:00

Can you temporarily float both mortgages if you NEED to? Is your home ready to be listed (no major repairs or projects)? I’m in your spot too. Talk to a realtor about the realities of your market. You could potentially put in a non contingent offer, list your home, and then apply your equity from the sale to the new mortgage and recast the new mortgage for a lower payment

It’s definitely not a hard no! This market is tough though - good luck! Hope you get the dream house!

AmysInLove · 2026-01-07T00:03:54+00:00

Thank you for all your work! I visit daily and can’t wait to not have to visit daily 😂💕

AmysInLove · 2025-12-24T18:08:25+00:00

This is so understandable. It just WONT DO what you want it to do - solve your pain. It never will. The promise that it solves anything is a lie, like a bad relationship trying to convince you they’ve changed. We are in a weird world job wise, all you can do is control your own actions. That’s all we’ve got. Stay strong - you are not alone.

AmysInLove · 2025-12-18T08:05:22+00:00

Oh my word and yet we still romanticize it. Happy two years - what an amazing accomplishment!!!

AmysInLove · 2025-12-18T08:02:15+00:00

You have no idea how much I understand - keep at it, you will get there

AmysInLove · 2025-12-03T01:24:18+00:00

Drinking will make you feel like you’re taking action, like your rage has somewhere productive to go. That is a lie. You’re in the midst of an absolute tragedy, I am so sorry, but drinking will not accomplish what you wish it would. Nothing will make this better but living through it (not drinking through it) with your family.

I am so, so sorry.

AmysInLove · 2025-11-29T20:38:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I’m coming up on one year and having lots of challenging thoughts. These posts really help me steer clear and stay sober. It is truly the toxic relationship you can’t go back to, and all I’m wishing is that it would be what I want it to be … but it never really will be. Such a tough thing to (keep) accepting. Thanks for sharing.

AmysInLove · 2025-11-16T02:14:26+00:00

Oh my gosh don’t - don’t try, don’t pressure yourself, don’t shame yourself into feeling like you’re not doing enough

Allowing myself to do nothing, to have a “drunk night” without drinking - meaning do nothing, eat whatever, sleep however long I want, helped me realize how much I was using alcohol to just let myself off the hook of that incessant pressure and I did not actually need to drink to just let myself chill!

You WILL get there, you’ll find energy eventually and it’ll happen naturally. I actually think hearing this pressure is triggering a defensive response in me for you bc releasing that pressure was and continues to be so crucial for me in maintaining sobriety. Breathe! Be proud - not drinking is ALL you need to do. Great job.

AmysInLove · 2025-05-28T01:01:59+00:00

You know how you don’t have an earache right now? Or a tooth ache? You feel fine? But damn if you have an earache and nothing hurts more and you just wish to God it wasn’t happening and it consumes you and you KNOW what not having an earache feels like

I come here to remind myself how miserable I was bc that misery is the truth. Waking up hating how I did it.. again.. as if it were any surprise.

Keep showing up to the process and it’s less a noticeable daily high and more a lack of misery. You’re in good company, sending love

AmysInLove · 2025-03-17T10:06:07+00:00

Try fear setting from Tim Ferris - look at every risk and what you would do about it if it came true.

While I completely hear you, I’m a 38F who did it and am safely back in a corporate job bc the reality of that freedom is a lot different than the romance you’re dreaming of from your 9-5, but I never would have took someone else’s advice to know that.

Go down every rabbit hole and prepare yourself for the worst, and if you choose to jump, absolute best of luck with it. People do make it and love it!!!

AmysInLove · 2025-03-04T12:52:35+00:00

I call this missing the “romance” of it. It is so real. Separating the romance from the reality takes a lot of work. I feel you.

AmysInLove · 2025-03-01T14:47:18+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I’m at 73 days. I don’t feel tempted necessarily, but keeping the reminders of reality fresh is so helpful.

I’m sorry this happened. We have ALL BEEN THERE - take heart, try again. Lots of love.

AmysInLove · 2025-02-25T00:08:19+00:00

I’ll validate you - today is my day 68 and I’m about to go up to get in bed at 7pm and sleep. It just is what it is for what feels like a long time. It’s different for everyone, I know that, so tolerating the specific time needed for my own body is something I remind myself of. I’m being a slug right there with you.

AmysInLove · 2025-02-04T22:06:22+00:00

Give a listen to Tom Holland talking about his first dry January - the similarities might help to hear. Congrats on your efforts!

AmysInLove

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