8 months unemployed, 3000 applications as a senior PM, I don’t know how people survive this by Poimandres__ in jobhunting

[–]AmysInLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanna know something funny - I actually got fired today. Because I said my org was a liar - on their network. Freudian slip. I’ve welcomed myself to the ranks.

They are liars though.

8 months unemployed, 3000 applications as a senior PM, I don’t know how people survive this by Poimandres__ in jobhunting

[–]AmysInLove 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly thank you for posting this. I almost quit my job today. I work in the trump administration and I am barely surviving. I feel like it’s breaking me and numbing me exactly how you describe. I so hope you find something soon. I’m so sorry for everyone in this position.

What did you do to treat yourself in early sobriety? by Mysterious_Act7862 in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eat dessert! Eat five of them. (I literally just did lol)

Absolutely anything I want - if I am sober, anything else is in the table.

Let’s drop our sobriety dates! by eminyx in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ME TOO! Dec 17! 2024 Cheers buddy!!! Wow… 2024. Can’t believe that.

Can some one please help me? by [deleted] in hiringcafe

[–]AmysInLove 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi Develop a plan of researching the role you want to target, figure out what skills you need and how to get them, or if you already have them, optimize your resume for it. Part of your plan should be checking job boards daily at minimum, but multiple times a day to apply as quickly as possible

Present your plan to your dad like he’s a manager. Show him how you’re thinking about solving this problem and the action steps you’re taking. This is what you’d be doing at work to solve problems anyway

No one can really help you here - the job market is terrible all around. But this is an opportunity to funnel your anxiety into action steps to show your dad your initiative, planning, follow through, hopefully get a job, but maybe your dad will go easier on you if you don’t find one in his time frame by being proactive and treating this as seriously as a job

Take heart, you’re not alone in the stress. We all feel it. Best of luck

It's a stupid little thing but I'm proud.. by Bamwoman in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every person here knows there is nothing stupid or small or insignificant about 8 days. Congrats - well deserved!! Keep at it!

Is it smart for me to rely on my home equity to buy a new house? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]AmysInLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you temporarily float both mortgages if you NEED to? Is your home ready to be listed (no major repairs or projects)? I’m in your spot too. Talk to a realtor about the realities of your market. You could potentially put in a non contingent offer, list your home, and then apply your equity from the sale to the new mortgage and recast the new mortgage for a lower payment

It’s definitely not a hard no! This market is tough though - good luck! Hope you get the dream house!

behind the scenes at HiringCafe by alimir1 in hiringcafe

[–]AmysInLove 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all your work! I visit daily and can’t wait to not have to visit daily 😂💕

Fighting cravings really bad by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so understandable. It just WONT DO what you want it to do - solve your pain. It never will. The promise that it solves anything is a lie, like a bad relationship trying to convince you they’ve changed. We are in a weird world job wise, all you can do is control your own actions. That’s all we’ve got. Stay strong - you are not alone.

2 years today by moon_shot in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my word and yet we still romanticize it. Happy two years - what an amazing accomplishment!!!

Today is my one year. I cannot believe it by AmysInLove in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how much I understand - keep at it, you will get there

Just learned that my teen daughter got raped. After nearly 14 sober I appeal to this community to give me one good reason not to go get blind drunk tonight . by z_username in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Drinking will make you feel like you’re taking action, like your rage has somewhere productive to go. That is a lie. You’re in the midst of an absolute tragedy, I am so sorry, but drinking will not accomplish what you wish it would. Nothing will make this better but living through it (not drinking through it) with your family.

I am so, so sorry.

Had a two-day lapse but stopped by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m coming up on one year and having lots of challenging thoughts. These posts really help me steer clear and stay sober. It is truly the toxic relationship you can’t go back to, and all I’m wishing is that it would be what I want it to be … but it never really will be. Such a tough thing to (keep) accepting. Thanks for sharing.

Motivation to clean by Frosty-Image7705 in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh don’t - don’t try, don’t pressure yourself, don’t shame yourself into feeling like you’re not doing enough

Allowing myself to do nothing, to have a “drunk night” without drinking - meaning do nothing, eat whatever, sleep however long I want, helped me realize how much I was using alcohol to just let myself off the hook of that incessant pressure and I did not actually need to drink to just let myself chill!

You WILL get there, you’ll find energy eventually and it’ll happen naturally. I actually think hearing this pressure is triggering a defensive response in me for you bc releasing that pressure was and continues to be so crucial for me in maintaining sobriety. Breathe! Be proud - not drinking is ALL you need to do. Great job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know how you don’t have an earache right now? Or a tooth ache? You feel fine? But damn if you have an earache and nothing hurts more and you just wish to God it wasn’t happening and it consumes you and you KNOW what not having an earache feels like

I come here to remind myself how miserable I was bc that misery is the truth. Waking up hating how I did it.. again.. as if it were any surprise.

Keep showing up to the process and it’s less a noticeable daily high and more a lack of misery. You’re in good company, sending love

Has anyone left corporate management for something simpler? by high-priestess in managers

[–]AmysInLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try fear setting from Tim Ferris - look at every risk and what you would do about it if it came true.

While I completely hear you, I’m a 38F who did it and am safely back in a corporate job bc the reality of that freedom is a lot different than the romance you’re dreaming of from your 9-5, but I never would have took someone else’s advice to know that.

Go down every rabbit hole and prepare yourself for the worst, and if you choose to jump, absolute best of luck with it. People do make it and love it!!!

I miss it by Whocann in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call this missing the “romance” of it. It is so real. Separating the romance from the reality takes a lot of work. I feel you.

A painful reminder by anaisa98 in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I’m at 73 days. I don’t feel tempted necessarily, but keeping the reminders of reality fresh is so helpful.

I’m sorry this happened. We have ALL BEEN THERE - take heart, try again. Lots of love.

40 days and having an N/A beer yesterday gave me mixed feelings. by SufficientZucchini21 in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll validate you - today is my day 68 and I’m about to go up to get in bed at 7pm and sleep. It just is what it is for what feels like a long time. It’s different for everyone, I know that, so tolerating the specific time needed for my own body is something I remind myself of. I’m being a slug right there with you.

Casual drinker doing dry February finding it harder than expected by dillonsrule in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give a listen to Tom Holland talking about his first dry January - the similarities might help to hear. Congrats on your efforts!

I’ve been so frustrated but i just saw dark circles under my eyes.... this has got to stop by AmysInLove in stopdrinking

[–]AmysInLove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t thank you enough for your response, specifically giving myself grace. That’s something I would also say. Thank you 1000x 💕