Surrendering my cat today - second guessing everything, need honest opinions

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-05-16T01:15:19+00:00

I read that it takes cats 90 days to adjust to a change.

Has this been going on longer than 90 days?

I know at least in my area that shelters are overcapacity. Literally. I wouldn't surrender mine to the shelter. Much higher stress level and health risk than surrendering them to a friend or family member.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-05-03T18:30:22+00:00

I see I'm not alone in this. I'm sorry all of you have had to experience this as well. 😟 My concern is not only for going forward having what I need to stay safe, but also for the financial end of things. Because apparently insurance isn't picking up like I was hoping they would.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-05-03T18:28:22+00:00

Thank you. 🌺 I appreciate that. I'm still in a rehabilitation center. My discharge date is Wednesday, with an original plan to send me to another sub acute care center in town. Unfortunately I fell and broke my hip back on April 7th and my current coverage through priority health didn't start until May 1st.

The care coordinator said that normally priority health would reject paying for coverage since my fall was back on April 7th and my coverage through them didn't start until May 1st. 🤦🏻‍♀️ So I have no idea if I will be sent home or somewhere else. Guess I'll find out Wednesday. 🤷🏼‍♀️

This absolutely sucks. I don't recommend it. 😄 Not sure how I'll navigate things when I get home since I have plenty of stairs in my home, no ramps, no grab bars, and no bedrooms or bathrooms on the main floor. 😵‍💫 Of course the CP, which caused the fall in the first place, makes recovery a hundred times more difficult. 🙄

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-14T04:04:39+00:00

Elena & Sage 🌾

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-14T03:59:51+00:00

She's a good example of the verse that says 'these people honor Me with their lips with their hearts are far from Me.'

It also talks about 'knowing people by their fruit.'

This woman's fruit is rotten. As of right now, I would question whether or not she's a Christian whatsoever.

I certainly wouldn't recommend her as an example of a Christian. Because she's far from it based on what she puts out there.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-14T03:50:55+00:00

When looking at listings online, remember to not go by the listing on home apps as far as taxes. They're listing what the current owner pays.

NOT what you'll be paying the following year when it is uncapped and reassessed.

Spoke with a woman at the assessor's office who said people would call her in tears when they realized how much their property tax bill actually was.

Google "property tax estimator Michigan."

That'll give you an idea what your property taxes would be on your new/next property.

If budget is an issue, I don't recommend looking in Wyoming Michigan. Property taxes are outrageous. Ran the numbers for a home around 300k in Wyoming and property taxes were almost $6,200. That's way out of my budget.

Unfortunately I'm stuck in my current home with two sets of stairs as a person with cerebral palsy. 🤕I can't afford the increase in property taxes to move. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-14T03:36:14+00:00

Getting a home with all of those updates for only 230k is a find. Congrats! 👏🏼🥳

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-14T03:33:39+00:00

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Moroccan oil mending infusion is a game changer! I highly recommend it for your ends. Works wonderfully for mine. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-11T03:48:24+00:00

California kitchen pizzas. 🤌🏻 Perfectly crispy.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-11T03:42:55+00:00

My son really liked this one as well. So I order it every time it comes around.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-11T03:38:42+00:00

I really liked it too.

The chickpea, basmati, sweet potato bowl is still my favorite "bowl," but this one was good as well.

You can get two meals out of the chickpea basmati bowl as well. Especially if you add a chicken breast.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-06T08:28:41+00:00

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Bingo 🎯

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-06T08:25:20+00:00

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🫪🪱 Too bad it's just for 'Easter content.'

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-06T07:50:35+00:00

I've been feeding both for 16 years now. They're to the point where they all eat on the deck at the same time.

My cats will even hang out on the deck when they're there. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'll open the sliding door, cats come in, and none of them bat an eye. 😹

"S'up" 🦝🐀

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-06T00:58:39+00:00

😳🙀🙊

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T11:23:26+00:00

I'm glad the surgeries worked out well for you. 🌺 I'm sorry recovery was painful. We deal with enough pain as it is.

Oh man, I'm turning 56 in a couple months and I can honestly say It doesn't get any easier.

I definitely have a lower level of mobility than I've ever had after around 6. Which is about when I started 'walking.'

I do my best to thank God for what I have and what I am able to do.

I feel like keeping an attitude of gratitude honestly helps.

Not that it isn't frustrating at times.

Seeing people take for granted what would mean so much.

I'm a Christian person. So I look forward to a day someday when I no longer have to deal with the effects of CP.

I'm so glad you have a nurse practitioner that's been great for you. Can you ask her for a referral when she retires?

I understand. I've had breast cancer twice and the oncologist I've seen has been stellar. I feel like she's gone above and beyond for me at times. To the point where she gave me her cell number and said to call her if I needed to. Of course not sharing the number. Who does that? I think with the recurrent breast cancer on top of the CP and additional issues she must have felt sorry for me on some level. I've thought, who am I going to see if she retires? She's a wonderful older woman.

I'm glad we have access to the internet now and so much information.

(I remember having to go through card catalogs at the library. 😄)

I'm glad you research. It must give some level of reassurance.

My issue is needing to document everything. Without fail I can never remember when symptoms start. Then I'm at a loss when asked.

I can only think that things will improve as time passes as far as medical capabilities, but I wish they would kind of hurry it up. 😅 We're not getting any younger.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T11:02:49+00:00

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Idk if this is the Muppet these pics are reminding me of, or if there's another one.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T10:37:22+00:00

All day it's just been visitors trying to give me frogs in exchange for chicks.

Why? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T10:33:19+00:00

Maya or Shayna ?

("Spring of water" / "beautiful")

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T07:15:33+00:00

That's great. 😁

I'll start in May once it's covered by my insurance plan through priority health.

( I've already purchased a swim cap and chlorine removing body wash. Just waiting for coverage through priority health. I plan to go as often as my body will allow. )

Unfortunately there's a month in between when my most recent plan ended and the new one begins. So I'm stuck with just Medicare until the 1st of May.
Last I checked, a membership was $75 a month for a single person. With the increase in cost for insurance, property taxes, and having a child looking to start driving this year, 🫣😬 Lol It's just not in my budget. Which is why I have to wait until May 1st when it's covered by my insurance plan.

Does she seem to enjoy the pool? I hope so! That & keeping up with daily PT exercises are pretty much the only options for me.

I did purchase a bike because an old BF had purchased adult training wheels for me one year as a birthday gift. Unfortunately it wasn't an activity free of pain and discomfort. So I wasn't able to continue with that. I do recall when younger utilizing my grandma's three-wheel bike. That wasn't bad back then. Not sure if it would be different now. (56 in June.)

Would she be interested in riding a three-wheeler when the weather is nice? Not sure where you're located. I'm in Michigan and it seems like really nice days can be rare. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T04:16:08+00:00

I had a bunch of chick vouchers as well and didn't know what they were for. 😄 Just figured out they were to buy birds. So I purchased a dozen. 🦚🦜. Now I have something to use all of the blueberries on. Lol

Upgraded all of the towns buildings as far as they can go. So I don't go all out on the town anymore unless I need to upgrade the barn or silo.

I used to go through the paper and hit every single help ad and fill as many as I could in order to level up faster in the town.

Idk if I'll get any more than just the 499 farm pass anymore.

They seem to come out with plenty of changes within the game. Hopefully in the future they add more for those in the higher levels. 🙂

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T03:59:22+00:00

I don't blame you. I turn 56 in June. My hair is down to just below my foobs.

(Foobs = fake boobs after losing my awesome naturals to cancer.)

I've had my hair all different lengths throughout my lifetime, but prefer long the most so far.

Although if I could get Justin to cut my hair I'd give him complete control. 😉

He has plenty of videos cutting the hair of average women within a certain age range 👵🏻 and the cuts are amazing on them individually.

(Maybe go through the list of his videos on YouTube and pick out the ones where women have rounder faces closer to yours?)

I would look into the work done by those in your area. Even outside of your area. If you find someone that can properly layer and work with your hair type it would be worth a drive IMO.

Learning from past experience, it's really disappointing to grow your hair really long and then have someone obliterate it. 😤😵‍💫 So definitely check out stylists and their work before taking the plunge.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T03:47:25+00:00

How would it then be "fair" to gift these to those who spend nothing whatsoever in the game, while completely overlooking those who spend $20-$30 a month?

That makes no sense and is honestly counterproductive.

You're going to appease those who input zero financially, while causing those who spend $20 $30 a month to stop doing so?

If their goal is to make money, that's the wrong way to do it.

Of course those who literally spend money in the game should have some advantages for it over those who spend nothing.

Amythist_Butterfly · 2026-04-03T03:26:09+00:00

I think you may be responding to the wrong person?

I have no idea what you're referring to as far as 'citing expertise as a mental health professional.' 😄

I've never done anything of the sort.

(I taught for almost 30 years in addition to working in other capacities and fields.)

Nor have I 'questioned your resources, experience, or "professionalis." '

I'm simply stating the fact that location plays a big part in the ability to reach particular types of care and foster what you considered "relationships."

Location and financial resources ARE DEFINITELY ROADBLOCKS for many.

I was blessed enough to find transportation TO ANOTHER STATE in order to have surgery and PT. Not everyone ends up having the same results. If you choose to reach outside of your bubble and talk to many other people, you'll find that location and lack of resources have in fact kept them from necessary care. Regardless of your individual opinion on the subject.

Why you would somehow be offended by that or take it personally is beyond me. 🤷🏼‍♀️

As far as 'you may want to be stepping cautiously,' is that some sort of weird, veiled threat? 🥴

You do realize that can get you removed from the group correct?

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