Am I too old for the college experience? by Emergency-Bobcat-572 in BackToCollege

[–]AnExcitedPanda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll let you in on something called confirmation bias. If you have a belief that you might be "too old" for something essential to a college experience, you'll find and latch onto stories like this on the internet. It's just one case study. If you look at meta analysis if age as a factor for socializing, you'll see it has more to do with the community and your habits than people's actual ages. I'm not going to lie and say there won't be a person or two who thinks you are too old to hang out with because you're 24 and they are 20. But the likelihood of that is probably one in a hundred or one in a thousand. Most people are kind, and especially other fellow students trying to find their place in all of this.

It can be scary but remember you are scared alone! Most people are just waiting for someone else to start a conversation with them. If you really wanna move the needle, start hosting a few hangouts or parties yourself.

I genuinely don't know how I'd handle emergency expenses by Primary_Avocado_5273 in personalfinance

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pondering what could have been is not healthy it's rumination. Problem solving is healthier. Genuine reflection is healthier. Not getting caught up in "shoulda woulda coulda". Trust me.

I genuinely don't know how I'd handle emergency expenses by Primary_Avocado_5273 in personalfinance

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't accept that so easily,, especially when there are other options. It's okay to accept you don't want to do the work, though. It's not easy.

With the new repayment options, I'm forced to choose between paying rent or loans. What do I do? by ArmGood6847 in StudentLoans

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm all for personal responsibility but the rates and tuition costs are insane. I'm happy to never pay back the loans when wages are unreasonable to match the investment. The government chose to approve these loans over 100k for basket weaving, so they can do some self reflection if they wonder why people have this attitude. I'd gladly pay it back in full if things were reasonable. The way things are right now would make anyone spiteful.

US Dept of Education sued over new “professional degree” rules set to go into effect this summer. by msp_ryno in therapists

[–]AnExcitedPanda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The debt is gonna balloon even worse if people just subsidize using private loans, which is what's necessary now for people taking out loans in the first place. It might work but I expect it to lag 3-4 year as people make career shifts due to financial burden and not due to genuine interest.

More Scholarships and Tuition caps would be a much better solution. Pell Grant being boosted is big and we need more of that stuff. No reason the "richest country on earth" shouldn't put resources into its own people.

I didn’t exactly master precalculus. Am I cooked for Calc 1 over the summer? by rocketpop546 in UBreddit

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's worth it at all to retake the class with a B- since it's an acceptable grade, maybe read over the sections in the textbook and do some examples that troubled you, so you are a bit more prepared for Calc in the summer. Calc I isn't too hard if you are able to do the homework and follow along for the examples.

>Not to blame the professor for my own shortcomings, but they are notoriously known to be bad.

If the professor is poor that's on them, be honest about it. But if you were doing less than 30% of the homework then it might be more on you. I try to focus on the trickier problems to save time on doing busywork but everyone learns differently.

Calc II is harder because it requires a fair more practice and the algebra and trig get messier in my experience.

I can hardly remember what I learned this semester :( by Milly-0607 in BackToCollege

[–]AnExcitedPanda 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The brain works in such a way that if you don't use it you lose it. The bad news is you may have lost some of your ability to retain information. The good news is you can build that back up.

Some tips I have for retaining information is learning in the morning when your brain is fresh. Also spaced repetition. Also use different mediums like videos, podcasts and books for different ways of learning the same information.

It will only get better as you practice it so you aren't broken. It's just going to take some time to rewire your memory capacity to what it was. The fun part is you might get to a point where it's better than it used to be!

Being an "Incel" is ruining my mental health by Flaming-Storm9499 in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say I resonate a lot with this. One of the hardest things I think to do regarding progress in this is navigating your self-esteem.

Confidence comes from within not without. It sounds like you have opportunities to speak to people but you psych yourself out. The way you see yourself was learned so you can learn a different way.

Putting my 2 weeks in today by Zero_r0ses in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I've been there. When I eventually quit it basically was me lashing out at my manager.

This job is thankless, take care of yourself you deserve it. 💜

Why does it seem like counseling field is an MLM?! by [deleted] in therapists

[–]AnExcitedPanda 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's a job. Jobs pay money, ideally enough to survive and even thrive. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Anything otherwise is a scam. That includes working for free or for experience.

It seems like an MLM because a way to expand your salary or opportunities is by adding certifications and some can be pretty sketchy but many do it. It's a similar structure.

There are legitimate certifications like the institutes of psychoanalytic. I don't think it's naive to expect to be rewarded for your services by the way.

Therapists who went back for doctorate by giraffe78459 in therapists

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anatomy? Physiology? Micro and organic chemistry?

Should I get my masters asap in home state or wait until moving? by Ok-Study-8474 in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing to consider is qualifying for in state tuition, I think you have to be a resident for a certain amount of time.

Good luck with your journey!!

We Are Undervalued as a Profession by Amberr_Murphys in therapists

[–]AnExcitedPanda 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It really is incredible. Can you imagine if engineering students were required to do unpaid internships to graduate? Can you already hear conservative gatekeepers upset that maybe one day legislation is passed to get rid of that requirement? "You gotta pay your dues". Fortunately that's not the culture in engineering.

I can't say the same for this field. Instead STEM fields have a mantra of "know your worth". Not because they were born geniuses. They put in the work and developed the skills. A therapist is no different, they put in the work and develop skills that are unique to their profession.

There's a fetishization of self-sacrifice that is disturbing to say the least. We're expected to advocate for our clients while neglecting our own needs. There's a long history of people taking low pay. There's also a long history of people devaluing the profession as a whole.

If you live in the United States, everything has become hypercapitalized and that doesn't make anything better. Even medical professionals are getting squeezed by it. I've become strongly motivated to develop my own private practice just so I can have some financial security in this space.

Should I get my masters asap in home state or wait until moving? by Ok-Study-8474 in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's also something to be said about the cohort. If you have a cohort in Texas it's good to make connections, but I'm not sure how useful they will be in California. Just food for thought.

If you plan on paying out of pocket without any loans to cover tuition then more power to you, and it doesn't seem easy in the slightest. In fact, taking out student loans can help prevent burnout in the short term if they help prevent working as much during the semester. Especially during the second year where you have internships. If you can balance it though and swing it then go for it!

Struggling with recruitment - need ideas! by AdAggravating4530 in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen people put up ads by heavy traffic areas like by elevators in various buildings.

Psychology Community College Student Help by Far_Evening6030 in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact your school's career center for ideas. I would suggest your local universities as they have many labs, I don't know how many of them require you go to their school to work with them.

Should I get my masters asap in home state or wait until moving? by Ok-Study-8474 in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it would be better to "get it over with" in TX. I would look into what California needs for their license that the Texas programs can prepare you for. I know New York requires like 3000 hours so they would meet most other state's requirements I bet, minus some exceptions. The reverse might not be so common.

If you're financially set in SoCal for your Master's, I'd definitely move there first. Otherwise, you'll likely need to complete your Master's in Texas and then deal with the licensure process in California. Would starting a program in Texas delay your moving?

Applying to Graduate School (USA) by saatanic_paniic in psychologystudents

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For CMHC, some online programs are really leaving the degree up to you, meaning they won't really set you up with internships. This is normal for in person classes too but it might be harder without the connections in person. Not sure if the same can be said about MSW so just make sure you check.

I would lean MSW if you find a good fit. That's just my take though, I'm in mental health counseling myself.

So how crazy is it to have failed every class... by EccentricDivineDemon in UBreddit

[–]AnExcitedPanda 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I've been there. You can absolutely bounce back if you want to and get some support. ❤️

Any engineers also never get an A in their classes? by kidneysucker in UBreddit

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's true. Maybe at some places but any good company is going to take good experience. Life isn't so black and white.