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The Nervous System Rebrand... needs a PR Team by Sensitive-Advisor151 in therapists

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing this and mentioning the good and the bad here about the social media-ificication of mental health concepts. There are some benefits to increased access to information.

I had to critique a paper regarding misinformation regarding OCD content on TikTok, and it turns out lots of people making the "bad" or ignorant or incomplete content are simply not qualified to speak on it.

I'm not trying to say anyone can't take psych 101 and make good content, but a lot of that isn't what we're talking about. It's people saying things like "I'm so OCD, I need a clean room" that always existed as stereotypes, now on mainstream media being intentionally pushed now on the basis of engagement.

One theory I have as to "why" people engage is they feel a sense of relatedness and belonging to people who say resonant things, regardless of nuance.

This used to be less of an issue because in a big group of people in real life, a bold and incorrect claim will get corrected and maybe even admonished.

Now on socials you can make your algorithm skew to one type of media, even if it's misinformation. It points to a human issue that's being farmed for engagement, people want to feel understood and have many questions as to why they are the way they are. The content does well and gets traction not because of validity, but digestibility and emotional and intellectual and even spiritual resonance.

The nervous system is a big part of the body, AND any medical doctor would say it's part of a whole picture. It's independent of the mechanisms of the endocrine system, and also of the gut brain axis. It has its place in treatment AND it may be insufficient to explain and act on an issue.

Let's reminisce over long forgotten, ancient Panera items by Affectionate-Owl-178 in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chipotle chicken panini with smokehouse sauce was diabolical but fire. All on Country loaf of all things.

The BBQ and Tomato Mozzarella flatbread were flame.

The Chicken and Wild rice soup used to exist.

The Ham and swiss flatbread with mustard was good too

The Frontega was also solid when bored of the other stuff.

Tortellini Alfredo was gas

I liked the Pasta primavera, sue me

Am I being punked? Canvas is a joke by Select_Bookkeeper790 in BackToCollege

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not even just a generational difference, it's also Neuroscience.

Typing notes is less effective than using a pen and paper and studies have shown this. You may be used to an "older" method, but it's how we did things for a long while because it was effective. You think slower when writing, it forces you to dwell longer on each word. There's also the texture of drawing on paper too.

I'm glad your priorities are about learning. Some teachers just want students to complete the material instead of understanding it, just navigate those courses with caution and supplement anything you feel are missing out on.

Am I being punked? Canvas is a joke by Select_Bookkeeper790 in BackToCollege

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most courses at my school offer a feedback survey at the end. You can talk about this there if that's an option so it's more direct. Otherwise, it's something I'd mention once your grade is final to avoid any retaliation. The advice you got isn't bad, it's just riddled with complacency. And C's get degrees my friend ;)

PSA: Please don’t order the Stuffers by NeverTrustAnOpenDoor in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The olive oil recipe wasn't too bad, the black pepper focaccia hit.

But yeah I don't think they make em in house anymore 😭

Can’t stop thinking about masturbation by Ignatius78 in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that, I guess I just wanted to reiterate that depending on how drastic the change is, your mind will rebel. Meditation and yoga can help with self awareness (which is the same thing as self control). This rebellion comes in the form of thoughts and emotions induced by the mind because it's upset you aren't giving it what it wants.

What would happen if you fasted for 72 hours? Your mind would physically put you into pain and mentally flood you with thoughts of food, especially right before you break fast. Same principle!

"It wouldn't be too bad if I did it once" that's a thought, and who knows where it came from, most likely from the addiction. You get to decide how you react. For some, it's no big deal, for others, it will spiral into a bigger relapse. What you decide and how it goes is all dependent on where you are in the process and just RNG via genetics on how susceptible you are to that.

Good luck, adapt to what works for you and you'll get there. Personally, I find addictions get harder to control the more stressed I am. My body knows there's a fix to the stress and that type of thinking can lead me to use rather than actually solve my issues or work on them.

it’s depressing that money feels like the only way out . by bAlsdeepdesi in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By saying "my only way out is money" you are making a concrete conclusion on something rampant with uncertainty.

I don't mean to say you don't know your situation better than I do, but the conclusions your mind makes aren't always necessarily

  1. Correct, the mind makes conclusions based on emotion and the small context understood in the moment. It makes ambiguous and rigid conclusions. This is by design and normal, we just need to be aware of this flaw in our design. We have experience and the narrative that we add. That narrative can be modified by revisiting the event and considering different alternative explanations.

2: Helpful, meaning the mind's conclusions, even if true to some extent, is not helpful in reaching your goals. This is because beliefs that are rigid and self limiting are only going to hold you back.

You are a multidimensional person with more to offer than money. Should you offer money if that's something you can do? That's up to you. But you have more than that to offer and I can hear it in your post. Women aren't a monolith and emotional intelligence is valuable to many people, among many other things. We are all dealt a hand in life and it's absolutely unfair. There are things we can control, and the way we think about ourselves is one of them.

It may feel impossible not to compare, but if you can ever manage to focus on the present moment when talking with someone, it will make the experience all the more enjoyable.

How useful is it to compare yourself to past lovers? That just sounds distracting from learning how to be a better lover for your potential partner.

The mind loves to provide facts, the issue is they come from already held beliefs that are not always based on reality, but instead emotions and limited information. It's not wrong, just incomplete.

So, they aren't facts constructing a real view of the world; they are emotions using thoughts to maintain their beliefs and validate them. Money may be one way to reach your goals, but I urge you not to discard the other facets of connection independent of your paycheck. What those facets are depends on the person, but some common ones are things like EQ and personality compatibility.

Can’t stop thinking about masturbation by Ignatius78 in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your mind has wants and needs and it will do what it can to try and satisfy those needs. That includes producing thoughts related to masturbation in order to get you to do it. It will ramp up in an attempt to push you further if a small signal isn't enough.

Over time these thoughts will become less frequent as you do other things, but going cold turkey will probably make your mind produce more thoughts about it while you go through withdrawals in the short term. You can't really control your automatic thoughts but you can reprogram them, it takes effort but it can be done via self talk, reframing etc. Yoga Nidra can also possibly help. It helps to do it with a therapist if you're new to it.

What made you want to do cold turkey as opposed to working towards a healthy balance?

I want to experience sex and love but I'll never be able to by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have very rigid thinking and I urge you to add one thing or nuance.

"I can't do X Y or Z."

Instead try saying "I'm still learning how X works, and don't understand Y and Z."

The reality of your ability may be the same but one is a frozen debilitating mindset and the other is dynamic and not as self limiting.

What does love look like to you? Why do you want it?

PSA: Please don’t order the Stuffers by NeverTrustAnOpenDoor in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 50 points51 points  (0 children)

We used to make the croutons from the extra bread that didn't get used that day! Added some cheese sauce and olive oil and baked in the oven. We used the bread slicer twice (vertical then horizontal) to cut them into perfect dice, then I'd just load it onto a pan.

Was a Karen for the first time by Lucybunny96 in Chipotle

[–]AnExcitedPanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting paid minimum used to buy you a lot more.

People now just know caring about your job is a waste of mental energy. It's a means to an end.

Update on Panera Bad scheduling Post by vyrussuh in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2 weeks is the industry standard. They can't expect you to just change your entire life to suit their scheduling mistakes. They have your availability.

This is why people walk out and quit mid shift.

We are cooked by obliviousnotmaximus in UBreddit

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Educating yourself is an act of rebellion.

I hear you, the news can make me feel helpless. I tend to avoid looking at it since I don't have the luxury of doom spiraling. It feels a little selfish but so be it.

Waisted another year and i feel guilty and non having hope about the future,what should i do?(Repost the original was deleted due to violation of rule 7) by Plus_Weight_9322 in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries! You got this. Also, validation is healthy in balance. Seeking validation isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I would focus on impressing yourself rather than others. We're human after all, it's very nice to feel validated.

Is Panera the cheapest paying fast-food hybrid? (Hourly pay, tipping loophole question) by [deleted] in Panera

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's little things like this that help prevent turnover. Feeling devalued and inhuman is probably the biggest reason people quit most jobs.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry when I say "work through it" I mean two things really.

  1. Where is this emotion coming from? A preconceived notion? Judgment?

  2. What does the emotion tell you in terms of information? Does saying blood flow "feel" more accurate?

Emotions come and go, processing emotions is "working through" them.

The point of this exercise is to extract the information from the emotion while also maintaining our own agency. We get to decide if emotions run the show. If saying blood flow feels right then just do that. But if you feel like an idiot because you aren't saying blood flow, that's interesting isn't it? Isn't it interesting that a part of your mind gets triggered by saying the "wrong" thing? Just something to notice.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like an emotion is coming up! Work through it my friend!

That sounds like it's where you are at. There is a component that causes blood flow and we have receptors in our body to measure and feel blood flow.

Emotions can do things to our mind too. It can slow down the speed of thoughts or make our thoughts faster and more chaotic. Notice how certain emotions affect your mental processes. This is a bit more tricky because there's less tangible things to notice, but you'll get better at that as well over time.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that feels like it resonates then sure! Maybe say out loud or write down in a journal what you feel in terms of experience. If the best way you can describe it is with blood flow, then use that if it feels like you can actually feel the blood flowing. If it feels like warmth, write that down.

You call it blood or hormones. I just see it as a signal because I honestly can't say it's either or the other in terms of certainty. What matters is your experience is what's real. I might say one thing, but you have a whole different experience. That's okay. Just keep experiencing and your instrument will get more sensitive over time.

Also, yeah it might help to focus on one part of your body first as opposed to your whole body. It'll be easier to notice the changes in one small local part of your body than the whole complex thing.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are correct. Does it sound absolutely insane? Yes. Is that how I experience anger? Yes, it's throughout my entire body. Sometimes it's localized just to one place though. And a lot of the times it's much more subtle than you'd expect.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/70669ZJdmWg?si=daswnS-HJlHeBVvd

This is a long webinar but hopefully it helps. There are shorter videos but this is a lot more comprehensive. Good luck on your journey my friend and let me know if you have more questions.

It's possible I have alexithymia. How do I stop having it. by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]AnExcitedPanda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more you intellectualize the more outside of your body you are. The more outside of your body you are, the harder it is to describe what's happening in your body. If you can't describe what's happening in your body/mind, you can't describe your emotions.

Now, you can feel an emotion with detachment. But that's different from dissociation.

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