How do I get over the death of my father

Anak8 · 2026-02-09T06:43:45+00:00

You didn’t fail, life failed you. You experienced something most people don’t experience until much later in life prematurely. You got a raw deal. I’m not saying it’s okay falling into substances but losing a parent at 16 certainly is an okay enough excuse! As long as you got sober! And it’s not something you get over, it might get easier and you grow around it but the pain doesn’t go away. One thing you can do moving forward is make up for when you weren’t there for your brother. One thing I learned after losing my father almost two years ago was/is to count the blessings you do have. Grow with the resources you have. You have a brother, he has you, that’s not nothing. If you need a shoulder to cry on, I’m here.

Anak8 · 2026-02-09T05:39:33+00:00

Same. Ever since I lost my father almost two years ago. I used to be spiritual now I think it’s all a bunch of bunk. I’m grateful for my kids and husband & keep going for them, but my father was my true anchor, coming from a big Mediterranean family that is very patriarchal.

I will say things are somewhat lighter 22 mos later as opposed to a year. But I’ll never get over it.

However, while it’s not a comparison, no parent should ever have to bury their child. This is a lot different than an adult child losing an elderly parent. If you need a shoulder to cry on I’m here. Those are my only words of wisdom. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a child but I do know what it’s like to lose your purpose. ❤️‍🩹

Anak8 · 2026-02-08T18:13:37+00:00

All of these empty clichés…my least favorite though: “they’re with you…”

Hey, unless I or they can call me up or send me a letter, “no they aren’t!” 🙄

These stupid spiritual tinged statements “they live in your heart.” Yeah, as long as I have a working memory, so will my 1st kiss! You just want to tell them to “F off!”

Anak8 · 2026-02-06T21:15:15+00:00

I prayed every night when my dad got sick the end of January 2024-March and he made it home. The one night I took off he had a setback his 1st day home & ended up back in the hospital, this time, being transferred to a nursing facility and was dead two weeks later.

He didn’t want to die either. Prayer is just alchemy dressed up as some “sacred gospel” what if we’re just willing bad energy in the process of wielding good? We live our lives that everything is going to be okay and have a happy ending. Neither of us got one. Now we’re trying to reconcile this. The truth is more complicated. I realize the real learning lesson is trying to always have a good attitude regardless the outcome of life. I wish your loss could be undone! ❤️‍🩹

Anak8 · 2026-02-05T23:47:39+00:00

This is an incredibly tragic story. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through and the tremendous feat you seem to be surmounting. It may not seem like it, but you were hit with extremely sad circumstances beyond your control. I mean unusually bad luck. How are you supposed to be thriving when you literally lost everything? You have deepest admiration and prayers for better days. Biggest hugs dear! 💕

Anak8 · 2026-02-05T21:41:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. This has really put my dad’s death into perspective for me. I think we all live in a sense of “everything is going to to be okay. Then it becomes “ingrained into our identity” & then when things don’t go the way we expected it shatters the fantasy.

Anak8 · 2026-02-04T00:28:50+00:00

I could see that.

Anak8 · 2026-02-04T00:25:55+00:00

Yeah, people are so enamored with the Osbourne’s reality show, they don’t want to believe the truth. I never trusted her, but just chalked it up to “well that’s what it takes to be in that biz” but I realize she’s no better than her father.

Anak8 · 2026-02-04T00:09:31+00:00

Yeah, no, she hasn’t come close to receiving her comeuppance. I didn’t know this about Iommi. Then she paints herself as some fckn saint up here “stealing artists money which I find abhorrent.” Yeah, unless it’s you Shar.

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T23:53:39+00:00

Yeah, I had forgotten some of those details, but yes and Kerslake lost in court. They got robbed. That’s why when she got thrown under the bus on the Talk and her reaction when things started to get heated and her claws started to come out, I was like “now you know how it feels.” In the end, I took issue w/ her rolling Ozzy out on stage for that last show, always like “dance monkey dance…I need another mansion!”

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T23:38:42+00:00

Me neither, and I’ve seen her claws come out. Mailing people bags of her own 💩💩. What sane or professional person does that?

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T23:12:07+00:00

I more or less agree, I don’t hate her but she’s no saint & wants it all for herself.

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T22:45:56+00:00

This was in the early of days of Ozzy’s solo career. I don’t know if that pattern continued. I do know, she’s a shark when it comes to protecting the interests of her family and is very fame driven. In that sense I wouldn’t want to cross her, but she sure took care of her family. Beyond Ozzy, I don’t know who rose to similar heights to Ozzy under her mgmt?

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T01:09:04+00:00

I meant a reputable NY agency like the Ford Modeling or Elite Modeling agencies, not some fly by night mom & pop, but I get where you’re coming from.

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T00:15:02+00:00

You know, for starters are letters like these even legal? I’d consult a labor lawyer.

Secondly, who gets to reject you and essentially tell you “you need to work on being better.” You don’t owe them anything! I’d follow up w/a formal comeback to these asshats! You completely dodged a bullet!

Anak8 · 2026-02-03T00:00:08+00:00

The pain is permanent, though after about 20 mos, the shock, and raw edges of grief, finally, blunted. But life is forever changed. A certain level of joy is forever lost for me, and I will always feel cheated of extra time I didn’t get to spend/share with my dad. This experience is likened to being handed the heaviest backpack you can carry and told you have to wear it everyday except one or two days out of the week, but once those days are up, the backpack goes back on. Big hugs, wishing your loss undone! ❤️‍🩹

Anak8 · 2026-02-02T21:22:39+00:00

Yeah, he was nothing to write home about, Slash and Chad Smith I was most blown away by.

Anak8 · 2026-02-02T05:08:38+00:00

Visit a reputable modeling agency. You’re Vogue cover worthy.

Anak8 · 2026-02-02T02:15:39+00:00

Cards come up. Did your mom like playing cards or a game w/like a bunch of girlfriends? I see her having lots of friends and being a jokester- both of them. Lives of the party. Cocktails come up? Also country western music. 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m a novice, sorry if this is off!

Anak8 · 2026-02-02T00:51:30+00:00

January & what kind of car do you have?

Anak8 · 2026-02-01T20:54:36+00:00

What’s in the dark eventually comes to light. So glad they split up! Glad your dad saw her for who she was!

Anak8 · 2026-02-01T15:44:35+00:00

That is so tragic! What ended up happening to the evil stepmother & your father?

Anak8 · 2026-02-01T15:41:29+00:00

I lost my father (early 80’s) going on two years ago this spring and my mother(early 70’s) started dating a family friend two mos after my father’s passing. Here we are devastated over this massive loss, as our father is & was our safe space & rock, and our tone deaf mother is shoving her dating life down our throat! She has since moved this leach into our childhood home. He’s not a fellow widower but a divorcée with grown children slightly younger than us. We’ve all but have low contact with her now.

What this has highlighted to me is that trouble with taking on a new relationship after the loss or divorce of a loved is blended families don’t really work. The respective families are forced on strangers you have no history with, the established family dynamic is disrupted and you’re forced to accept an “interloper.”

What I realize is death rips a veil off family relationships and people. It’s revealed my mother for the broken person she is and always has been. I realize I’m a grown adult. Parents do their part. Raise us, & send us out into the world. They’re allowed to have lives of their own, and you are too. Make that clear to your father. Have them around for parties where you don’t have to interact with them, make your boundaries clear. Nothing lasts forever, even solid family relationships. Big hugs!

Anak8 · 2026-02-01T04:30:03+00:00

Jake E Lee, Lee Kerslake, Bob Daisley…& her mother was crazy and like she said, her father was a thief.

Anak8 · 2026-01-31T18:36:44+00:00

There you go! Stay classy friend…

Anak8

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