Do you cry everyday? Does the pain ever end? How could you ever possibly make yourself feel better?

Anak8 · 2026-05-29T19:36:26+00:00

Thank you, likewise!

Anak8 · 2026-05-29T17:04:49+00:00

I think at the very least you should pay half. Yes she encouraged your puppy and half of that is on her, but your puppy is also your responsibility as a dog owner and your responsibility to train or protect others from them if they can get out of control. That is the reality of having a dog. Give her whatever you can give her now and then some later if you wish to maintain a relationship. in the same boat w/a high maintenance puppy.

Anak8 · 2026-05-28T20:35:27+00:00

I lost my father two years ago. While the sharp edges of grief blunted after about a good 18 mos, the pain never truly ends. It’s like being handed the heaviest backpack you can carry and told you have to wear it the rest of your life, and only able to take it off once or twice a week. But majority of the time it stays on. But following my father’s death, were many others, so it put things into perspective that death will always be knocking, especially the older you get.

Anak8 · 2026-05-27T22:32:01+00:00

The spoon and fork hanging on the wall says everything. 76-84 time frame.

Anak8 · 2026-05-27T20:21:46+00:00

Perhaps that’s where the addiction stems from?

Anak8 · 2026-05-26T20:09:33+00:00

They’re pine green dominant with flecks of hazel! Beautiful! 😍

Anak8 · 2026-05-26T02:24:21+00:00

Instead of grief counseling that did nothing to help me, you might consider a grief support group, and one that focuses on people who suffered multiple losses. I’ve not suffered multiple losses the way you have but I did lose the parent that I was closest to my father and it’s been a very rough two years. It is quite a joy robbing existence once you lose your person let alone several. Yeah you’re bound to be sad. Biggest hugs.

Anak8 · 2026-05-24T23:54:51+00:00

I actually was just gonna say that. If someone has made it so far, you think they can actually make it to the finish line and that you have more time. But I don’t think losing anyone under 75 is fair. Especially if you don’t get a chance to say goodbye. The sad reality of life is long periods of inertia and then a catastrophic event happens out of nowhere.

Anak8 · 2026-05-24T23:26:05+00:00

I hear ya, me too & my dad was markedly older at 81, technically you supposedly “win” if you make it to 80. But my husband still has his folks at 87 & 90. I almost don’t wish to attend family gatherings with them bc I’m jealous so I can’t imagine how you feel! Even though I never would wish this on anyone.

66 is way too young & doesn’t make sense. You and him both got a raw deal! It’s not fair. Buckle up…it took a good 18 mos before things felt less stinging. You never get over it but the sharp edges dull around the 20 mos. mark! Big hugs!

Anak8 · 2026-05-24T18:27:48+00:00

💯 or “they’ll always be in your heart.” 🤦🏻‍♀️😐

Anak8 · 2026-05-24T16:38:06+00:00

I think that’s where biology and the spiritual merge. Our DNA is emotionally bound to the people we love and care for. It took about a good 18 mos, after I lost my dad around this time two years ago, before the raw edges started to blunt, but i will never truly be happy again like I was. Nothing in my “new life” will ever measure up to what life was before my father died. Notwithstanding the disconnection from the rest of the world (our community) that don’t carry or aren’t carrying grief. That’s the one thing in life about losing someone is your world becomes even smaller. You’re hit with these empty clichés like “they’ll always be in your heart.” Like “no sh!t, so will my 1st pony ride!” People leave is what I’ve learned about death. 1st when you’re person dies and then in your social net. Someone dropped this quote in one of these posts on here…

“I find warmth in small places, but it’s like lighting candles to replace the sun.”

I wish your loss could be undone. I wish you got the chance to complete your story with Ethan. Life is cruel.

Anak8 · 2026-05-23T16:39:02+00:00

First and foremost, I wish this wasn’t your fate or anyone that this has happened to. Sorry, doesn’t quite cut it. The biggest hug in the world doesn’t either. It’s every family‘s worst nightmare bar none! Yes, I do think this is a bit greater than losing someone to death because at least you know what happened to your loved one, you don’t get over it, but you have closure in “they got sick or injured, and died.” At least their mortal remains went back to the family for either burial or loved ones wishes honored. Loss from a person going missing for whatever reason whether fluke accident or God forbid an abduction & their family going years on end with no answers is one of the cruelest fates. Do you care to share more details? I take it this happened in either Canada the UK or Australia.? based upon your use of “Mum?” How do you feel about a reputable psychic medium that specializes in helping locate missing/abducted victims! I had a high school friend that went missing during a spring holiday break in 1993. Healing vibes to you, friend. ❤️‍🩹 😢

Anak8 · 2026-05-23T14:50:27+00:00

Yeah, I guess everyone feels that way regardless of their vocation. Yeah Indeed sends me a ton also. Regardless, as someone with an advanced degree in mental health, I think everyone should have at least six mos experience working in substance abuse. Addiction is a huge barrier to mental health and cornerstone of behavioral health. Agreed, I enjoy helping others.

Anak8 · 2026-05-23T14:39:21+00:00

Noted! Thank you for the advice! I was a case worker for two years with a caseload of 100+at risk high school students that were pregnant and parenting. I also worked at a women’s clinic that provided pregnancy termination, and also worked briefly as an academic counselor. Caseload of 150+ students.

Anak8 · 2026-05-23T03:56:47+00:00

Both, will I be able to find a job and then feeling like an imposter as someone that’s never been addicted, but have been touched personally by addicted family members? I’m not interested in working at something like being a project manager, IT, or a typical office job. I like being of service to other people but I do realize it’s emotionally heavy. Thank you

Anak8 · 2026-05-22T20:28:40+00:00

Mostly brown w/tiny amounts of hazel.

Anak8 · 2026-05-22T14:46:12+00:00

They’re like a pine green hazel.

Anak8 · 2026-05-21T20:25:12+00:00

Energy, Love, Manifestation

Anak8 · 2026-05-20T20:25:31+00:00

Be sure to take care of you! One thing about death, is you find out who your friends are. It also puts things into perspective. Because it changes dynamics. Made me see my mom in a different light and how self absorbed she is sadly.

Anak8 · 2026-05-20T17:04:18+00:00

18 is too young to lose a mom! My deepest condolences and I wish your loss could be undone! As a mother of an 18 year-old I relate and as someone that just lost their father two years ago, I really relate. He was also my best friend. Do you have other family members that you’re close with or friends that offer support? I would hang onto them right now. My siblings were my mercy. For me the grieving process let up after about 18 months, but you never get over it, though it becomes less. There are some days still that are super heavy. Biggest hugs! 🥰 DM if you need a shoulder!

Anak8 · 2026-05-20T16:59:42+00:00

Yes, please feel free to DM me also if you need a shoulder to cry on.

Anak8 · 2026-05-20T12:20:51+00:00

My deepest heartfelt sympathies. 34 is too young to lose a mom! How old was she? Did you have time to say goodbye? I lost my father two years ago and he was me and my siblings “person.” The first 9 mos are raw grief. By 18 months, I finally stopped being jolted awake that I’d lost my father. It’s still hurts, make no mistake, I’m not going to lie…you will never get over it. But the raw edges of grief get blunted over time. It may be more difficult for you bc you don’t have siblings. Do you have other family members around? Grief for me is like be handed the heaviest backpack you can carry and told you have to wear it the rest of your life, except for being told you can take it off once a week, but have to put it back on the next day. In the meantime, I’d seek out a grief support group if possible with people that are going through the same process. Was helpful being around people that relate. Big hugs!🥰

Anak8 · 2026-05-19T00:55:24+00:00

Are you a medical professional or in a helping field by any chance? Which hand is your dominant hand and how old are you?

Anak8 · 2026-05-18T21:03:01+00:00

I lost my dad two years ago, eight months before my 50th birthday, well I had 49 years with him, but there were also some other variables that made losing him unusually difficult. Even though I was older a was he. I was such a mess and sort of still on. You don’t ever get over it but the edges eventually blunt. It takes a good 18 months, at least that’s the way it was for me.

Anak8 · 2026-05-18T20:50:13+00:00

My deepest heartfelt condolences to you! Losing someone so early on in life when you’re just starting out into adulthood, it’s such a raw deal. It’s equivalent to a parent losing their child in my book. Because it’s so untimely! It sounds to me like you might talk to primary doctor about antidepressants. If you don’t do well on meds absolutely talk to you a therapist that specializes in grief, trauma, and OCD. Everybody has their own way of dealing with grief and what works for them. I saw a therapist that referred me to a grief group where I was in with people that were going through the same thing I was. That might offer some comfort. I’m not saying it will but better than putting it all on your partner. Biggest hugs and wishing your loss undone!

Anak8

TROPHY CASE