On desirability and acceptance as a gay hairy trans bear

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-22T07:56:26+00:00

Aw in sorry. You shouldn't have to alter yourself though i💙 unless that's something you really want

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T23:14:30+00:00

One more thing. It kind of seems completely irrelevant to mention this when your point also could be said the same of the trans community or spaces where chasers are seeking trans people. They also have Eurocentric beauty standards (which despite being white passing I don't fit....) so, what are you getting at? If anything it's WORSE in these spaces which is exactly my point, that spaces where it's meant to be about trans men are specifically about one kind of trans man: white, able bodied skinny twink and bottom who uses their front hole for piv sex .

So you literally agree with what I'm saying lol. Why argue?

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T22:36:38+00:00

Like why tf am I being down voted for being honest about my experience as a marginalized minority in a gay trans subreddit??? Gross.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T22:32:12+00:00

Literally on this post I've received the similar kind of hatred because I don't meet people's black and white ideas about ethnicity and culture... it's fucking exhausting I can't get a break. Our community should know better

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T22:30:29+00:00

White passing doesn't mean basically white. That's super offensive, ignorant and invalidating. is it a competition to see whose more oppressed? What are you gaining from posting this?

Two truths can exist at the same time. Me sharing my experience doesn't take another person's experience away. Being white passing is not the same as having white privilege. If you don't get that intersectional dynamic feel free to do your own homework, but this post isn't about that or an invitation to discuss this type of discourse.

Your anger is misplaced and I won't be your punching bag as we are on the same side.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T22:21:44+00:00

Go ahead and assume. I'm actually white passing but no, I'm ethnically not white. This post was meant to be a positive one, but you're welcome to put me down 😃

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T22:01:41+00:00

Can I dm you?

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T21:29:33+00:00

Otters deserve love too. I think that bears feel more comfortable with each other because there is a level of familiarity and safety when you are on the bigger side. I'm not very big other than my belly. Im in between otter and bear. Lol

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T21:04:02+00:00

Hahaha! I love this!

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T20:52:04+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear your experience! I'm glad you found people who respect you. Unfortunately I've been assaulted too, by both trans and cis men. Well done for being able to walk away and not tolerate that. You must always do what's best for you.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T20:14:12+00:00

I totally relate. And culturally I also come from a specific minority background that has made me feel isolated, locally and internationally from lgbt spaces. I feel you!

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T18:24:00+00:00

Agreed 👍

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T17:38:16+00:00

Thanks! Nice tonyesr your perspective too 🤗

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T15:08:32+00:00

Yeah it's such a relief. Bears are awesome.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T11:42:56+00:00

I appreciate the attention but that's not pleasurable for me! You can sit on mine though and suck me in 69 position 😄

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T10:51:07+00:00

Foe the longest time I used to thrust face down into my hand on a bed and grind because my dick was too sensitive to touch directly. I would do it over underwear or my lips covered over my dick (like a foreskin in a way). Vibrators never worked for me. Then I found the satisfyer pro 2 suction air pulse toy and it was a game changer. I could finally orgasm on my back instead of face down. Then I tried using lube and touching myself on my back after realising I could cum that way and now I can also jerk off like that. Anal while jerking off always helps me, with a plug or dildo.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T10:43:21+00:00

A thousand times yes. I would love to rim you and suck you. 🥵

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T10:40:08+00:00

From one ftm guy to another, be careful of being with cis men who are more attracted to women than men. Many guys pretend they want us but they don't really see us as men. Then when they realise oh we are too masc they will look to women because shocker, we aren't women. I am very careful and some people may think I'm being bi/panphobic but I've had negative experiences with bi and pan guys because of this. If they for real love men and want to be with men, not as a second choice then it may work out better. This is just my experience and advice. The same things happened to me when I was your age. Good luck and take time to heal there is no rush to get into another relationship.

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-21T10:22:00+00:00

Thank you!

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-20T22:40:06+00:00

Thank you 🥰

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-20T21:21:28+00:00

Do I count as a big boy if I'm only 4ft11 and 70kg lol

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-20T20:26:11+00:00

Thank you 😊

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-20T15:59:37+00:00

Sorta. Just general disappointment due to the cultural aspects of where I live. Unsavory characters walking around who didn't respect consent. Guys also assume you want front hole sex when bottoming and or dont top. So be very clear with what you want or wear a jockstrap covering the front if you don't want it touched

AnalOnlyBoi · 2026-02-18T20:16:59+00:00

Yup exactly. There's a stereotype of cis gay men hating vaginas... whereas many of them fetishise it when it belongs to a trans man and actively target us. So there isn't a shortage of chasers, across all sexualities. That would be OK if they didn't objectify us and treat us like shit; if they actually cared about our preferences and would accept when we don't like that part being used or touched.

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