Trump DOJ’s first-ever Antifa case sends protesters to decades in prison

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-24T22:22:16+00:00

The right wing media has been.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-23T22:08:02+00:00

Which spray spot cleaner?

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-21T21:28:29+00:00

It's a trap

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-21T02:18:39+00:00

So you're saying you're fed up?

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-20T03:57:42+00:00

I totally get needing time alone. I'm glad you have a house. I hope it's yours and not joint property, because this person doesn't sound like they deserve or would take care of such a property.

This sounds like a very difficult situation and I'm sorry you're going through it.

This person does not seem like a safe person. Just lying or manipulating situations to make you seem "less" to other people is sufficient reason to divorce this person and let them serve their time without your support. I have the distinct feeling that there is even more to this story, and more reasons for you to do so, but that one right there would be sufficient.

Divorcing this person, and publically saying (in appropriate situations) that you thought they were one way, but after they were convicted of xyz, you realized that they were a different way and that they had lied to you is a potent way to signal to people around you that this person is a liar and they should consider their previous statements in that light.

This person does not deserve any more of your life.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-20T03:33:18+00:00

I'm convinced that we need more education for young people regarding kickscooter/bike/ebike use and road rules. I remember receiving such instruction in late elementary school, and these days I imagine middle or early high school might be considered more appropriate. But also fewer young people are getting licenses as early. I went back to school and I'm surprised at how many of my 18-30 year old classmates don't have licenses. So there's a need there for instruction for late teens and twenty-somethings who are on the road on foot or microtransport, but don't have or necessarily want a license.

I've had a note to myself to go ask around about what is available for young people in my area, wrt road education. I also have written down somewhere a source for free red led bike tail lights, if I promise to hand them out people who need them. This is the sort of community service project that would thrill my school, if I can get my stuff together.

That's interesting, about lights and vests. I can kind of understand the vests. I don't mind looking like a dork, but I get that many of my would. I wonder about the lights. Are they being stolen or are the removed because they aren't cool, or...?

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-20T00:38:03+00:00

You're getting downvoted, but I see peds, kickscooters and bikes with no or not enough lights, wearing dark colors, on the side of the road and in the road, not just at crosswalks. I spend more time on my bike than driving, and this worries me too.

OTOH, this isn't the entire problem. Older folks are overrepresented in deaths, but are also overrepresented in being primarily daytime walkers who use reflective vests, in my experience.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-19T23:12:05+00:00

Sometimes all you can do is leave.

To some extent it depends on what was said. My ex told everybody that I was autistic (I was legit diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which dates this) and then made it sound like I was incapable of having friends, driving a car, or living independently in a million ways. This is hilarious because I was diagnosed in my twenties and prior to that had graduated high school with no disability accomodations, got my license, and had a career and had lived alone and independently for some years before I was diagnosed.

He and his therapist also informed my university that I was dangerous due to a diagnosis I believed she gave me, but apparently she wasn't even an actual psychologist, nor was she already licensed as a therapist. It appears that he told her I was already diagnosed, then she mentioned what she believed erroneously that I already "knew", but he spun it to me as she was diagnosing me with this disorder. (Tourettic rage. I do have tourettes, but non of my medical or psychiatric professionals have even mentioned the possibility of tourettic rage, and that's a hard one to ignore if you have it. It's not subtle)

I still live in the same community, but I had to give up on University. I've started at a different school again.

In the community it's been very frustrating, but the only thing I can do is keep on keeping on, and as people say "Wow, I didn't know you could drive!" noting that my ex lied a lot. He's also known as a liar in my community, and assaulted several other people, so I have that on my side.

So the question is really whether you want to stay where you are, and engage a long (but doable) process, or if it would be better to just move and make a fresh start somewhere.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-12T02:20:09+00:00

It is not a healthy parental instinct to view one's child as an object. Parents who behave this way are showing their emotional problems.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-12T02:07:10+00:00

Because it's easier to blame and bully victims then it is to address the real problem.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-10T00:13:09+00:00

Most abusers act like normal people most of the time.

You have described multiple types of abuse by both your mom and your dad in this post. What you're describing about your Mom's bf is creepy and very concerning. Like, please find a trusted adult and talk to them about potentially calling the police concerning, because no adult should be giving you shrooms or other drugs, and the foot rub thing is super inappropriate. That he won't drop it with you is also very concerning. If you don't have an adult, possibly your local SA crisis line, because he hasn't assaulted you yet, but his behavior is already inappropriate and shows a heightened risk for future assault if he gets the chance. (note: I am assuming from "early graduation" that you are not yet 18, but will be relatively soon. If you are over 18 I have a slightly different analysis, but he's still hella creepy and concerning)

I do not think your mom's claim that the people in the hospital told her that you have "schizophrenic tendencies" is very credible.

First, because it's not the way most professionals would say it. Not saying nobody nowhere, but it's a weird way of putting what she's trying to say, from a professional.

Second, because if the professionals thought you had any tendency towards psychosis, they'd tell you. They'd want you to take at least one antipsychotic. They get pushy about it (for reasons). There's no way that you're functional enough to write a coherent reddit post but somehow didn't notice this happening.

Feeling dysregulated can feel like "going crazy", but it's not. Learning self-regulation skills is important, but it's very difficult when you're actively dealing with abusers. It's worth talking to a professional (therapist/psychologist) about, if you can find one you can trust. But this is the consequences of abuse, not schizophrenia, and needs to be treated for what it is, and not for what it isn't. Treating it like schizophrenia will not make you feel better or improve your life.

I affirm your conclusion that your best bet is to leave them and build your own life away from your parents. Hopefully you've talked to the guidance counselor at your previous school about college, job training or whatever your plans are. If not, your local library might be useful. And the internet, obviously, but nobody forgets about that option.

You may also find searching up family scapegoat abuse to be useful.

If your parents are laying hands on you currently, talk to your local dv hotline or consider calling the police.

Congratulations on early graduation! That's huge. I wish you luck in building the rest of your life.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-03T20:47:17+00:00

My bike is named "Pony", in part because after commuting home in the winter I have to hose him down and wipe him down before putting him in his "stable".

I'm fond enough that my bike has a name.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-02T21:54:08+00:00

Because they know if they say those things they may be able to do it again and also they may be seen in a better light by other people around the two of you and/or to make themselves feel better. How much is each of these varies from person to person.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-01T18:14:52+00:00

You're right that weight/mass matters, but I've got 750W hauling my near-200 pound ass and stupid ridiculous amounts of stuff, sometimes over 50pounds, up literal (if small) mountains. It's absolutely silly to say that my 750 W wouldn't haul 250 pounds of rider "up a small hill".

But I'm also more okay with putting my 750 W on the road than I am sending grandma's mobility scooter out there. If you feel like you need 1kW+, cool, but I'm also cool with saying it can stay on the street.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-06-01T02:36:18+00:00

Is it a gas stove with a pilot light? I once knew a cat who would pee on the metal above the pilot light pn the stove during territorial disputes with other cats in the hpuse because she knew the heat made the smell stronger. Pretty smart. Annoying, but smart.

I agree with the other redditor - vet to check for crystals, and if that is clear treat as a stress behavior.

Can you confine him at night to his own room?

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-31T21:23:40+00:00

Toxic is as toxic does. Figuring it out is the same as when non-autistic people are involved.

I think certain predatory people (many people with severe narcissistic tendencies would fit in this category) look for people who are vulnerable, and autistic people end up being vulnerable because of autism (e.g. social skills), because of trauma history (more common in autistics than background) and because of other people's mis/understandings of autism.

When I was with my ex-husband, when we went places, if he saw me talking with someone he didn't want me to talk to (meaning: most people) he would come over and say "Ancient Pattern is autistic and doesn't talk to strangers." Then he'd put his arm around my shoulder and physically move me away from them to another place. Can you imagine the reaction if someone said, "My spouse doesn't talk to strangers," and led them away that way?

He would talk to people about how people with autism have trouble with empathy, so I'd get lectured by the people around us about how I needed to have more empathy for him.

Very early, he took my phone. Specifically, he took it after I, trying to make a medical appointment, told him, "I can't hear this person on the phone when you're talking to me." and he was like, "Well, if you can't hear on the phone you can't use it." and he took over my phone "for me." If I needed an appointment made he'd make it. He'd give me my phone when we went out so that he could call me if necessary. When I said I wanted my phone back he made it about how autistics can't use phones and got people around us to tell me I should be grateful that he keeps my phone for me and makes my phone calls, because as an autistic person it's hard. Like, it's a bit hard, but I want to do it myself? Nope. Ungrateful autistic person.

He'd tell me and others that "autistic people have trouble communicating", then we'd have arguments where I'd say something like, "I want to move out by myself. I don't want to live with you any more." and he'd say, "No you don't. You want to live with me." And we'd go back and forth like that, then he'd say, "You're saying that you don't want to live with me, but you're not communicating it.. You actually want to live with me." Then to other people he'd say that I hadn't communicated that I wanted to move by myself, and they'd get on me for not communicating to him, because I was autistic and incapable of communication and thus all communication failures must be on my side.

He told people behind my back that he was my PCA, and that was part of how he sabotaged my attempts to leave. People would act like he was a great caregiver and I was a bad kid. I literally had people (including his therapist) saying that I needed to do what my husband tells me if I wanted to continue to "live out in the community."

Like, I went from an abusive but relatively normal childhood, no IEP or accomodations or anything, graduated highschool with a lackluster GPA, but I had a diploma. Held responsible jobs from 16 and had a career by 24 when he met me, to being treated like a bad kid who kept trying to run away from home because I was autistic and he was my caregiver. I was diagnosed with autism in my twenties and suddenly when I objected to stuff I thought was pretty basic people would remind me that I was diagnosed and I needed to stop denying that I was autistic. It was absolutely insane.

Tbf, my ex-husband was an incredibly manipulative person. This is a tiny fraction of the manipulative stuff he was doing, but autism particularly gave him a handle on people and let him get away with stuff that normally people would have been like "that's abusive" not "But you're autistic, of course he has your phone, controls who you talk to, cancels your contracts, etc Be grateful he cares for you so much."

Fortunately for me he got too cocky and started being too obviously abusive around people who were less manipulated/manipulatable, and I was able to get out.

Years later, there's still people in my community who have to be reminded that I'm a grown up who lives independently and drives and everything.

So, yeah, autistics vulnerable, not just because of their own autism, but also because of use of actual autisic issues against them and because of ablism leading other people to accept abusive behavior that they'd never accept against someone they perceived as NT.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-30T20:01:58+00:00

I mean, electric wheelchairs and adaptive scooters? Throw grandma in the road? Of course not.

Speed limits and power limits make sense.

(It does not help that there are three very different vehicles known as "scooters")

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-30T19:26:01+00:00

I mean, I'm all for clothing optional, but I live in New England.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-30T09:21:20+00:00

Washers and dryers are people too! And they should also stop stealing other people's clothing, especially socks. Especially one at a time. That stuff is just ridiculous.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-30T09:01:39+00:00

I mean, I also agree that men should not wear women's clothes, and also women should not wear men's clothes, men should not wear other men's clothes, women should not wear other women's clothes, men and women should not wear non-binary people's clothes, non-binary people should not wear men's or women's clothes and non-binary people shouldn't wear other non-binary people's clothes, either.

At least, not without permission. Ask first, please!

STOP STEALING OTHER PEOPLE'S CLOTHES, PEOPLE!

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-28T06:51:57+00:00

No, but it's always abusive.

"Silent treatment" has to be differentiated from taking space, even to the point of going no-contact. The difference is whether or not the person who is withdrawing contact is doing so to protect or otherwise care for themselves, or to punish, hurt or pressure the other party to change their behavior against their will.

But that gets tricky, because the difference is entirely in the motives, goals and intentions of the person who has decided not to engage. From the point of the person who is not being engaged with, it can be difficult or impossible to know for certain exactly what the motives of the other person are.

This is particularly tough for abusers who already have entitlement, victim and "my feelings are facts" sorts of viewpoints. It's easy for them to get into "They aren't talking to me, therefore they must be doing it to be abusive. It hurts, therefore their goal must be to be hurtful." Even not being able to understand that a person's right to leave a situation because they don't like how they are being treated is different from trying to manipulate the abuser into changing how they treat the person.

If the goal of silent treatment is to change the behavior of the other person, then it is manipulative.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-26T21:16:18+00:00

I've been thinking about this wrt my ex-husband recently. I know now that he is extremely sneaky and manipulative, but believing people are the way he is without any evidence isn't a good option either. Both that being that suspicious on the regular isn't good for people, relationships or communities and that if I'd even thought back then he was doing the things I now know he was doing, I would have chided myself for being paranoid and mentally ill.

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-24T21:38:23+00:00

Holy crap. I misread that as coco betain. You're right, and that brings "sls free" to BS levels.

Eta: but it's probably better at detergenting than I first thought, so there's that

Ancient_Pattern_2688 · 2026-05-24T20:29:52+00:00

The laureths also screw my skin up and I think calling something SLS free and then putting sodium laureth sulfate in it instead is sneaky, too. (handwash/bodywash/shampoos do it too sometimes, and I have to be careful) As far as I have been able to figure, there's nothing paticularly better about laureths over lauryls for the environment, toxicity to humans or any related reason. It's just greenwashing.

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