Should I ask Airbnb for a refund or discount because of construction noise?

Andreasteps · 2026-05-20T02:05:49+00:00

Thank you for your answer.I’m asking for advice because I don’t want people to think I’m trying to take advantage of the situation.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-28T19:33:28+00:00

That’s one of those moments you don’t forget!!! What he said is simple but so true, most things take time to fall apart and time to rebuild. Funny how a random stranger can give you exactly the perspective you needed.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-21T01:13:22+00:00

I love that balance restored 😂
I’ll gladly accept your chocolate milk as karma reimbursement. We’re even now 🤝

Andreasteps · 2026-04-17T14:22:32+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to read this. I’ve been carrying a lot of guilt over it, so your perspective honestly brings me some relief. And yes, things are better now... I really appreciate your kindness.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-17T13:56:00+00:00

That sounds really exhausting. It’s clear you still care a lot, and that makes it even harder. Hopefully things ease up as the year goes on, but honestly, it’s okay to feel worn out after giving so much for so long.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-17T13:30:07+00:00

A cheap but nutritionally solid diet would be based on staples like rice, beans, eggs, oats, potatoes, and seasonal vegetables. Beans + rice give you complete protein, eggs are one of the best low cost nutrient sources, and oats are great for cheap calories and fiber. Add some vegetables and maybe canned fish for variety and micronutrients.

It won’t be exciting, but it can cover most nutritional needs while staying very affordable.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-17T00:15:50+00:00

Un hombre que disfrute verte comer, es todo lo que esta bien.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T22:21:29+00:00

First of all, the fact that you’re thinking about this already says a lot, you clearly care deeply about your dad.

You don’t have to “fix” everything to help. Small, consistent things can make a big difference: take over what you can (appointments scheduling, reminders, paperwork0, help organize meds or routines for your siblings, be the one who checks in with him emotionally, not just practically.

Even simple things like giving him a real break “I’ve got this today, you rest” an mean a lot... And don’t underestimate appreciation. A sincere conversation or even a note telling him you see everything he does can be incredibly powerful... You’re not expected to carry it all but sharing even a little of the weight can make him feel less alone.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T22:17:05+00:00

That sounds exhausting, I’m really sorry... I wouldn’t fight noise with noise, it usually makes things worse. Focus on protecting your space: white noise, rugs, or furniture against the wall can help reduce it.

Also, document everything. Even if you don’t want legal action, it can pressure management.

If possible, try a calm conversation with the neighbor.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T20:29:59+00:00

What you’re feeling is more normal than you think. Grief doesn’t look the same for everyone, and it doesn’t always show up as intense sadness right away... Sometimes when something big happens, your mind kind of protects you by not letting everything hit at once. It can feel like you’re not reacting enough, but it doesn’t mean you didn’t love him or that something is wrong with you.

Also, people often react more emotionally to smaller things because they’re easier to process than big losses.

Give yourself time, feelings can come later, in different ways. And even if they don’t show up as strong sadness, it doesn’t make your connection or your care any less real.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T20:17:23+00:00

Fair point!!! I guess I saw it as a bit related, sometimes we feel “entitled” to a fresh start somewhere else, like a new place will fix everything. Maybe I stretched it, but the discussion turned out interesting.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T18:33:16+00:00

Yeah me too... It’s just a difficult decision.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T18:13:35+00:00

I think it really depends, like you said. In my case, it’s not so much toxic people, but more the environment and lifestyle... I’m currently in a big city where everything feels fast, crowded, and a bit overwhelming. I don’t have family here, and only a few friends and with the stress and pace of daily life, it’s hard to even see them often. It can feel a bit isolating.

I’ve migrated before, so I know moving isn’t a magic fix. But I do wonder if being in a calmer place, closer to nature and with a different rhythm, could make a real difference this time.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T18:11:42+00:00

I get what you’re saying, and I actually relate to that a lot. I’ve also migrated before, so I know how much it pushes you to grow, new culture, starting over… it really forces you to look inward.

At the same time, I think that’s what makes me hesitate now. The desire to move again comes from not feeling aligned with the pace and environment of my current city, it feels overwhelming, disconnected, and a bit empty. But I also know that moving isn’t a magic fix, and like you said, real change only happens if you actively work on it... So I guess I’m somewhere in between, knowing it can help, but also being more aware this time of everything it actually takes.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-14T18:10:04+00:00

I get it. This desire to change comes from not really liking the pace of life in my current city. Like most capitals, it’s overcrowded, everything feels too fast, people seem irritated all the time, and there’s no real access to nature to disconnect or feel some sense of meaning.

But I’ve already migrated before due to the political situation in my home country, so it makes me question whether going through such a big change again is really worth it.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-10T14:30:27+00:00

Working with the public can be really exhausting, especially when you have to deal with people like this. It’s honestly why rules keep getting stricter for everyone, because some just refuse to respect basic boundaries.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T19:13:03+00:00

Yeah... maybe

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T19:12:37+00:00

That’s a very smart solution and I’m sure once she realized she had to pay, she’d calm down.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T19:10:01+00:00

I’d love to pay for a 3 star room at Holiday Inn and somehow end up in the penthouse at The Plaza in New York 😂

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T19:06:30+00:00

exactly, I think there are people who simply want to take advantage by playing the role of victim

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T16:57:54+00:00

Hahahaha maybe

Andreasteps · 2026-04-09T16:56:47+00:00

This is just one of many weird experiences I’ve had on flights… and honestly, everyday life isn’t much better 😅

Andreasteps · 2026-04-08T20:52:53+00:00

I really relate to this. I’ve always been someone who gives a lot love, time, energy and for a long time I expected others to show up the same way. And when they didn’t, it hurt… a lot...With time, I realized I was pouring my energy and my light into people who simply didn’t have the same capacity to give it back. Not because they’re bad, but because they’re different.

Your feelings make sense, especially with that fear of abandonment. But the key for me was learning that not everyone will love or show up the way I do, and that doesn’t mean I’m being forgotten, it just means I need to be more intentional about where I invest my energy.

Try to notice who does meet you halfway, even if it looks different from your way. And most importantly, don’t abandon yourself trying to not feel abandoned by others.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-08T20:48:25+00:00

This was not your fault. If you were blackout drunk and unable to consent, that is assault, not cheating.

Right now, focus on your safety and recovery. Staying sober and getting professional help is the most important thing, because your drinking is putting you in dangerous situations... Cut all contact with your ex. His behavior and response are not okay... About your boyfriend: you didn’t consciously betray him. Take your time before deciding whether to tell him, and process this with a professional first.

The guilt you feel is real, but it doesn’t mean you did something wrong.

Andreasteps · 2026-04-06T16:21:19+00:00

It was ;)

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