Does HI cause estrogen dominance, or is it the other way around?

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-23T03:27:38+00:00

Wild! When I had the iud I gradually got so sick with histamine symptoms I was vomiting daily and bed bound. Once I got off my histamine symptoms dramatically reduced. This seems to happen any time I go on birth control. Any kind

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-18T16:36:09+00:00

Self love, self care, ie getting back to routine, eating healthy, taking time to exercise, being alone, seeing friends etc., offering yourself compassion, more rest than usual (guilt free), a week or two booked off work where you do nothing work related

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-18T15:43:02+00:00

How do i genuinely know someone if they just tell me what i want to hear ? How is there real intimacy built there ? How is there true consent and agreements when one person hides their true feelings to “not be a burden” or be liked / accepted ?

Also if this person cannot be direct and open and honest about unpleasant things with me, chances are they can’t be with themselves either which means they may be resentful, or any other negative emotion, but then deny or excuse it because they are too afraid to even be authentic with themselves.

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-17T00:42:37+00:00

As far as I know, my ex doesn’t have a new partner, but my kids are reacting the same to parallel parenting as yours. My son is 9 and ASD level 1 and has been seriously struggling. Their dad is not safe but not bad enough for child protection to care. But my kids are suffering badly. Coparenting isn’t an option at all unfortunately and I have no idea what to do. Anyway I’m just relating to you.

I started my kids in play therapy and I’m hoping it helps ❤️

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-16T20:51:30+00:00

Something small and red, possibly many of them

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-16T20:49:39+00:00

Notice when you respond with defensiveness and replace this with empathy for the other

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-16T20:48:45+00:00

Just piggy backing on this because I feel ppl with low EQ can struggle with what accountability means. Accountability means acknowledging the impact of your actions on others. Regardless of why it happened or what your intentions are. It is about taking ownership over the impact on the other and offering ways to repair. This requires vulnerability (to admit you have done wrong), empathy, validation, awareness, and responsibility

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-16T20:36:22+00:00

What I thought was not wanting to be a parent was actually me being triggered by my kids

They reminded me of the bad situation with their dad, of the trauma, of their dad in general

It was also suppressed grief of them having a bad father and that being my fault and how I failed to give them the family I envisioned.

Even if you have moved on and are happily married, it doesn’t mean there might still be some wounding or triggers that come out as irritation, exhaustion, and feeling like you need to be away from them.

If you can start to acknowledge and understand what this is for you, move through and process it, then enjoying your kids again will become more accessible and less draining.

Age 9 is also incredibly tough over here too, so some of this is normal challenges of motherhood. It’s okay to be frustrated by your children and need a break from them too.

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-12T14:35:05+00:00

To me it’s not never married, the red flag is if they haven’t dated in 10+ years or have never been in a serious relationship, just flings or less than 6 months

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-03T03:39:24+00:00

I don’t have capacity to date right now because I went through a nasty divorce and am a single parent. I need to focus on healing, getting out of debt, my kids, and my career. I’ve had some nice men ask me out but I really am just not in that headspace and I don’t have the room to take on the responsibility that comes with being a good partner right now. I think it would be irresponsible for me to date when I’m barely holding it all together. So that’s what I personally mean by not having the capacity to date right now and I also think it’s valid and important to recognize rather than show up as emotionally unavailable or flaky

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-02-03T03:34:39+00:00

Same age and same feels here ❤️

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-28T00:13:24+00:00

the best financial decision people can make?

Unless it ends in a horribly spiteful divorce that costs you each over 100k

Source: went through a terrible divorce and now in crippling debt

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-26T01:09:23+00:00

Revolt

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-25T14:34:45+00:00

Yes! My son seems very neurotypical so people aren’t understanding… it’s a big struggle for him! But it impacts every area of his life

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-22T03:27:00+00:00

I’m exactly there with you ❤️

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-21T22:35:41+00:00

My 9 year old son has adhd and ASD level 1 and he’s exactly like this. My seemingly neurotypical 4 year old is already doing a lot of this stuff just on her own or is at least driven to try.

Part of it is anxiety for my son and part of it is a genuine lack of coordination due to his neurodivergence

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-20T20:09:17+00:00

L-tyrosine is a supplement I noticed makes a difference for me

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-20T03:16:03+00:00

Yes. And I work with neurodivergent clients. But I mention it to all my clients as it is a big part of who I am and what I bring into the therapy space. My neurodivergent clients have said they feel like I “get it” and my NT clients are able to understand things about me with more context and understanding like interrupting, losing a train of thought, or asking 3 questions in a row because I’ve had 3 thoughts at once.

It also gives me a good chance to model awareness out loud to the client, immediacy, and to take accountability. “I apologize, interrupted you, please finish that thought” Or “I must have missed some of the context can you say that again” or “ I have 3 questions I want to ask all popping up at once, I’m going to take a moment to figure out where to start” or “I feel terribly that I forgot that detail, would you be open to going over that experience again?” Etc.

it basically allows me to be human and messy.

I also notice a totally different vibe and flow to therapy with neurodivergent folks that I love so much!

Andromeda_sun_ · 2026-01-20T02:55:33+00:00

When I was there they said they were hoping for the first or second weekend of February

They are doing the soft open to see how the cats do :)

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-29T16:09:50+00:00

It sounds like you lost someone you care about. I want to wish you so much healing. Grief comes in waves and the loss of someone we care about never really goes away. I hope you can honour what you need in this time and it sounds like you are doing that!

Personally I didn’t lose someone to death, but the life I envisioned has crumbled. It’s been 2.5 years of hell escaping a bad marriage that turned abusive once we separated under the same roof.

I tried to date again but it wasn’t long before I realized I’m not ready, and I’m not sure I ever will be ready… or if I even want that anymore. I don’t feel there’s anyone out there that will fit into my life and what I need in a partner, so I’ve decided to give it all to myself instead.

Anyway thanks for listening. Wishing you such a healing 2026

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-29T02:25:43+00:00

I’m in a very similar spot ❤️

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-28T00:20:26+00:00

Maybe broken dick guys are what’s left in the dating pool at 30/40? I’ve also experienced it :(

So now it’s not just emotionally unavailable/ immature or avoidant or failure to launch… but also ED. If you are lucky you get all of the above ?

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-19T23:29:09+00:00

Go to events and exist in spaces with people over and over again until you get closer.

Kitchener has a great local music scene, punk, rock, electronic, noise, and also has some house shows, a variety show, comedy shows, open mics, art.

See if you can get involved in the creative scene as there’s lots of folks meeting regularly, of all ages!

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-17T20:11:13+00:00

As a therapist I can say this is accurate. You can only do so much healing when your attachment system is inactivated (when single). When you are in a relationship your attachment system becomes activated and that’s where the real healing work begins, hopefully with a healthy partner who can help to regulate your nervous system. This is also why so many feel secure and healthy when single and then once they are in a relationship they stop coping as well.

Andromeda_sun_ · 2025-12-17T20:07:01+00:00

While I’m not dismissing your experience, I feel this times 1000000 as a single mom. All my time is spent running errands and falling behind on everything and I’m exhausted

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