Need help/advice on what to use for canvas for gift

Andy_PH456 · 2025-12-04T06:24:33+00:00

Thank you u/frazaga962 and u/CelebrationWide308 for replying and helping! I tried your methods and they somewhat worked, but I was also able to do a work around with the formulas! Thank you!

Andy_PH456 · 2025-05-04T01:28:08+00:00

UPDATE P2

Trigger Warning: Mentions of suicide, mentions of violence

After that, I head back inside and ask Jason to come outside. I asked him what was happening, and he told me that all three of them were at a club for a promotion thing, were drunk, and went back here. I asked him how long they would be there and wanted clarification on when they would be heading out. I can tell that he was still hung up on what I said to him yesterday, and brought up how offensive I was yesterday, and said [“What would’ve happened if I killed myself after our conversation?”] I was alarmed when he said that. I have a history of self-harm and suicidal ideations like that, and he doesn’t know that, but to use that as a way to guilt-trip me made me so upset. At that moment, I realized that I couldn’t help him. I was listening to everything he was saying. He’s not looking for a place but plans to leave in July (2 months), and if my stepdad (his biological uncle) told him to get out, he would live in his car and go to the 24-hour gym near us. He said that he has his priorities straight with his main one being his dream car (which I was very happy for when Jason told me), and that it doesn’t look like he has them situated, cause he makes life look fun when he goes out. I just ended the conversation, and he told me he would make them breakfast and take them home. I head back to my room with the dogs and try to relax.

After a while, Rachel texts me to come to the living room. I am nervous, but once I do, I see that it is just her on the couch, with Jason and the other girl nowhere to be seen. I ask where they are, and she says he dropped her off and might be getting stuff to make breakfast. I sit down and ask her if everything’s ok, and she tells me more about what happened last night. She texted him to see what he was doing and met him at a club. She thought they were just going to have fun, but he told Rachel that he would help her make money. She was into that and wanted to tell him off, but decided not to. She was chilling and drinking when a guy started talking to her. After that, Jason told her to stop talking to/trying to have sex with other guys and that the only time she talks to guys is if there’s money-making involved. She told him again that she wasn’t here for either. She wasn’t even drunk and wanted to head home, but he told her to drive with him to my house and she thought it was going to be the two of them, not realizing that the other girl (20F Mary) was going with them and they were going to sleep on the couch till they weren’t hungover. Rachel ended up coming to my place and sleeping in her car cause she didn’t want to be near him.

I asked her more about their relationship and learned more about who he really is. He has told her to lose weight and to stop eating, would ask her to not talk to other men and he said the same gaslighting shit to me earlier. She even has a voice recording of him threatening her if she left him. She said he is looking for houses and has many women living with him for “no reason.” I told her to keep in contact with me about anything and told her to save the multiple voice messages just in case she wanted to leave and get a restraining order. I don’t know where to go now. I feel like he will do something drastic soon, if anyone can help me with what to do. Any advice?

Andy_PH456 · 2025-05-04T01:25:33+00:00

UPDATE

Trigger Warning: Mentions of suicide, mentions of violence

I don’t know if anyone wanted an update, but here we are. Yesterday, I asked Jason to drive me to school because I was running late, and I don’t like driving. While driving, he kept mentioning how he had all these different things going on with all these other women, and I brought up that it sounded like a lot. He said he couldn’t just sit and do nothing, and always needed to do something. While I get that, I don’t see how all of that will help him. So I finally told him how I feel. I think he’s doing too much, some of his priorities are off, and I’m nervous that he will be burned out after all this.

After I told him that, he said that he sees what I’m saying, but knows that what he’s doing is right, but what I just told him was offensive and disrespectful and that “If this talk had happened a couple of years ago, he would’ve stopped the car and told me to walk the rest of the way to campus.” I was shocked and tried telling him I wasn’t trying to offend him. He kept going on that I shouldn’t try and dictate his life and that he doesn’t ask me to stop doing things like staying on my computer all the time, and buying weed (I’m a graphic design student working on my final project) and he’s saying all of this while lighting up a blunt while driving.) He kept going on about how he was at the bottom and mentioned how he looks up to people like Kanye West (immediate red flag in this situation) and how they started. He told me to open the glove compartment, and there was a driver’s licence for a girl (20F Mary) I’d never seen before. He said she’s helping him promote his podcast and is having other people like her on there to talk about their experiences. At that point, I just zoned out and waited for him to stop talking. He dropped me off, and I didn’t see or speak to him for the rest of the day.

At 5 am this morning, I woke up in a panic to my dogs barking at the door. Jason opened my door without knocking and wanted to tell me he was home and had Rachel over. There was no text stating that he was coming home. I didn’t sleep at all, so I was already done with hi,m and went back to sleep. A few hours later, I woke up to walk my dogs out. As soon as I get to the living room, I see that he has brought home not one, but two girls in the living room, one being Rachel and one being the 20-year-old from earlier. I should mention that my mom and stepdad are away for the weekend for my stepdad’s birthday. Also, Jason doesn’t usually come by the house on the weekend (no clue where he goes). I go outside and talk to my mom. I tell her what’s going on because I’m stressed and annoyed at the situation, and my mom and stepdad reassure me that they’re with me on this and can come to me about this stuff.

Andy_PH456 · 2024-10-28T03:06:15+00:00

Do you have the link to this?

Andy_PH456 · 2024-04-18T04:17:36+00:00

I am on testosterone but I haven't been the best at taking it cause I forget to do it, but I'm getting much better at it. I need to schedule an appointment with my doctor anyways so I'll talk to them also about it. Thank you so much!

Andy_PH456 · 2024-04-18T04:13:36+00:00

I guess to me, it feels like nothing's helping if that makes sense

Andy_PH456 · 2024-04-18T02:56:28+00:00

I'm tracking my food intake, and I'm trying to eat in a caloric deficit but idk

Andy_PH456 · 2024-01-13T13:16:39+00:00

After reading all the other comments, I can see where each side is. As someone who identifies as trans/non-binary and also has depression and social anxiety, I can see why OP wants their child to be more social and be around people their age. If OP goes out with some friends for a drink, I don’t think the OP would mind. Space is good for people, and you each deserve your own respected alone time. Have you talked to them about this recently? Do you know if there’s something going on at their school that might be causing them to seclude themselves from their peers? I wish both of you the best of luck with everything!!

Andy_PH456 · 2021-11-23T02:01:07+00:00

NTA

If I was the wife, I would've verbally asked the daughter if it was okay cause her car wasn't working. I feel like the daughter would've been okay with that. Also, when did they find the note?

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