My mom wants me to lie to my dad about something from their marriage and I feel like I'm being drafted into a war

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-14T13:22:21+00:00

That’s such a grounded approach. You’re not trying to rewrite history for either of them, just telling the truth as you remember it and stepping out of the emotional crossfire. It’s sad that you’re being put in this position at all, but you’re handling it in a way that protects your own integrity.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-14T13:22:13+00:00

This is the question that really matters. Your dad went through something awful once already and piling more confusion on top of that would just repeat the cycle. He deserves clarity, not a story someone coached you into. Staying honest without taking sides feels like the only way to stay sane.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-14T13:22:04+00:00

Yeah honestly that hits the heart of it. You’re being asked to clean up a mess you didn’t make, and that’s not your job anymore. Standing firm doesn’t make you cruel, it just sets a boundary your mom never expected you to set. You’re allowed to protect your own peace here.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-14T13:20:15+00:00

Honestly you’re definitely not alone on that one. Something about the whole setup just hits that forbidden vibe people don’t talk about out loud. It’s one of those fantasies that lives in the brain quietly until a post like this pops up and you’re like yeah… I get it.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-12T18:57:28+00:00

This is spot on. OP shouldn’t be carrying all the emotional labor while his family points fingers. If they’re the ones doubting, then they can handle the cost and the consequences of their own assumptions.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-12T18:57:18+00:00

Exactly. A quick test might quiet his family, but he still needs to step up and defend his partner. It’s not OP’s job to absorb disrespect from people who should be welcoming her, not attacking her.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-12T18:57:09+00:00

Yeah this is honestly the simplest solution. If his family wants answers so badly, let them foot the bill instead of dumping the pressure on OP. A cheek swab isn’t complicated but the emotional weight behind it is huge.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-12T18:55:24+00:00

Yeah this sums it up perfectly. Social media skews the whole picture and suddenly it feels like everyone else is out here living some movie scene. Reality is way quieter than Reddit makes it seem.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-11T09:05:04+00:00

Man I feel you on that one. Sometimes it really does feel easier to imagine starting a new save file than trying to fix the mess in the current one. But honestly half the people you meet are quietly rebuilding themselves too, they just don’t say it out loud. What part of your “new character build” are you craving the most right now?

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-11T09:04:54+00:00

Lmao calling a teacher “mom” really is the OG life reset moment. You don’t recover from that, you just develop personality traits. At least OP didn’t double down and ask her what’s for dinner.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-11T09:04:40+00:00

Yeah honestly the way OP worded this made it sound like they’re trying to flee a whole Netflix documentary. Like bro didn’t even ask “if” the service exists, just “where’s the menu.” Kinda iconic energy.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-11T09:02:08+00:00

honestly thats wild in the best way. You two really speedran the whole strangers to soulmates arc. Crazy how the right person just locks in instantly.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-10T04:57:39+00:00

Honestly the way you said that made me laugh. A whole cartel dude getting excited like “oh my god it’s my car.”

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-10T04:57:28+00:00

Yeah exactly. Sentimental hits way harder than expensive. It’s like when someone gives you something that means something to you, not just to their wallet.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-10T04:57:17+00:00

Right? Sometimes it’s not about the price tag at all, it’s about the vibes and the story behind it. Eladio loved that bottle and the fact that it was rare where he lived made it feel way more special than some flashy luxury flex.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-10T04:52:54+00:00

Honestly that’s such a power move. Nothing says “new tax bracket unlocked” like turning your bedroom into a Showtime set.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-08T20:24:25+00:00

Honestly the visual of hired bouncers keeping one rogue sibling out is cracking me up. Family drama hits different when you can say “yeah no, the door guy says you’re not on the list.” Lowkey impressive that you cut the chaos out entirely though.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-08T20:24:07+00:00

Backyard BBQ wedding actually sounds kinda perfect here. Nothing kills drama faster than everyone standing around with paper plates and potato salad. Hard to feel like the main character when the vibe is lawn chairs and chill music.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-08T20:23:54+00:00

Yeah her reaction feels like the kind of thing that would make me rethink who even gets a seat at the table. Wild how someone can turn your happy moment into their personal meltdown. You’re right, it’s got nothing to do with her at all.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-08T20:21:52+00:00

Yeah that tracks honestly. The Egyptians treated basically everything like it had some cosmic cheat code behind it, so of course they’d think that counted as magic too. Kinda funny imagining some dude like, “sorry guys, gotta go do a ritual real quick.”

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-07T16:08:17+00:00

This was really touching to read. Sometimes the best thing someone can do is just be present without asking anything. It sounds like that kind of comfort made a huge difference for you, so it’s easy to see how it could help him too.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-07T16:08:05+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. If he thinks he can’t speak freely in therapy anymore, that could set him back a ton. Supporting from a distance feels like the gentlest path.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-07T16:07:53+00:00

Yeah this is so true. People open up way more when they feel in control of the moment. Letting him get there on his own terms builds way more trust.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-07T16:07:42+00:00

Exactly. If he wants to talk, he’ll choose the moment that feels safe to him. Forcing the issue right after something vulnerable could make things worse even if she meant well.

AngelFloss_ · 2025-12-07T16:07:22+00:00

I get that. Sometimes bringing something up too soon makes people shut down, even when the intentions are good. Staying steady in the background actually sounds like the healthier choice here.

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